General Chat

Ah.....but wouldn't that then become a clique?

There have been a few 'introductions' threads in times gone by, though they have got very big and eventually self-combusted or something, either way they disappeared, but they were very successful. We should have another one, it might help ease some of the newbies in, at least give them somewhere to make that first post.

Chrissie I usually put queries on research boards, as i did when i started before ever finding the general/chat board...but because they have become friends i know there are people on this board that may be a better help to me in certain circumstances, because they may have local knowledge for example, or I happen to know they have access to a particular set of records, or experience in a particular area of genealogy.

It's like most 'problems' one has, perhaps the person you feel most comfortable asking in the first instance is not the 'expert' but ones 'friend?

I'm of the opinion that rigid rules about where or where not to post are more intimidating to a newbie than anything else.

That's why I would prefer a more laid back approach to all boards.

It's supposed to be a fun past time after all...not an after school detention :-D

that's what I mean ... maybe the 'chat' board at the Genes Reunited site isn't really the place for people to talk _only_ with their friends who know them well ... that is what Facebook is for :-)

no I disagree Chrissie.

I pay subs to *chat* on here...so I consider that I can chat to friends or newbies alike...you pays your money you take your choices.

Facebook doesn't come into it.

If you have a look back at threads where people have introduced themselves as newbies you'll see just how welcoming this board can be !!! x

I don't want to restrict my chat to FB because I have very few friends on there for privacy control.

I see a newbie ( only 16 posts ! ) has replied in her thread where I was getting tangled up in old baptism records and joking with the other 'helper' who was straightening me out .......... so I must be off !

I think most people on Chat Chrissie, talk to anyone who talks to them lol, some get on as passing acquaintances, some as people who are on the same wavelength when it comes to humour, or debates, some who have met once or twice, and some who have known each other years on and off the boards.

Whilst it's always nice to be with a group of friends you feel comfortable with, it's also nice to have new people joining in to put fresh ideas, or their own slant on things :-)

*nods head in agreement with our Rose*

I dont know about new blood a pulse would do...** Looks @ SUe and Uggers ** <3 <3 <3

You cheeky madam and don't call me Suepig (I have just been checking old thread..lol)

*climbs on commode*

Chrissie has dashed off for now but I'm sure she'll be back.

Referring back to her comment re. facebook. Frankly facebook has nothing to do with it, and half the people on my list over there are people who I first discovered here (before facebook lol), anyway.

But really, think about it, could you expect people who know each other, or have chatted together for a long time, not to chat to each other on general chat in case someone might think it's cliquey?

If this were a pub, and a stranger walked in, would the chat stop, would everyone go rushing up to greet the stranger, or would there be just a cursory glance and carry on the chatter, and if said stranger says 'good evening' give a friendly and curteous reply?

In other words, newbies...come in and say hello. nobody knows you're there until you speak. :-D

Lets face it,,,,,,it only looks cliquey because these days all that seems to be left still is those handful that have been around for a few years and aged with the site.... :-) :-) :-) :-D

and...lots of people don't LIKE facebook lol, I am on there but don't really 'use' it, and when someone does start to chat to me there I usually miss them 'flashing' until they have 'got bored and gone home' lol.

well the newbie has a mystery I do have to turn my attention to , a professional genealogist coudln' t solve it :-)

I think you are missing what I am saying about Facebook .......... some people are saying in the other thread that they want help for their family history questions _only_ from their friends ......... and I don' t think that is what the Genes Reunited site is for whether it is the 'chat' board or the 'help' boards or what have you ......... that is why I said that if people want family history help only from their friends maybe Facebook is the place to go ;-)

I don't ever ONLY want genealogy help from friends...BUT the 'experts' on finding ancestors ( including me) still haven't found my long lost gt auntie...so I'm prepared to try anyone ;-)

I' m sorry I got myself very confused ......... it was what supercrutch said in this thread .........


'Chrissie, I am at a stage in my research where I generally need someone to trawl newspapers (Susan with #s) does that for me as she has full editorial rights to my main tree. Other members have the most personal information that helps them to help me and that I wouldn't want posted on a public site.'

but the 'chat' board is a public site .......... so I don' t understand ....... :-S :-)

No I don't just want help from my friends I want help from those that know me and have some knowledge of the complications in my tree. That includes quite a few GR members who have helped in the past but they are not 'friends'.

I would assume if they saw I was posting for help on Gen, they would jump in and offer to help then I'd send them the query.

Simples.

I don't think you have quoted that right Chrisie, If you are speaking of my thread, that is.

I don't remember anyone saying they only want to do research with their friends. Please don't misquote....tis not fair.

if anyone would like to read the correct version, please see my thread.

And as for face book.

what has that got to do with anything?...