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morning carole and everyone carole ive just read your message and you sound just like me with the loo thing i didnt realise its all part of panic ive been suffering for yrs frightend to travel to far just incase i need it and carnt get to one and have to run there hundreds of times before leaving the house just shows you what knowlage ive gained on here i thought it was just me .hope everyone have a good day ive not had time to read all the latest messages but will catch up later xxelaine xx

Hi everybody, just popped it to let you know I am still in the land of the living.

Am a bit down as pain levels are very high just now and the pain meds leave me feeling a bit off.

I am keeping an eye on all of you and reading your posts.

Love to all

Gail

Well everyone, thank you for your lovely thoughts for Allan today.

My son just phoned and said that dad is upset.
They will not be doing a pace maker for Allan. They want to try a new drug first.
He asked son to tell me so that I don't *interrogate* him when he gets home.... he is just too 'full' at the minute.

That poor man, it always looks as if the other man is more important than him!
Well, we will have to see if this works for him, and then if not.... I phone his doctor and see if my bossy attitude can work the miracle!

I am so upset for him, that I can't even think of anyone else's problems just now.
Please forgive me for being so selfish... I will be back to normal once I have seen him and given him a hug.
God alone knows what I would do without him, we have never been the type of couple who went out much.
Our lives are very wrapped around each other.... sorry.

Deanna XX

Yes t'is me back again and by the sounds of things I am not the only one on a merry-go-round and going round in every decreasing circles!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

Deanna, so sorry to hear the news of your hubbie's set back with a pace maker, I wonder what this new 'wonder' drug will be?, please give him my kind regards.xx

As for me, well.....the anaesthetist was a lovely gentleman who took me through every scenario in the book regarding an operation (it was so refreshing to get so much feedback for a change). Part of his actual assessment today was my walking, how far I could walk and how out of breathe I would be at the end of it. Quite suprisingly he took my arm, walked me out of his medical/side room and marched me up and down the hospital corridor. I ended up breathless and we returned to his room, listened to my chest and took my pulse rate..
Based on this assessment and history of lung damage I already had, he was NOT prepared to operate....BUT he did give me a lifeline, being...if I gave up smoking, use an inhaler everyday and walk at least a mile a day he would reconsider my case in 2 months time...that's if I am still here then!

So folks you now know as much as I do.
Have already phoned for a doc's appointment to book myself in for group theraphy re: stopping smoking..will certainly need some pills to calm me down, and as for walking a mile a day..well I haven't a clue..legs won't even carry me over the doorstep..

Anyway I thought I owed it to you to let you know how I go on, as for me I am still in a daze and need a sleep right now.

I would like to drop the subject of my present illness now and return to some form of normality folks, okay with you all xxxxxxxx

Just remember...do not believe what you read in storybooks...the lovely tales they tell of Granny sitting back in her armchair, puffing away, enjoying a tot or two and putting her feet up....there will be me, fagless, drinkless, legless! a worn out, knackered old nag bag !!!!!!!

On that cheery note I will love and leave you all...am still zany you seexxxxxx

JoycePxxxx

hello

(((((((hugs))))))))) for Gail

((((((((hugs)))))) for Deanna

((((((((hugs)))))))) for JoyceP

Gill

Ah boy are we having a good day..

Joyce P. I am so sorry about your news, why I wonder do they waste the money seeing us at all?
And thank you for your good wishes for Allan.
We are a little quieter now, but very disappointed.
He will review him too!!

Gill thank you for your good wishes too. Gail I know what that all day pain is like, is there nothing which takes it away for you?

And Elaine thank you too.
Will be back tomorrow and hopefully feeling a little mire positive.

Sleep well all of you.
God Bless,
Deanna XX

Hi thank you all for your messages. I managed to get to my appointment with no imodium! She wants to refer me to see a pshychiatrist (do I need to learn to spell that now as well).

More time off work, loss of pay, and work mates short staffed without me, I'll be popular,not!

Looks like we all have problems again. We'll ride the storm together shall we? xxx

Hi Carole,
Great to see that you got to see your DR. Thank you for your pm this morning Maria went to the hospital to get her nose repaired Dr. said that it was not broken she told him that she had a x-ray and the other Dr. said it was he said to wait for the swelling to die down and that he did not look at x-rays she was livid and came back to her own G.P. who also was livid and rang the hospital back up.
She has to wait for another 6 days and go back then. How is your mam and dad you must be flaked out with the running around. Take care of yourself and dont run yourself into the ground. Bless.
Deanna Sorry to hear that things did not work out for you yet.
Carolina I have an idea of how you and o.h. feel can't understand that if there is a birth cert there that they say that there was no birth as it is an offence to give false imformation is it not, like my husband somebody knows something and does not want to tell your husband.Just my opinion. LIZ how are you,?. You seemed very down last night by your post where the councellor was concerned and you were so looking forward to seeing her again and talking things over with her, I hope that you were not too disappointed and can get somewhere nearer in the future where you will not have so much of a struggle with the distance.Will you be able to see the same lady there? I hope so as you seemed to bond and I know that sometimes it is difficult with some of them. I stopped going as whatever I said all mine would say was "but what about you", I sometimes want to talk about other things. Hope that you are feeling better to-day.
Take care of yourself we miss you on here.Bless you Liz.
To everyone else for the moment nite nite and take care.
For now,
Betty.

Hi all, I am so tired, have already fallen asleep on th sofa earlier and then fell asleep trying to get on line, couldn't get into any sites for ages and then found I had dozed off lol Got to bed at 5am and got woken by noise outside at 10.30 am so got up and got ready for apptmt. The person I saw today is a clinical psychologist and she used to come to help with our ocd support group. She waffled on and was really not a lot of help. The only thing she offered was that when I am ready to sort anything at my house, to phone her and she will ''let me have one of her trainees who will keep in touch with me and check on how I am doing, i.e. amount of stuff sorted and dealt with'' Well whoopee flippin da! That is really useful eh?
Let's hope the counsellor can help me understand why I find it so difficult to let go of things and then maybe I can get somewhere! Met up with a woman I knew from way back at a relaxation class later, as we met again at Christmas and have been staying in touch by email and phone. And I think I have problems? This poor woman can't bear to stay at home alone, apparently she has total dependency syndrome or something, so she clings to her husband and her mum, she lost her dad and nan recently, but it wasn't that set her off, she has been like it for years. She comes into the city when he comes to work and finds things to do here. She poured it all out to me over a coffee and said she was surprised she had told me so much lol I must have one of those faces !!!
From things she told me she has so many problems, I felt for her so much and will stay in touch but hope she won't transfer her dependency feelings to me too. It won't help either of us.

O.h. got letter back from dvla today, I left it when I went out and called to find out the news. It was his form back, they had misread something he had written so were writing to query it! He phoned them and got it sorted so has to send the form in again now, nearly another week wasted, so no further forward really. It wasn't his fault - it was some idiot at the dvla misreading the questions and his answers.

So Joyce, we will all be here to help you through giving up the fags, has to be worth it and you will have more energy so you can start a Chinese laundry, sounds as if you have the experience lol

Betty, it is annoying if the counsellor you see isn't on the same wavelength, do try and find another one if you can. I had one once who halfway thru any sentence of mine, he would interrupt and say why do you do that? Well if I flaming knew, I wouldn't be here trying to get sorted idiot, would I? I wanted to say to him, he never gave me a chance to explain how I felt or the circumstances etc. I soon stopped visiting him, he gave me the creeps too. He was with our doctor's practice but I gather he didn't last too long, so obviously others didn't warm to him either. Shame about Maria's visit not going well but hope the swelling goes down quickly and she can be seen again and treated. If she has a lot of bruising, arnica works well and gets the bruise out and gone. You can get the cream in H and B and other places. Talking of H and B, haven't heard back from them so will phone them tomorrow, haven't had time before with all these apptmts.
Thank you for all your kind thoughts - I am ok, just need to catch up on some sleep which I will try to do today.
When I was in the city waiting to meet my friend, I saw my snooty sister in law, and looked the other way hoping she hadn't noticed me, but she had!
Heavens, I cannot stand her, I wanted to say go away, I don't want to talk to you but thought I had better be polite. She was full of herself as always. Luckily my friend came after a few mins so sil got the hint and left. Haven't seen or heard from her or bro for more than a year. With any luck it will be another year before I have to go through it again lol

Carol, well done for getting to the apptmt without the unowot! The more you can do that, the less you might panic so keep trying to manage without any meds for the problem, retrain your body.
To everyone else who I have missed replying to, I wish you well, just my poor little brain can't cope with more than one page to refer to at a time.

I am feeling ok and will be going back to counsellor next week hoping we get a little way on each time.
love and hugs,
LIzx

Hi Liz,

I dont go anymore I much frefer to be on here you all are like family to me and have helped me much more than you will ever know and continue to do, even though you all have your own worries and ill-health to deal with Thank you so much for reading my moans and helping me.
Maria is like a different person that she is not with ex. Back to her "normal" self.Thanks to Caroles advice such a shock about what happened.
You get a good nights sleep Liz dont want you missing off here.
Bless, Betty.

G'Day to everyone. Thank you for your PM's and thoughtfullness.

Most of the time I am in moderate pain from nerve root damage. The pills take the edge off but have side effect. When a flare up occurs, it is pretty bad. 80% of the time about 2/3 of my back is numb, when a flare up occurs it is like the skin has been stripped from my back and all the nerves are exposed. A change in seasons can set it off, a sudden change in temperature can do the same. I can usually work my way through it by staying positive and now know that it will go away.

The bits that pain all the time I have learnt to live with, and keeping my brain busy so I then don't focus on it.

My problem when a flare up happens it that I cannot focus on keeping my brain busy, then every thing else that hurts seems much worse that normal.

I am not looking for sympathy, have lived with this now for a number of years, and love my life, because I am alive.

If I do not post, I am looking in and feeling for all of you and reading all your posts.

Gail

Hi Carolina, sticking my nose in here, but where exactly is the lump on your foot?? Unusual for a ganglion to be on the foot, but I suppose not impossible. If the "lump" is between the base of 2 toes it's much more likely to be a "Morton's neuroma", a small lesion which grows on a nerve, and can be excruciatingly painful. Easily excised under local anaesthetic. If you go to podiatrychannel dot com, and enter mortons neuroma there is quite a good explanation. Hope this helps, just as well to be armed with as much info as possible.
Mary

Evening to all my friends, I too am on a merry-go-round here, complicated financial issues with my daughter and her ex's chronically late (and incomplete) support for the children. Physically I am holding my own, it has really helped to mega dose on the vitamin B6 and B12 for the last couple of weeks. I am still really tired, sleeping more than I ever have, trying to start working outside on the blank canvas which is my new back garden. I think it's progress that I have been sketching garden beds on graph paper!!
I'm feeling very sad and disappointed this week, as my little 6 yr old grandson Gareth, who has autism, is being discharged from the therapy which has got him trying to communicate verbally. Apparently he isn't making progress at the speed they consider normal range, so he's out. Today he asked to "see fish swimming the the vase" (a glass plant vase in the school office with a beta fish swimming round the plant roots). This is the child whom, 2 years ago had NO language, screamed and cried and made noises, but no attempt at speech, grabbed your arm to show you what he wanted. Now he is learning to communicate, can make his needs known, but because he's not measuring up to their so-called "normal" he's out and will have to swim against the tide in a regular school. mercifully the headmaster (principal) is a very understanding man who has taken an interest in Gareth from day one (he's been going there 1/2 days for 2 years). The teachers are not trained in the methods used in IBI (intensive behavioural intervention) therapy, so are flying by the seat of their pants also. The other children are fairly accepting of him, as are his sister Sarah's peers. Sarah is also autistic but much more severely affected than Gareth.
All very upsetting as I worry constantly about their future, one of their sisters at 11, already has said she will be responsible for them when she is an adult. What a load for a small child.
Sorry to ramble.
Liz you must feel very let down about the (lack of ) counselling, totally frustrated. I'm sure a system for clearing the house can be achieved with support from your friends on here, without useless so-called experts to whom you are a number not a person. I for one am happy to egg you on!!!!! I'll even send you some big bags!
Gail, Joyce, Carolina,Deanna, Caz and Caz, Elaine, Betty, AnnGG, Carol, Carole, Angela, and everyone else whose not mentioned, thank you all for being here, for your willingness to share, it really helps to put ones own probs in perspective. if I subject you to overload please reprimand me . . .
Hugs
Mary

Mary and all our other members, this is what this thread is for, SUPPORT.

And as you say helps to give our own problems perspective. It helps me so much even if I just read what every one has posted. It is hard to respond to all of you at the moment because of pills.

Mary, Joyce, Carolina, Deanna etc etc, I read your posts, every last word. Keep posting, we are reading.

Gail

Well good folks, Allan is out shopping with son.
he is a little better today, we both are.
Our pain has changed to ANGER.

We are going to give these pills a chance and then phone the cardiologist and ask for a phone back.
I am a much fiercer 'opponent' than my very polite gentle man of a husband.

I have read up to date , and none of you seem to have had a good time lately... do you think this is just a 'rough patch' we are all going through? ;-0)

Anyway, the sun is shinning here and it looks lovely.
I hope we all have a nice day.
thank you Gail, Gill, Joyce P, Elaine, Carole T, Betty, Liz, and Mary max.... and all the others who have wished Allan good luck.
So happy I joined this thread.

Deanna XX

Deanna, a 'polite gentle man' NEEDS a wife who will be his advocate, Allan has been blessed to have a wife like you!!!
Go get them girl, families need answers - not new worries.
Hugs
Mary

afternoon all. deanna im glad you both feeling a little better today i can understand your anger ,when they mess you about and put of planed things it just adds to the worry and stress ,carole hope you are ok hows things going ,gill,ann,gail,elieen,and every one i hope you all having a good day seems like there hasnt been many for everyone latley hope everyone has some good days soon ,think we all need them . well i was fine this morning doing some ironing then wam on it come pains in left arm dry mouth shaken ,for no apparent reason then of course mind starts to panic (no its no anx its somthing more ) so round and round again i go ,but apart from that ive not been to bad coping as best we can hugs to all xxelaine xx

sorry to hear all of you are having a bad day. I will say a pray for each and everyone of you. I am going to my anxiety group classes tonight. Been to hospice charity shop today to help.

MaziMary.... I liked that , it sounds so much better than .... *big mouth* ;-0)

Sharon we would welcome a prayer , thank you.

Gail, I would not worry too much about missing out names.... I miss out so many, but I don't mean to 'dismiss* anyone. I just forget the names ... at the time.

Had a more restful day than we had yesterday.... although now, we are waiting for our son to come home with his news! Let's hope it is better than Allan's was.
See you all later, and chin up everyone.
Deanna XX

Good afternoon to you all...
Ive not been on in a few days have been busy but thinking about you all....Im back to work now as from Monday, yes there i was Monday all on my own wondering why it was so quiet and where was everyone else..Only the caretaker around who was too busy for a chat so off i went and did what i had to do in the laundry room for 2 hours until caretaker came to find me and asked why i was there as it was a day off for everyone...lol.....Apart from that its been an uneventful few days although i am very proud to tell you all its 13 weeks today since my last cigarette...
Hope your all doing good and not letting the anxiety/panics/depression get on top of you...Love to all
Kerry