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That if your face doesn't fit on GR you get ignored.

I have been a member since day 3 - 8th November 2002 and in all that time there have been very few of my threads that have had responses. This includes the night we got involved in a terrorist incident in Birmingham to which I received no response yet someone who heard about it on the radio had dozens of replies.

During illnessess and family traumas there have been 2 people who have always replied - one of whom no longer is a member unfortunately (hello Jude). Yet when others post something similar they get a huge response.

My biggest response to a thread? When I wrote about support for someone else.

Yesterday I PM'd a few people about something on the boards that people were offering support for. As I had not been around I asked for details so I knew whether to support or not. Although I know that most have been on the site today, I have had no replies.

So thanks everyone - you really know how to make someone feel welcome.

i find it like that some days,
butthen others you start a thread and others can respond to it
yet same night you can say stuff and it gets nowt
its not just you dotn feel like that,
it happens to us all

It all seems very 'clique' here. I'm looking for some advise on how the site works. Where do I ask? All the threads here are quite personal. I did ask but have had no replies. Thanks, Emma.

Oh Jacky sorry to hear you are having a rough time - I am a newish member and don't seem to have any problems but I don't often visit chat or general - i'm still on tips as still well into my research at the mo!! I do hope things get better for you!!
Max

I'm never certain who is in a clique or not.

Sometimes threads disappear off the first few pages very quickly if a lot of people are online. That way new people coming on can easily miss threads.

I wouldn't take it personally......I've killed off dozens of threads without meaning to!

Sue
x

Jacky
I always find it nicer on the boards in the week rather than the weekends. Ive been on here about 5 years but I dont let it get to me anymore.....life is too short

Emma
The tips board is really good for advise and theres a pinned thread for newbies

I DONT IGNORE BUT DO ADMIT TO FORGETTING
SO SORRY IF EVER
AND ELLO TO INFRONT

Jacky, I'm sorry you feel like this, I often have posts that don't get answers, I just delete them. I'm sure it's not deliberate. The situation yesterday has been very difficult, you will notice there are members of GR leaving at an alarming rate. Some people are just not sure who they can trust, it's not personal to you.

Dee x

I'm sure you're not being ignored Jackie. Some people just read threads, but don't actually reply to them

Emma, just ask away, someone is usually about to reply to you. You're probably better asking earlier on in the day though, it's a bit quieter this time of night.

jacky dont take it personal i dont get many replies if i post not that i do very often anyway so keep your chin up xx

I think thats half the trouble Jacky, we don't actually see anyones face.I would much rather speak to a face, but also like to think I don't ignore anyone.

Anyway I am off to bed now.

Nite nite and don't worry about it too much.

Heather xx

I DONT IGNORE BUT DO ADMIT TO FORGETTING
SO SORRY IF EVER
AND ELLO TO INFRONT

Hi Jacky - I for one would never ever deliberately ignore anyone - honestly I wouldn't - I just love chatting to people

Why not have a look at Julie Ann's thread
"Is it me or does anybody else" - we have had such a laugh on there this evening, everyone has been in stitches

Hi Linda - with regards to your cough, try the remedy that is absolutely always promoted on here - sounds daft but apparently works a treat - rub Vick on the soles of your feet and put socks on before you go to bed - guaranteed to stop a cough.

By the way, I ain't in any clique and never ever will be - I chat to anyone and everyone and have met a lovely new friend on here this evening - Frances in Norwich and hopefully we will meet some time when she comes down the M4 to Wales - I'm in Cardiff

Love to all, Ann XX

Hi Jacky,
We've spoken before a long time ago. I sometimes post threads and feel that I don't get the same response that other threads posted by other people get.
So maybe our faces don't fit, but it doesn't stop me. If a thread has something interesting that takes my eye then I will reply.
I don't know what's been going on over the last few days and to be honest I don't wish to know. But it seems that some people are stirring up trouble. But isn't that life. If we all did the same thing then the world would be a boring mundane place to live.

anyway how are you keeping? You were amongst some of the 1st people that spoke to me when I joined in 2004.

I read quite a few posts but don't normally reply, I do think there are some cliques on here as you say but don't worry about it , I don't think it is personal

Emma anything you want to know just ask be happy to help

lorraine

Hello Jacky

I have many friends some I have met some I haven't I have never ignored a pm yet or will ever do....I don't post on every single thread and most of the times just read.....If I do see one going asking for help I will give it a nudge...

aww jackie,

don't feel like that.....look at my threads....I hardly get any response at all, doesn't worry me though....I just enjoy myself writing them, even if I am talking to myself most of the time lol.

It only looks cliquey cos lots have met up with each other or feel comfortable with each other.

And sometimes it is just the wrong time of day. I don't think anyone is deliberately avoiding your threads.....sometimes I re-read my own and think....'well, there is no answer to that really'. Or maybe some peeps think I am in a'clique.....lots of reasons....doubt any of them are personal......sorry you feel 'unwelcome'....perhaps you won't feel this way after this thread. I hope not.

Susan
x

Jacky,

I've been on here for over 4 years but I've changed my name a few times and lost all interest in genealogy, I'm a diyer now and you never get ignored on a diy forum! I only come on here to ask the odd question.

Susan with number thats coz half of yours are posted in the middle of the night...pmsl...

So Jacky ...I think I have killed it....