General Chat

It's only cliquey if you let it be i think, me i will perfectly happily trample in with an opinion wherever it isn't sought :))

Confidence? arrogance? lack of conformity? or am I just friendly like a big bouncy labrador puppy with a waggy tail ...everyone is a friend till you kick me :)

Chrissiex now I understand. However, if anyone just wants their friends to help then as you said earlier, why not just post on the Finding Ancestors board and invite your friends to do the lookups or put up a general help request for friends to send pm for information on a request for help. Not everyone likes fb and I can understand why.

In response to Rambling Roses original question, yes we could do with some new blood but the bigger question is how are they going to be attracted?

only if a persons level of comprehension is askew. My threads have never ever been cliquey......should I feel insulted that anyone could ever say such a hurtful thing? The casting of aspersions......the hurt felt by my little heart

Yay though I walk through the valley of wombles
I fear no wombling

(0h whoops....I was being so silly there for a moment....)

nah......go ahead....my blood is not red.....it is blue :-D :-D

Susan with numbers it's not cliquey by intention more because everyone has been talking to each other for so long that a familiarity has evolved in a natural way. It's more perception than fact.

I often wondered it people who was not very confident to just jump in and add to threads used the term cliquey .. :-D

Hi Sally are you the same who uses the FB page?

that' s it TootyFruity - perception even if not fact :-)

when you want to get newbies to join in it;s perception that does matter !

I said auf wiedersehn why am I still awake ??

Hayley I guess that is not me then :-D

but you didn' t laugh at my 'bust bunnies' joke ............ I want a little crying face .....

Judging by Chrissie's many threads and manner on the genealogy boards I would not have marked her down as being either muddled or shy ;-) and to be honest....perception of some of the threads would, in my opinion, have been rather intimidating for a newbie. but then that is just my perception......we all differ I suppose.

:-D

Sorry Chrissiex I didnt see it...the thread was moving fast as I am a little out of practice.. ;-)

I did get right into it when I signed up ... well, not when I signed up, I was one of those who just poked around in trees for some time ... :-)

and like I said in the other thread ( I think it was the other thread ! ) , a little serious for my age, yes, I was an anorak at school and I still love research, I will promise to try to 'lighten up' but only if I am allowed to 'chat' in the help threads ! :-D

you can chat wherever you like....as long as we can talk genealogy wherever we like :-D :-D :-D

I have never had a problem adding to the chat, especially if the subject gets 'my gander up' and that is probably the reason I don't join in with the banter. Its easy to blame others and say they are cliquey but I wonder if my reluctance to join in with the banter is me being me rather than others excluding me.

I do laugh at the banter especially the ones where you all go off on a trek 'just getting my wellies out of the cupboard' and very clever too given that its not done face to face but I can't see me joining in - well maybe.

What I am trying to say is I don't feel excluded rather maybe at present I am not joining in but why should I spoil your fun.

Vera

That's what I say Vera......this lot are so quick sometimes that it is all I can do to add a quick Lol now and then.....I luv em....but don't tell them that though.

I also think that if newbies come on here......they are the most welcoming lot you could ever find :-)

Must get in quick I'll try out lol :-D Keep them coming

Vera

The trick is not to be eating or drinking whilst reading........unless of course you can afford a new keyboard :-D

I have one of those Puffer things you puff it onto the keyboard and yesterday's lunch comes up. It comes in a tin you with a straw like thing attached.

Vera

I lurked for months before I posted. This was the first online forum I joined and contributed to. It "looked" cliquey then but I was welcomed when I finally did start posting but by then I'd worked out which people I thought I'd get along with.

Someone once said on here that a forum is like a pub. Everyone is welcome but when you go into one you tend to hang out with your friends. I've made some very good friends via GR and see them away from the forum, usually in real pubs.

I don't visit or post here as much as I used to but there are other forums and other distractions *cough* facebook *cough*. To say nothing of a busy work and home life at the moment.

As far as I can see new people are usually welcomed unless they jump in aggressively.

Work for me today and new levels on Gardens of Time but I expect I'll pop in later.

Gwynne

Ha another Gardens of Time addict ;-)

OK, here it is. and certainly no offence intended if anyone should take it the wrong way.

I've seen the word 'excluded' in here a few times now, (this thread I mean). My answer to this is, go ahead and post, see what replies you get, THEN say you're excluded. It won't happen :-D You're only excluded if you don't post and exclude yourself.

The message boards are open to all, anyone can post on them, and like Rose the Rambling labrador, you can wade in with opinions or comments on any thread you like, so just go for it.

Was with any other internet forum, arguments may get a bit heated at times, but as said, it happens anywhere and everywhere, and believe me, some forums are far worse than anything ever seen on here.

All newbies are welcome, so just get in and post. We are a friendly community here.

I welcomed a newbie last week seeking help.
We were doing fine until someone 'pounced' on him for using the wrong board and he became so confused with more advice I'm now left wondering if he ever came back.

Last comment on the thread I was given a rude reminder (by she who must be nameless) that I was not appointed to help a member break the rules!! :-S

I didn't give a reply as I didn't want to up my blood pressure tabs. nuff said....

Have a good weekend everyone :-D
Mau xx

and said person who shall remain nameless WAS appointed I suppose.
It's that kind of pouncing on innocents that puts people off, and I hope they did come back and found your help useful Mau.