Genealogy Chat

Hello liz. I have`nt but i will now. Thank you for the support and advise. Regards Vanessa

Hi Vanessa, Thank you for putting up this thread. I have got to know my bm over the last 3 years and have developed some understanding of what she went through over the last 40 years. My birth father was also affected by my adoption, and both of their families were massively affected by my re-emergence in their lives. I do feel for you, and I hope that someday you will be reunited with your daughter. Have you registered with the Adoption Contact Register? Liz

thank you vanessa for understanding i to am doing my adopted tree and my birth tree they are both a big part of me and i felt the need to do both best wishes angie x

Hello Lynla. I am desperatly trying to find what you want to know but dates and places will help. My heart goes out to you because i understand your feelings. May i surgest you PM me and we can talk more?. Regards Vanessa

Thankyou for your response Angela. I understand your point of veiw, Has i say, everyone is entitled to their opinition. Maybe one day your mother will reconcider?. Thank you for your support. I have added my Daughter to my family tree because she is a person who came from me. All the best for your future. Vanessa Tallon

being adopted myself i am trying to trace my family tree so that i can get some answeres of who i am and a sense of belonging i was brought up by the best adoptive parents i could wish for and to me they are my mom and dad nothing would ever change that but the feelings i have of emptyness is sometimes very hard to deal with i can not start my family tree untill i know my natural nans maiden name,my dad is micheal garratt from wednesbury my nan and grandad were jack and martha garratt can any one help please,Lynda

hi vanessa i am an adoptee and did go into finding my birth family with rose tinted glasses only to be disheartned,i did have a lovely response from my birth aunties and we have been emailing each other for over a year now.it was my brothers who i feel dont put as much effort into forming a relationship as i do.i do not wish to find my birth parents and i know from my brothers that the feeling is mutual.it would of been nice if my birth parents wanted to know me like you want to know your child that you didnt want to give away,i wish you luck with your search and it is nice to see the opinions of birth parents best wishes angie x

Thank you Jess. unable to speak right now because of the tears i feel for them all. I wish i could help them all. All the best to you and yours. Vanessa

Thanks vanessa. i am sure i speak for many when i say people like you , gave many of us adoptees the chance for a happy life, with parents who would not have had the priviledge of being called Mum and Dad . I know i had 'everything ' and more...and know that my birth mother would not have been able to give me the chances and opportunities that Mum and dad have. I thank them for that in my heart, and remeber that , despite what i say about my birth mother at times, it was her that gave them the chance to give me the chances. I do hope your daughter finds you, and that happiness surrounds you both Jess x x

So many threads i have decided, with some advise from an understanding GR member that i will add one. I decided to add a different thread because there are so many on the other links. I am a mother who was forced to part with my daughter in 1968. I was deemed too young to look after her and as the years have gone by i have to agree with that advice. I am passing every waking day wondering if she is well? is she happy? and the worst thought that will run through every woman who has had to part with their children, is she still alive? I understand the feelings that are running through all adoptee`s. and i feel that i must advise them to tread carefully. Do not go into this with rose tinted glasses, some mothers may not want to be found. I, for one would. All my family know about her, but i do understand that she has a `Family` to concider. I hope you all have some form of success and form many bonds along the way. My heart goes out to you all. Vanessa