Genealogy Chat

bumped for joanne and others helping her

There is a member on the site who has a john grey born 1960 UK in their tree called clare.

and I live in the area -which helps.

Joanne I can assure you that mothers can become control freaks in these circumstances-they withold stuff and resent it being unearthed again,but you have your own rights and your father did care. Can you summarize your progress for me as there is too much wafle on this thread to sift through lol. I can help you.

You were washing up later than me, then Sheila?

Heather just beat me to it with the Abbott and Costello thing....sounds good to me. Good luck with your search Sheila

Well Merry, you larf, but hubby lost something this morning. It was a two hour search, you should have seen his face as he pulled out sofas and the fluff under them were enough to stuff a matress, not to mention the bits of old soap down the back of the bathroom sink and so on. I did actually feel quite guilty and embarrassed. I think the half packet of biscuits under the sofa cushion was the ultimate embarrassment.

What a brilliant bit of inspiration, Heather! Maybe you should wash up more often?? **£$'%* **ouch** Merry

Hi Joanne Mum's can be so unhelpful! I have been trying to trace my Dad for some time, have even less info than you do and a mother that has conveniently a very poor memory. I have now gone to Traceline, run by the ONS Southport. The cost is £30, if they think they can help you. Might be worth a try? Good Luck, hope you soon track your father down. Chrissie

Joanne, this morning I was doing me washing up and I suddenly had a flash of genius!! ABBOTT and COSTELLO. They were very famous american comedien/actors in the 50's/60's. AND Costello's name was LOU. So I think you have found the right people!!!!!

he either till lives around here or he was visiting, she thinks its wrong of me to go interfering with his life all these years , i have asked her is there any other reason an she said no, maybe she is scared that she will have to meet him again 1 day i dont no ? she has been happily married to my step father for many many years now , so she prob dusnt want him involoved in her life again , i told her tho al i want for now is a pic nothin more ....

So you know he m,ust live near you then? Must be a reason that she doesn't want you to do it.

she wont pipa , my mum does not agree with what im doing and wont help me out apart from givin me correct info like the correct way to spell his surname where he was born etc and his parents bein very old at the time i was born , she also told me about lo/lou and said she has sin him in our town center with his daughters

Ask your Mum to apply for it then!

pipa: you must read my mind i did that this morning , i had a near screamin match with the woman who deals with it saying she cant release that iinfo to me , i told her she had no rites that is my info and it all boiled down to her not havin time to look that far back , so im not holding my breath to a reply from her sob sob

The court should have kept the records. Contact them and they may be able to give you a copy of anything they have.

BRICK: ooooooooo i didnt no you could do that at the post office so thanx for that chick , good idea PIP: asked her and she says she has no papers now she threw them away cus im 30 lol

Ask your Mum for the papers realting to the court case as it may list his dependants if that affected his ability to pay for you.

his wife will have to no about me hun ,he paid child suport for 16 yrs and this lo/lou went to court with him the day he got orderd to pay child suport , my grandad said he came lookin for me for years then gave up so i can not imagen him not wantin to see me , im the kinda person who looks at it this way ,how can you be botherd over some-one you dont no , i have had a fantastic up bringing from my mum and step father so its not like i have missed anythin from him , just a pic wpould be nice , i dont even think i want to meet him to be honest im just curios about him ,but the more i cant find him the more i want to ,u no what us women are like ,an i truly hope you find yer hubbys dad 1 day hun

I found the Greys to the Rowe on Ancestry, if you look at the dates though they must be to different families not the same one. Put an advert in Liverpools main paper asking for info on John C Grey born 1960 mothers maiden name Cunningham and get yourself a PO Box number from the post office for any replies that you may get, apart from that I think you may have a hard time finding him. And bear in mind he may not want to be found and may not have told his new family about you - sorry but that is th reality of it. We have never found my Hubby's Dad and with a name like his we are highly unlikley to Joanne