General Chat

Kitty, I can understand that, sometimes it is like you get a "wake up call".....

my SIL (RIP) told me if I didn't get out, I'd end up on a mortuary slab.........

I had a close and loving family but I could ...or would not involve them as I knew how much it would destroy them...they did find out in the end as I was so badly beaten I had no choice

more now than ever before , but not when i was young

i had no family and no where to go, and you feel so low its hard to be positive and do anything about it, i had 3 little kids

Kitty, you are so right, I went to a refuge, with 3 kids, it was the best move I made in my life, and my kids!!

yes, they are carrie,they find their stength in putting others down, due to their own inadaquensies(SP).

A friend of mine was regularly beaten by her husband........................no-one could ever persuade her to leave until she had her baby.

She was holding their newborn in her arms and looked at him....................at that second she knew he would never change and her daughter would be next in line.

She left hospital for a refuge and almost 20 years later is a whole new person helping others in the situation she was in all those years ago.

Why did she stay with him?

Fear of the beating she would get if she left him and feeling so low that she really believed no-one would ever want her.

xx

not a personal expeirience but on tlkin to friends who have been in that position

they are frightened he/she will find them and kill them

the kids

they "love" them

personaly i would never ever stay with anyone who hit me but i feel for the people who do they have there reasons and who knows what they are

domestic violence wether male of female is so wrong !!!

luv
stray
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correct Col

No, its not easy, especially when you have children,
and no family to turn to, but after 15yrs of "it" the straw that broke the camels back(mine) was being punched for buying the kids a pk of 12 weetabix, so they could have breakfast.

I don't have any personal experience in any of my family but some people perhaps think there is nowhere they can escape to

its not easy to walk away

because we love them and hope they will change

....WHY do women (or men) stick around to be repeatedly abused by their partners???!!!