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Nice one Jules, bet he is shocked to the core to see you coping and better than he is by the sounds of things.

You keep fighting for your rights and you will come out on top.

love
Lizxx

See Jules you can do it. Take Chris's advice and take care of yourself too.
Love Mary xx

It gave me great pleasure seeing him suffering yesterday..that makes me sound horrible but like they say what goes around comes around..He has bought it on himself as he was the one that left me...
He put me through hell but that has made me stronger....I am now the person I was before I met him and it feels real good!!!
Just had a phone call from my sister she said Pat txt her last night and said that he wanted to sort things out between ourselves (Money etc) and not involve a solicitor....He also said to her that I looked really good and that I had a nice brown colour (Been sunbathing)....How does he expect to get divorced without a solicitor...Whats wrong with the man!!

I'm off shopping now to get some nice food for when my sister arrives tonight...

Love Jules x :D

I expect he means to sort out the financial side - in other words he thinks he can bully you and get a better deal for himself. Go for it girl, get all the law says you are entitled to and a bit extra if you can!!

Jules Thank you Thank you ........I,ve had a terrible 24 hours but you made me laught and so Thank you .....

I can so see him flapping around swearing and doing "his nut" in the shop while you stand there and watch ...what a silly billy!!

Good for you making yourself look good ...not that you dont but you looked so good you felt good to ..well done makes all your other problems seem ..........not so bad!

What goes round comes round let him "enjoy" hahhaha his trip

Jules
what great news to read that you had the courage to stand in a shop and whilst maintaining your dignity you calmly dealt with a very difficult situation. You have had a lot of advice from your cyber friends and we will keep encouraging you all the way.
I hope you do not mind the list I am now going to give you.

1. without mentioning any names etc I asked my Army son who is an senior officer what would a woman do in similar cercumstances as your self.
He suggested the following much of which has already been given to you.
1. Buy a note book for just this situation and each write everything you have mentioned on here. do this as soon as possible
1.Date OH told me he was leaving me etc.
2. Date of any comments messages and clearly write what happened. Try to remain clear in your mind so it is acurate.
3. Write who you spoke to each department and the info they gave you. for exampel who told you that the Army could not help you and why.
4. Who told you you had to leave your home and would not or could not give you advice.
5. What date you spoke to the housing departemnt and who you spoke to.
6. Date and time of recent meeting in puplic and what was said. (you may also ask the manager of the shop if they keep the records on camera for that day , your husband my be on there and t you should be able to use this as evidence.

You are coping very well, and if you need any more support just PM me.

Take Care and concentrate on the positive in your life.

Bridget

13.31 hrs Spain

Jules
what great news to read that you had the courage to stand in a shop and whilst maintaining your dignity you calmly dealt with a very difficult situation. You have had a lot of advice from your cyber friends and we will keep encouraging you all the way.
I hope you do not mind the list I am now going to give you.

1. without mentioning any names etc I asked my Army son who is an senior officer what would a woman do in similar cercumstances as your self.
He suggested the following much of which has already been given to you.
1. Buy a note book for just this situation and each write everything you have mentioned on here. do this as soon as possible
1.Date OH told me he was leaving me etc.
2. Date of any comments messages and clearly write what happened. Try to remain clear in your mind so it is acurate.
3. Write who you spoke to each department and the info they gave you. for exampel who told you that the Army could not help you and why.
4. Who told you you had to leave your home and would not or could not give you advice.
5. What date you spoke to the housing departemnt and who you spoke to.
6. Date and time of recent meeting in puplic and what was said. (you may also ask the manager of the shop if they keep the records on camera for that day , your husband my be on there and t you should be able to use this as evidence

You are coping very well, and if you need any more support just PM me.

Take Care and concentrate on the positive in your life.

Bridget

13.31 hrs Spain

Don,t forget the "Attachment to earnings" when he leaves the Army and goes travelling he could be hard to find .Pension will no doubt be paid into his Bank Account,get that sorted and it should be paid to you Direct from there,also you should be entitled to a percentage of his pension. Anyway,As everyone says Do It and Do It Now. take care.**M**.

I'm having a really nice time with my sister...Went girlie shopping yesterday...We are going out for a chinese meal this evening...She will be going home tomorrow morning... :S

Jules x