Genealogy Chat

I'd be very worried if it was us. Thank you penicillin. So far my Grandmother is one of 15, of whom 3 survived to adulthood, most went in infancy.

Hi Margaret, The thing is with suicides people are not in the right! frame of mind. I am currently studying for a degree and I am doing mental health and it is so hard for them. I have lost a few close friends to suicide and that is the only way forward for them. As for me I lost my husband 2yrs ago, 10 days after my daughter was born and it is hard, when I hear about the babies/children who lost one or both their parents at an early age I really feel for them. Are we a depressing bunch or what? Laurie

Hi Laurie, I am really so sorry to hear about the very sad loss of your husband. That must have been a really tough one. Thanks also for all the great advice that you are always giving everyone. As I have a male friend called Laurie, I presumed that you were male too!! Sorry :( Regards Margaret

Cheer up everybody. I lost my grandparents, my parents and my only brother (aged 30)in just 10 years. My mother died when my eldest was only 6 months. Gets me down a bit at certain times like Xmas but try to remember the good times. And we certainly had good times as a family.

I have just discovered 2 of my gr uncles died of Flu in 1920 probably within days of each other as they have cert with consecutive numbers, both leaving wifes and quite a few children. One was 29, the other 35.

It's interesting that, of all the 'tips' I have looked up, this one has the most responses. I thought I was alone in this! I lost my own Mam in March, which probably makes it harder--but also easier in a strange way. It is comforting to find out more about her background and family. Also, there's nowt like a family funeral to reunite long lost family! It's a shame it takes a death for people to realise how important family is. My Mam always told me what a lovely man her Dad was--now all my new-found family have confirmed this. I think it is nice that we can all be still moved by the tragedies our ancestors went through--it means that there suffering wasn't wasted. I'm still quite new to this, but have already discovered scandal, tragedy, secrets, adoptions, etc. My Great Uncle and his 3 brothers fought together in WW2 and survived, then Harry died in a car crash in Paris on VE Day. My Grandmother lost a son aged 3 years--a lot of my family didn't know this because she could never talk about him. He is in an unmarked grave, which seems so sad.

Hi Just an add on to this subject. It is very distressing to lose a child. I lost a son in 1988 to S.I.D.s. I was then told in 2000 that they had removed ALL his organs and other stuff at post mortem, and kept them. In 2001 they were returned to me. We had a second funeral. I know that lots of this has gone on. I am happy to say I now have 4 healthy children, but it doesn't change the hurt.

Hello Angela. Yes when I started doing my tree it started to get me down when I found my great aunt on the 1901 census when she was 4 months old (I only knew her as an old lady). When I found her, my daughter was 4 months old at the time and it was sad imagining that maybe one of my decendants will be looking at her name thinking the same thing. My father recently died when I started my tree and I wish I could share it with him what I have found.