General Chat

In a mo

Well as the year draws to a close we have all had good, bad and better days in our lives. The same with our year here. Some things I have loved about being part of Gen Tops, others I have cringed at so first of all my loves. Having laughed and cried with so many on threads. Things like the Sahara trekkers and the money everyone helped raise. The support and caring to those who needed it, most recentley the candles. The many people I have met through GR who have become real life friends, and those still to meet. Private moments when a PM came from people who rarely post but maybe confided in me, or just wanted to say 'hey you made me laugh today' The help and support from people with my tree. The feeling of community The fair way Estelle from GR always treated me, and wrote to me as a person not a number

The things I hated. Me swearing at anyone no matter who or why, I was an embarrasment to myself. Me posting for a few days as Buffalo, through temper. But equally people who had a pop at Buffalo but backtracked when they discovered it was me, I was still me, still saying what i thought but it was ok for Lemon but not Buffalo. Me being weak enough to delete my account twice. The ability to overcome spats as we used to. The stupidity of discussing people on a site when it could have been done on MSN and saved so much agro. The inability of some to forgive and others to be truelly sorry and mean it. The seperation so that now it depends on who you are seen to talk to, as to which side you are on. The suspicion that new people face because of problems they know nothing abou. The WUM campaign caused as much grief as anything that went before. The people who love the aggro but jump back and say not my fault when it gets too hot. People posting on Success for so long, under assumed names just to cause trouble, how cowardly. The oldie newbie thing.....we pay our money noone is special we all have equal rights here. The petty reporting of one thread yet others escaped because of who posted. The hurting threads which dissapeared down a page cos the fighting threads took preference. The people who hardly posted then came on and said 'I am invisible' because people didn't trip over themselves to post The names who appeared knocking the board which had never been seen before, and equally those who only appear for a fight, or to post a contentious thread and leave it. The ones who said 'its Friday its fight night' almost seeming to provoke trouble while claiming to hate it, and people blamed the night people...the day people ....when as fact fights broke out at a whim night or day. People who started trouble then put up threads saying 'what nice people we are' People saying 'don't read if you don't like it'....er no....don't post if you don't want to but how hard was it not to read these threads? Last but not least the fact that I could have stayed safe and quiet but as usual my honest bit wont let me. The fact that by posting this I feel sorry for so many people from all sides, but may hurt some by this thread. But I had to do it, because it is how I felt, and thought. I can only hope that magic dust settles and Gr can go back to being a place where people could disagrea without it taking months to sort, where the good feeling out weighed the bad. I have 3 more days posts and this one is aswell out of the way, and supposing noone ever adds to a Lemon thread again thats ok too, but I have thought about all of this and it was how I saw it, with no personal grudge held by me for anyone. Good luck and God bless XX Most of all I hate the fact that it all went so far and the board and trust was damaged for everyone who posted or just read, and most of these people just felt intimidated and sad.

Do we bow out together then lems? new years eve? Agree with pretty much all that you have said Jess x

Yes Jess we do and this time sadly in some ways for me, I will never ever be back this time, my pride wont let me back track. but it is sad as I take away so many many happy memories. XXXXX

Well I for one am sad you feel like you do Lemon because by being on here you can contribute to making the board a better place but by not being on here you can have no effect at all. (That also goes for Jess if she too is adamant about not coming back). I can only say you will be missed. Ann Glos

Absolutely categorically jessbow bag will never post on her again after new years eve- The only reason i came back after all the to-do was principles, there was little point in getting re-instated and my membership extended by GR for the time equal to that of the suspension, as to not use the site. the bit that really REALLY galls me is the folks that think they have carte blanche on the gen board, contribute sweet FA to either records or tips. (oh and FA = fanny adams before anyone bothers to report me to abuse)

Well said Lems !! I'm afraid when ever I post on here now, I am usually ignored by both 'camps' as it were. I am like piggy in the middle & although I have made lots of (hopefully) life long friends through GR I probably won't renew either, unless I make a breakthrough on one of my brick walls. I have tracked down the missing part of my family (dad's cousins) but that's it now really. I am personally quite nauseated sometimes by what I read on here, some of it is so meaningless & daft I reckon a lot of 6 year olds talk more grown up !!! Maybe it's because life now has a very different meaning since I have suffered bereavements recently. There I've spat it out, I really don't have much else to say, & probably won't get spoken to again on here! :0((( Joan xxxxxxxxx

I'M SO SAD.............. LOOSING BOTH OF YOU I KNOW WHERE YOU ARE BUT GR ARE LOOSING SOMETHING SO PRESIOUS

David and Ann, yes I am sorry I reached this point too, so many people like you I will probably loose touch with. But to stay would bring more outbursts as I am very mild in real life but go up like fizy pop when I do, and it is not me to be like that, and on occasion I will always get rattled so hey ho.....why oh why David could it not have stayed the same.....I often agread with you but sometimes didn't I know you probably felt the same about me too. But we could get over it and appreciate each others good points, and I always always respected you. this new breed of trouble is over my head and I feel now I have little to offer, but I do wish you all well. Ann as you know I stood on my head to keep the peace, then occasionally erupted, now I just feel totally lost with the comings and the going the who is who and whys?? For me I have to move on, but part of my heart will always be with GR and its people, I could hardly type when i came on, was new to the PC, it was a whole wonderful new world to me....sadly it got tarnished. i never expected peace all the time, it can't happen, but this confusion of not knowing who I am here anymore wont leave me so no going back.

...and i remember you coming Lemon too, well, Lemon came after 'you' didnt she. as mary Hopkin said... Once upon a time there was a tavern Where we used to raise a glass or two Remember how we laughed away the hours And dreamed of all the great things we would do Those were the days my friend We thought they'd never end We'd sing and dance forever and a day We'd live the life we choose We'd fight and never lose For we were young and sure to have our way La la la la la la .... Then the busy years went rushing by us We lost our starry notions on the way If by chance I´d see you in the tavern We'd smile at one another and we'd say Those were the days my friend We thought they'd never end We'd sing and dance forever and a day We'd live the life we choose We'd fight and never lose La la la la la la ... Just tonight I stood before the tavern <<this is the verse ... Nothing seemed the way it used to be In the glass I saw a strange reflection Was that lonely woman really me Those were the days my friend We thought they'd never end We'd sing and dance forever and a day We'd live the life we choose We'd fight and never lose Those were the days, oh yes those were the days La la la la la la ........ Through the door there came familiar laughter I saw your face and heard you call my name Oh my friend we're older but no wiser For in our hearts the dreams are still the same

Joanie you know you will never be lost to me love, we have tyed a knot called friendship and it wont break. Gwen you loose nothing, I am still here just not for ever and few things are forever, Jess thanks......hey there was a me before Lemon lol....but thanks to Lemon I think an essence of citrus will remain with GR in memory, and I still have the dreams.....once a dreamer always a dreamer XX

OMG all I can say is I cant read anymore of what is been said ;; I am sat here with tears running down my face by what used to be on these boards and how mindless idiots spoilt the whole of my world at that time by there antics, Lemon Jess two brilliant people among many other some still here some not, who would help anyone and everyone in any way ;; Then you get the likes of Joan Kaz Sue Smith and quite few others (sorry if I haven't named you) who have stayed determined to try to get the boards back to how they were but they stood and stand no chance well I don't think they do ;; But I hope they do as there is all those innocent newbies who are like me and Lems once were God bless you and I do hope the nastiness stops just for yous alone ;; Hope some of this makes some sense sorry just blurted out Babs

Lemon nelly I will be sad you will not be on here as through the years we have become great friends something all the nastiness that appears on here will not be able to take away and it all start as a bit of fun you becoming my adopted daughter which I tully now think you are thanks for that talk to you soon XXXX love Howie

Howie the love and friendship you and your family have extended to me and mine is one of the most precious things for me to have come from our board, that is too strong now to ever change, I bless GR for things like that, for it was here you and I met, we laughed together and sometimes cried, but always always you have been so very very good to me. Loves ya Pops XX

OMG Babs dinny cry hen, you like Howie have been in my home my heart and shared your hospitality with me and mine. All because we met here and learned to like people who could never have been known to each other without GR. Hopefully the board will pick up and new life will be breathed upon it....new babies born like my Bubble and Tullulah....I did the labour with her Granny. So many good things have come from here.....and it will go on, but for me the time has come to move on XX

Lemon i am sat here with tears in my eyes now Loves xxxxPops CYLater xxxx

Oh David I do remember you from before I was a Lemon lol.....I took ages to remember who was Naked Dave and who wasn't....who was Dave who the policeman inferred was older than he was when he preferred to think he was distinguished lol....I remember it all....and even when i didn't agrea with you or you me, I never lost the feeling I was glad to have exchanged views with you...and I never ever stopped having respect for your views....quite honestly I just liked the sound of you X

Oy Howie and Babs behave or you will drown my thread ...fuff....lemons dont do soggy threads....tut XXX

It will be sad not to see you gracing the boards with your words of wisdom Lemon, old fruit, but you will be seen on the other side...... I will raise my glass to you, and even though there will no more zest of Lemon on Genes, there will always be a memory of a Lemon scent wafting around.......you can't keep the good ones down for long.......x sally