Genealogy Chat

Chloe, please read my first response when I became aware that my posting had been misconstrued. 'I sincerely meant no disrespect and did not notice the 'Source 1901 census -RG13/4344 Folio 14 page 20' at the foot of your posting. Thank you for the posting.' How is that rude compared to the responses I received?

I think that everyone should take a deep breath and count to ten i know when i started my family tree i asked the same question a few times mearly because i was'nt orginised enough and i got in a right state. Paper everywhere you know how it is.

On the same day, within hours of postings? Not even the village idiot could be so forgetful! Perhaps I'm an exception, but when I started my tree (in 1998) I knew what was on paper, I had it all in my head, it still is to a degree, and this was before I wrote it down on any type of message board and asked for help, back in the day when those who couldn't be arsed to do the work, didn't get any done because there were no people like us who wanted to help so openly.

Simon, Thank you for a level headed reply. Regards, Andy

Simon Andrew had over 700 in his tree and started in 2003. So he cannot use that as a excuse. He knows what he is doing. He is just very rude and arrogant.

Chloe, For someone who wrote a reply to me saying 'You are rude and inconsiderate' and then to compare me to the village idiot....well...need I type more. Regards, Andy

Correct me if I'm wrong but I think that formal adoption didn't become official with documents unitl the 1920s. So if he was adopted, it wouldn't show up then? I've a few like that in my tree , but I don't know how you prove it especially as it would be too late for the census as well. Good luck and I hope you find what you are looking for. kim

Andrew, quite simply this ( and to use method of yours) Added by Andrew Gray on 17/02/2005 21:21:38 I'm not sure I understand your responses Jess - are you suggesting that posting for help is the wrong approach here? This is a message board for seeking out information not found elsewhere. I have access to censuses, I have an ancestry subscription, I have ordered certificates with the limited information I have. I was merely posting a message for help in the hope someone with some vital information was looking. Posting is the correct thing to do. acting on and responding to what you are given is also correct. being arrogant is not. ....and just one point - adoption didn't exist until 1927

I did not compare you to the village idiot. I said that not even the village idiot would be so forgetful.... suggesting that you are not a village idiot. Understand, now? 700 people in your tree and you need help? Like I said, if you're not willing to do the work yourself, or have not even looked yourself (the 1901 is available free to search online), then you shouldn't bother other people. That's not fair on them.

Hi Kim, Yes, you might be right there. I guess that's the problem I'm facing - no record. Thanks for pointing it out. I suppose the best sources of information in these situations is living relatives. Regards, Andy

Andrew you still can't say thankyou to Jess, can't beleive your so stubbon

Your rude and inconsiderate responses, Andrew, come from 'you guys are so hilarious.... no, really, you are.' And you're saying that to someone who you want to help you? As for your post you mentioned, yes you did apologise, however you then added what suggests that you weren't happy with the information you were given and wanted more people to bend over backwards for you. You can group people into households on the 1901 via the census decoder. You could have looked yourself! You appear too idle to do so.

Julie, I did say thank you. And look at the response. Regards, Andy

Yeah.... a 'Thank you for the posting. However......' sounds like you were really appreciative.

Andrew It was the added comments you made with it, thats the problem. Surly you can now see how it could offend, take another look at your comments. Julie

Maybe counting to twenty will help Come on people call a truce regards simon

Come on Guys There are enough problems on the general topics board. We don't want to be monitored on the other boards too. Sarah

Another allie towards a truce nice one sarah regards simon

Simon, I see your point. I'm actually smiling at all this. I've heard of road rage (put someone behind steering wheel and all that) but I guess this is even more anonymous so people feel they can reply in anyway they feel. I wish they'd read each response carefully in the time they were posted. My last word on this thread. Good luck to everyone in their research. Regards, Andy (actually quite a nice bloke - so my wife tells me, fortunately)

Didn't want to add my tuppence worth till everyone (including myself) had calmed down. Can see Jess's point Andrew - I took one look at your original post and thought I'd leave you to it (not that I'd probably be much help anyway!). You don't work in Sales by any chance do you? Its the kind of approach we'd use at work - but maybe doesn't work so well on here. Good luck to everyone - I'm glad the truce is called and we can all get back to being friends and helping each other. Cheers Ellen.