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can i add juicey bits if they isnt any tho hehe

Aww Joy what a treasure. You should read them, and get an insight into their lives and the people they were back then.

My mum showed me some letters from my Dads mum in the run-up to their marriage. About 15 of them. I never knew her, she died shortly after they married. I could have cried to have got just a little peak into her personality from those letters, then laughed,because I can hear myself saying the same things about my own son!

You read them hun, and enjoy. And preserve them in a safe place in acid free folders too. You lucky lucky thing.

Have you decided yet ....??

i think you should read them and not worry about what you might find ....

I really dont know how you have not read them already ....I would have read them ....Coz I couldnt have put them in the bin without knowing what they say ...

Good Luck

Just read the damn things, or you will always be wondering whats in em LOL

In my garage, I have all my uncle's personal papers and loads of his books.

My dad, his brother, doesn't want me to go through the stuff, so at the moment, I am respecting that.

But the stuff half fills my garage.... and I am afraid to say to my dad come and fetch them, in case he gets rid (he did when he cleared my nan's house after she died).

I am hoping that in amongst all of that stuff, I will come across letters or something from my nan.

Joy, I do understand where you are coming from.... but what a wonderful gift you have there.

It is bound to be emotional... but it will so bring them to life for you.

Love

Daff xxx

TURN THEM INTO A BOOK

MAYBE THATS WHY ITS HERE

A TRUE INSITE IN KEEPING LOVE

GOING DURING A WAR

the dragons at mien bt im sure she wil get back to you's wen she walks the long way home llol

My first thought was to read them BUT then I dug deeper and my thoughts now that these were private thoughts between the two and really meant for their eyes only.
I have two letters my hubby sent me in hospital in 1958 when our daughter was born.Due to his shift patterns he couldn't visit some evenings so my mum and then my dad visited me . at that time was only one visitor allowed, OH gave the letters to mum & dad to deliver to me and those letters are so precious cos he isnt a romantic so they were unexpected. I was overcome with love for him when I read them ,and altho there is NOTHING untoward in them ,they are mine & his & I wouldn't want anyone else ,including our daughter, to read them.

So I would say keep them but dont read.

Shirley

Joy you are wonderful.
How did you keep them so long and not read them??
you read them love and enjoy all the love your mum and dad had for eachother.
Just keep in mind that they were young and in love at the time.. and perhaps not yet your mum and dad. ;-0)
Deanna X

Shirley if your daughter read the letter she would know how much love you had for each other as you say he isnt a romantic so they were unexpected. maybe thats how your daughter sees her dad so this would be a refreshing eye opener

JOY please read them

Joy, please read them, or at least let someone read them for you. Mum had a tin of love letters from my dad in a toffee tin in her wardrobe for years. Sadly she got rid of them, probably when they moved house. I used to peep at them when I was young, but never dared to read them. How I wish now that I had done.

Wendy
You could well be right, she would probably read them and say AHHHH i didn't know my dad had it in him .BUT I still want to keep these as OURS.#
Maybe ,when we are long gone she may find some comfort in them tho and find her another side to her parents.#
I guess we cant imagine our parents having a loving personal life

Oh yeah only let them read things when we've gone
can you imagine the mickey taking we would go through if they read them now

i tel ya if she dont read them one day i will haha

GUESS ITS A TRIP TO

THE LOFT THIS WEEKEND

I MIGHT EVEN GET OUT HER WEDDING DRESS

AND VEIL AT THE SAME TIME

Well done Joy
keep us informed if they are nice letters (or not)
Will you wear the wedding dress

After my Mum died 11 years ago I was sorting out her papers before the funeral. I found all the letters that my Dad (who had died 10 years previously) had ever written to her. I didn't read any of them. Instead I put them in her coffin with her, thinking that they were her letters and if she'd wanted me to read them she would have shown them to me.

Sometimes I do regret not reading them, but I did what I thought was best at the time. I hadn't started researching my tree back then so I didn't think about whether there was family history stuff in them.

Sue
xx

Oh Joy you lucky,lucky thing!! I would just love to have love letters my parents had written to each other during the war.
What a legacy for the family!! and mam's wedding dress too?

Please read them,...start slowly and after one or two I bet you're 'hooked' :O)

Mau xx

I think if I were you I'd read them.

If you then find they contain information that you wouldn't want passed on any further burn them.

When my Mum was dying I found her going through some old papers. She destroyed some saying they were personal and I think they may have been old love letters between her and a boyfriend who died before she met my Dad or maybe letters between my parents (though Dad has never been a great letter writer!).
She obviously didn't want them to fall into the wrong hands and that was the right decision.

Sue

I've got a diary that belonged to my OH's mum.......I've never read it and he has no desire to so it's up in the loft. Not my place to read it really as it's his family and his choice.

If it were down to me and it was my family,and enough time had elapsed........I think I would maybe read one or two letters and see how I felt after that xx