General Chat

Pat, Ever the voice of reason. Sending an e.mail now. Jean x.

How do you know she hasn't pm'd the people involved? How do you know she understands how this board works? I would hate to be the accused with you lot on the jury! I agree Linda hasn't put her point across very well but to call someone a liar when they've actually bothered to post a message is in my eyes rather judgemental. Debby

To start with I agree with Jacquie & BC. Why is it when something happens like this on the board people argue amongst themselves & accuse each other of all sorts? Sometimes people on this board have a lynch mob mentality makes for horrible reading. Some of the stuff here is very strong & I don’t think it’s called for. How can we assume all what Linda is saying is not true? Likewise we cannot assume it is true. Surely people have to give others the benefit of the doubt. As we have no proof either way it is unfair to assume what we want to, surely that is blind assumption? Why not show support for the people whose names were falsely used last night, support in a positive way, not a negative way, as I feel this thread has become Negative. I think arguing amongst each other & throwing allegations at people is the wrong way of doing things. Why not do something positive now instead. If all the people who are concerned about this, which I am one, write to Genes requesting that all members numbers appear with board names & these numbers cannot be changed no matter how often names be changed. Ask Genes for some security for members using this board. If enough people request this maybe Genes will respond. So at least if anyone tries to use members names their number cannot be changed & in this incidence we would have been able to tell the difference straight away. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and to express them but why not try to do so in a less negative way. Pat x

I have no sympathy for Linda. Personally speaking here, To put up this thread and to leave it like she has, was going to attract different opinions. Maybe Linda should have pmd her sincere apology to everyone concerned, and also that she would add a thread for everyone when she returns from work/shopping/wherever. That way she would be here to justify her actions. Instead she posts a thread blaming her son and his mate, and also blaming very ANGRY members, who were in their own right to pm her after seeing the upset that HER son had caused by maliciously IMPERSONATING another member. Which is against the message board guidelines. Elaine x

I'm very confused. you SEEM to have been disagreeing with me Ken ? Accusing me of abuse, is that not disagreeing with my opinion ? Paul 'xx' (by the way, did you all know I'm an astronaut ? Anyone got any evidence to the contrary ? no ? then it has to be true doesn't it)

If you don't disagree.....then you must agree ??? Fraid im getting a tad confused here

The point is that no matter how false it sounds none of us have evidence to the contrary and therefore cannot dismiss it out of hand as a fabrication. I am not disagreeing with Paul, Sparkle or any of the others, I just prefer to give the benefit of doubt to everyone first. Ken xx

thanks ken - I thought I had got it right .

All I can say is I hope I don't ever make any silly mistakes!!!

Which is why her 'story' sounds soooo false! x

but as far as I believe - they changed the name they were posting under to the same as someone elses? or did I read that wrong?

Linda C unfortunately it was not just her login the boys allegedly had. They would also have had access to her password in order to change her screen name. Ken xx

I fail to see where I have said I am reporting you Paul, I gave my opinion that if you had called me a liar I would treat it as abuse and report it. Ken xx

Just a thought (my friends not mine) is it possible that she is already suspended from the site for impersonating a member, it was reported... Maybe she can't add to this thread, only read it!??? x

I would be inclined to give the benefit of the doubt, but would not expect a repeat: Linda should have changed her password and I would expect her to make sure from now on that only she has access to this site. Ffrom a personal point of view I would be more than happy to see the Chat board go. This started out as a serious genealogical site and there is enough scope on the General board for slightly less serious and more personal topics. There are plenty of alternative chatroom sites.

Ken, I've expressed an opinion. I'm not going to justify it to you as it is simply that - an opinion. If you want to report me, fine. Paul

Linda C. Linda already admitted she gave her son her log in details. Then If she gave him the details, then she expected him to use the site including chat....and be able to post on there. 'I should have not let him and his friend have access to my login' Remember, he could use ALL of genes except post WITHOUT being logged in.

I cannot see a confliction in what I have said to any other regarding the topic of this thread. I just didn't see the sense in repeating what had already been said, but for the record here goes.... If Linda is to be believed, she has behaved naively allowing her son access to her password(s), and, she owes an apology to the parties hurt by this action (if not already given). Yes, her son should also apologise to those involved. I still insist that it is abusive to dismiss her thread as a lie. Ken xx

Elizabeth, I have to agree with you on this point. Maureen

Jacquie Ken said to paul that if pauls posts were directed to him he would contact abuse. Paul has NOT been abusive to anyone on here, so why contact abuse or at least threaten to ?