General Chat

Pleased that Joyce is feeling a bit more settled and is getting some help at last.

Haven't had a chance to talk to Joyce as o.h. about so much but will try today later on.
Glad she liked the flowers and they will have cheered her as will the news of the scooter and wheelchair. Shame it's coming up to winter so she won't be able to try the scooter out so easily but she can get in a bit of practice ready for spring, unless we get some brighter warmer weather soon for that Indian Summer lol

Caz, hope you are coping ok with the workmen, will try and call you next week when o.h. is on nights so will leave the house around 5.30pm yippee!

Lizxx

Great news at last for Joyce, the mind boggles at the thought of her on her scooter, hope she has a hooter on it.... so glad she loved the flowers many thanks to Carole in Lincs for getting them for her.

Love Jean xx

Thanks Carole in Lincs for organising th flowers for Joyce. They must have shown her that she is well thought of by her many friends on Genes.

Good to hear too that she will be able to get out and about more using her new wheelchair. Hope her scooter arrives soon, so she can go futher afield without having to power the thing herself.

Thinking of you Joyce and familky,
Tess

Nudging this up for Dutch so she will see it when she gets home, she didn't have computer on while messages were being sent to her, it will be nice for her to read them tomorrow.

Caz

Caz, hope you're feeling a little bit better now.

Hope Joyce gets home safely. It will be nice to hear from her again.

Love, Sallie.xx

Nudging for Joyce

And a further nudge from me Joyce - glad to hear you will be scooting around again. Do take care in that cold weather...

lots of love Norma ((xx))

Thanks for keeping it nudged ladies, she was too ill before to use computer so she has a lot to read, keep her busy wont it, lol.
She called me after tea to say the plane 'was broke' so I have no idea what time she got home, it should have been 9-ish.

caz xx

I hope that the plane is soon sorted, so that Joyce can get home in the warm.

Take care Joyce,
Thank you ladies for keeping us all updated,

Tess

Joyce, hope you are feeling better and that all is well with Jan and his family.

Take care! Speak to you soon.

Love, Sallie.xxx

What is it with planes these days - they are continually having some malfunction - I am starting to wonder about the maintenance and the checks made thereafter.

I will place a wish in your wishing well that Jan made (in my thoughts) for you Joyce and wish you a very good recovery..... wondering if you might need skates on your wheelchair if this winter is going to be like the last one.

Lots of love and hugs Norma

GoodMorning All ,First of all would like to thank my pal Caz as althought shes not well has been my rock at this time of my need ,and thank you all for your kind messages ,cards pm emails and flowers had lady come before with wheel chair which you can take wheels off and pedals,and scooter mobile had ago round the block and its great have to wait now for 3.4 weeks for it ,but now i need you my friends on this because its stressing me out ,Jan has said to let it go but i cant when my daughter was creamated it was down to her son to pick her ashes up ,but he did,nt so his sisters ask if they could pick them up but were told no only your brother can,but my youngest son he went for them and gave them to my other son,now my g,children want there motheres ashes put on there sisters grave who is buried with my parents,but my ex-husband has said shes going in with his brother which i dont think is right he has never botherd with any of his g,children and my g,daughters are so upset how do they get the ashes back as legal they are my daughters next to kin,does anyone have advice or thoughts on this ,i have tried ringing advice centres but cant get thru ,i want this sorted out before the ashes leave Sheffield for Liverpool,then i can tell my g,daughters what they need to do,and once again thank you all so much for your surport
Dutchxx

nudging this for you Joyce, I said everything this morning so won't comment now.

Caz xx

Joyce, I would have thought that your daughter's children are her next of kin, and that they should be the ones to decide what they want to do with their mother's ashes. Is there any way that they can get their mother's ashes back off your son? At the end of the day it isn't anything to do with your son.

I can understand Jan telling you to let it go, as he doesn't want you to get upset and make yoursef ill---but I also know where you are coming from, Joyce.


Pleased you enjoyed your ride in your wheelchair, it will be great when you get it back in a few weeks time, there'll be no holding you then.lolol!! Seriously though, it will be great for you to get out and about to visit people so that you have a bit of company while Jan's in work.


Caz, how are you feeling today? I hope that you are starting to feel a little bit better than you've been over the last few weeks. I'm thinking about you!

Love, Sallie.xxx

It does seem strange Joyce that they said her daughters were not able to collect the ashes but then her brother, your son was. Is there any chance he misrepresented himself as the son rather than the brother? Unfortunately you are up against the clock here as the ashes are already in the wrong hands and there is nothing you can do from Holland to stop them.

Although it seems hard, and I do understand how you feel, Jan is right, you don't need to be making yourself ill over this. Your daughter is at peace, take the time you need to mourn her, don't worry about the ashes, she would not want you to.


((((((hugs))))))

Perhaps your grandaughters could contact Citizens Advice or even a solicitor who will give a 30minute advice session.
Could someone in the family contact the cemetery where the aunt in Liverpool is buried requesting a delay if burial of the ashes is requested.?

This needs to be done within England really as it is an added stress for you at an already very difficult time.

Gwyn

The rules here are quite tight .....as I found out about a year ago

So I,m sorry to say I think the bloke who picked them up gave a wrong name coz they wouldnt have just given them away they are not allowed

Ring a solicitor and see what can be done

Good Morning Ladys,have rung the undertakers and told them what has happen and they said if my g,son could,nt pick them up then the ashes should have come back to them ,anyway she is going to find out and ring me back,we had some more bad news last night Jans mum rang his cousins wife is dying of cancer she has just given up ,cant go the toliet or anything has been ill for about 18mths chemo has,nt worked ,so another blow for the family were will it all end thoughts and prayers needed for Mick his wife Sian and family just hope shes not in too much pain,only in her early 50,s
Dutch

So sorry to hear about Jans cousins wife Joyce, will be thinking about her and sending positive thoughts, I too hope she isn't in too much pain.
Look forward to our Saturday natter tomorrow.

Caz xx