General Chat

Good to see that your sister will be there for you Jules.

So hard for you, but keep positive that things WILL turn out OK for you and Buddy.

Gwyn x

Morning Jules......so sorry to hear the latest blow for you. l wish l could help you.

Take care and keep positive.

love jude xx

I am so sad that your terrible circumstances have not yet been resolved. If I lived near you I would say stay with me for a while. I am truly amazed at the Army approach or should that be lack of help and approach.
May I suggest that you write to them, afterall you are still an Army wife and copy the letter to your local newspaper, your local council, the MP for your area, and anyone else you can think of.

I will search on the ineternet for you to see if there is anything else you can do.

Have you been to the Citizens Advice Office, be strong, do not give in,

Please can you send me a message so I know which area you live in, I used to be very involved in local governments some years ago.

Enjoy your sisters company


Spain 10.14 hrs

Thinking of you Jules, especially as today is Bidding Day.

You say that your husband has told the army about the situation. Have you informed them too.
You don't know what kind of a spin your husband may have put on it. I reckon it is well worth letting them know the facts from your point of view.
Also a remimder of your difficulties would not go amiss. Sometimes shouting loudly works!

As Spanish Eyes has said, send copy of letter to local newspaper, M.P. etc. And make sure that the army know that you have done so.

Citizens Advice is also a good idea, they can be very helpful. If they can't help you, they may know a man who can. You really need an advocate who knows the ropes.


Good luck,
Tess

Plus see if you can get an "Attatchment to Earings" sorted out to enable you to pay expenses etc.**M**.

Hi Jules,
just looking in to see if theres any news. Keeping everything crossed for you and Buddy.

Cath xx

Jules, please keep popping in when you can so we know you are ok

Lizxx

Hi Jules
Glad you have one less thing to worry about.

If you had needed the drops they are no problem. My OH has been using them for about 18 years and putting the drops in is no hassle - just a couple of seconds per eye as part of the morning clean-routine. That is a lot less than applying mascara.

I hope you get sorted soon.

Jules, as Bridget (Spanish Eyes) says, it may well be woth your while to copy any letters to the local paaper, or in fact write to them of your circumstances. I am sure people don't realise how the army treats its dependants in this situation.

You will never guess who i bumped into in WH Smiths?? My so called husband...I asked him how he was and he said not to good...He looked awful, he had bloodshot eyes was unshaven and scruffy....and still fat!!
He said he is going to get a camper van when he leaves army in Oct and travel around the UK and Europe...
He asked for my new mobile number and I said I wasn't going to let him have it...He then asked if he could come and collect his things, I said when I move out he could...(I have all the keys as the army housing gave them to me)..I asked him about the money for the I pad that he got in my name online at christmas, he said he will pay it but needs my mobile number to arrange it in Oct...I told him that he would have to go through my solicitor...He then went mad in front of people, he said F-ing Bo****ks, you can F-ing stuff your solicitor, you are being nasty and unreasonable, then he stormed off!!!

I was really proud of myself for standing up to him, I was cool, calm and collected and didn't swear or raise my voice....And I had made an effort this morning and looked pretty good, even if I say so myself...

He is probably plotting his revenge right now but you know what I don't really care, there is nothing he can do to me that he hasn't already..He can have the gas, elec, phone etc cut off but I can pay them myself if I have to!! I

Sorry it's so long...

Love Julesxx :D

Jules
See. You can be so strong. Well done for not losing your cool.

This will all come right one day, then you can look forward to some great times with Buddy.

Thinking of you.

Gwyn x

Jules , well done , see you have come out the better person,
l wish you all the happiness you deserve for the future............keep looking good , it will make you feel better :D ;-)

I expect you already have tried this - but have you tried SAAFA? You are still an army wife. You are definitely better off without him. Proud of you that you kept your dignity. Inform your solicitor of this event with full details, date, time and place and keep a copy

Please do what Chris suggestes Jules.

Thanks , I haven't got a solicitor yet..I was waiting until I move as I don't know where I will be..I have kept all the txts hes sent me, some are nasty....I nearly felt sorry for him but couldnt bring myself too!!

Julesx :D

Jules - good to keep the texts, keep everything. Write down in detail all that has happened - dates, places/times e.g Christmas Day - then when you find a solicitor you will have everything you need. Do this now whilst you have access to your PC and print off 2 copies at least.

No use thinking you will remember everything when you visit solicitor you won't.

If you have have to attend Dr as a result of this - print it.

If you have not, as yet, seen your MP and also City Councillor - do it NOW.

Later could be too late. Don't know who they are - google or ring nearest town/city hall.

It will be difficult for your OH to dispute if it is in black and white. Expect him to fight dirty - so fight back - be like the Scouts - be prepared. Do not be like several friends of mine who moan after divorce that they should have done this, done that - too late then.

I think he thinks by traveling around and not having an address he wont be able to give me any money as people wont know where he is..He normally uses his dads address for most things...Besides the army will have contact addresses when he leaves for his pension!!

Jules x

Good on you girl :D Showed him you are dignified.
Definitely better off without a bully like that.
Still keeping fingers crossed for you and Buddy.

Cath xx

Hello Jules......good on yeh girl:o)) But do as Chris says......its very important:o))

Take care
love jude xx

Well done Jules. You've found the strength to face up to him once, and you can keep doing it. He was probably shocked that you had the nerve to answer him in the way you did. Always remember to act the lady, and it will get to him.
Proud of you girl!!!
xx