Genealogy Chat

Meryl, From my grandfather's death certificate I phoned the place that he died. They searched their records and said he was in an unnamed grave but were able to give me exactly where it was in the cemetary. Hope that helps. Pam.

Hi Linda and Lisa Will give the local council a call to see if thay can point me in the right direction, Thanks! Meryl

I found the grave of my GG granda recently and I know what you mean, I was quite shocked at the deph of feeling I had for this person who I had never known, only heard about and about who I now know so much more. Maybe us family searchers have an extra little gene that links us even closer to them and wants us not to let them be forgotten---or an I just a sad sentimental sod?

Hi All, Ive only been tracing my family tree since the beginning of feb this year, my nan died end of Jan, she was cremated but she wanted her ashes to be buried with her dad and stepmum, (which happened to be the day after my birthday beginning of march) ive become quite atttached to the grave i have been trying to go every week/fornightly i feel sad that i didnt know my grt grandad was buried there otherwise i`d have laid a wreath at xmas and flowers on his birthday, my dad wasnt quite sure where it was as gt grandad died in 1973 and wasnt sure if it was marked, it is marked has a little urn thing with grt grandads name and grt stepgrandmothers name on it,, i`d like my nans name added but not sure how to go about it, dont want to dig the urn up if theres an easier way. and i dont mind paying for her name to be added as i seem to be the only one that goes, dad cant see the point in planting flowers as he says once you start doing it you have to keep tending the grave, ( still cant believe he said it but to be fair he was the one that saw nan every day in hospital, at the home so maybe he thinks hes done his bit) im glad im not the only one that feels attached to their ancestors as i thought i was the only one. i still have the service sheet of her funeral on display, her picture was printed on the front, i say goodnight to it every night and kiss her pic, is that sad?? kaz

Hi Kaz, no it isn't sad at all, it's all part of your grieving process, you do what ever you feel you have to don't listen to what anyone else says. I miscarried a baby at 5 months and she's buried in a local cemetery, I went to her grave every day for 6 months, and then I only stopped going every day because I was ill and couldnt phsically get out of the house. That was 2 and a half years ago, I still go and see her regular and talk to her, and should I happen to drive past the cemetery at night I always say good night to her. Linda

Hi Linda, I Guess people do greive different ways, i know my father in law always says hello to his parents if he goes past the cemetary, they passed away about 15 yrs ago. I know what i meant to ask, how do you find out where a relative is buried do you contact the local council or the church, is there a burial list somewhere that would tell me, my great aunt died when she was 15 back in 1886 and i would love to be able to find her grave. thanks kaz

Hi Linda, I Guess people do greive different ways, i know my father in law always says hello to his parents if he goes past the cemetary, they passed away about 15 yrs ago. I know what i meant to ask, how do you find out where a relative is buried do you contact the local council or the church, is there a burial list somewhere that would tell me, my great aunt died when she was 15 back in 1886 and i would love to be able to find her grave. thanks kaz

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Hi Kaz I don't know how you find out where people are buried, I have several little ones in my family I would love to find. I only knew where to look for Thomas and Sarah because my dad still has the deeds for the plot that they were buried in. So anyone out there that knows where we can start looking for burials please get in touch Linda x

once you have the death cert, contact the local council and they will give you some contacts. Failing that contact the nearest church or cemetary to where the rellie was living. I know where 3 of my ancestors were buried by doing it this way. Fi

I now how everyone feels - you do learn to treat them as if they were direct ancestors, and there are some that I feel particularly attatched to, and that is my maternal grandmother's line. I have found a list of buriels and plot numbers on the Wakefield council website, and am going to go in search of them next week, but my grandma says that they are all unmarked. I tried to get a plan, but it is too big, but they gave me the number to ring the warden. I intend to hunt out and mark (hopefully) all of the graves of my rellies so that my g g g g grandchildren will not forget their g g g g g g g grandparent's!

Hopefully when i find the relatives that im looking for i`ll either draw a quick map or maybe take a pic with my digital camera and put it with all my family history stuff so my kids will know where everyone is buried. has anyone read the poems that someone posted, titled i thought i`d share this poem with you? ive printed them off, ones about a tombstone, ones about the census and the other is called strangers in a box, very apt for us geneologists kaz

I know this has been put on here before - but it always comes to mind when people start talking about visiting cemetries ... Your tombstone stands among the rest neglected and alone The name and date have worn off the weathered marble stone It reaches out to all who care It's now too late to mourn You did not know that I'd exist You died....and I was born Yet each of us are cells of you in flesh, in blood, in bone Our hearts contract and beat a pulse entirely not our own Dear ancestor, the place you filled some hundred years ago Spreads out among the ones you left who would have loved you so I wonder how you lived and loved I wonder if you knew That someday I would find this place and come to visit you. Author unknown

oohhh, thats the poem, makes me feel quite emotional when i read it. just as a matter of interest where do you keep all your family history papers? im not sure whether to buy the proper family history folders and certificate ones with the acid free plastic covers or just normal folders/photo album. kaz