Genealogy Chat

hi,i understand too as i got first yesterday,felt real down at first,as i didnt know there was an auto reply list,until i went to ask another ones details. i sure agree its nice to get a short note,not a auto cold reply like that. bye all for now.

Yes, me too......it's amazing to think that someone (or even more than one person?) at GR wrote those auto replies and believed them to be acceptable. Do they not have family at home saying, ''What do you say??'' every five minutes?? (please or thankyou for those of you not parenting at the moment!!!) Off to email! Merry

Ive had that one a few times and Ive mailed GR to say that their automated responses do lack a bit of common politeness. I know possibly these people are not very techi or up to typing much but if GR just put 'sorry, this is not my relative' it would really soften the reply. Im off to mail them again.

Angela I must have been lucky so far I have only had this one abrupt reply, most people are nice and want to find a contact to share info with, if this person had suddenly found they were wrong and we were related, and then contacted me properly, I would not have shared anything with them ever.

You are so right, Valerie. These automated replies really are quite abrupt. I am sure that you get far further by being polite to people.

You and me both Val - what's the saying? You can choose your friends but not your family! I'd be divorcing a lot of people - lol Snowdrops

Kathleen thats more or less what I say I always wish them good luck in their research too. Reg yes I am delighted they can get stuffed for all I care.

Snowdrops it does make you wonder what type of people do that doesnt it?? as I said glad they arent related if they were I would divorce them !!!!

Yes, Cathy's right. GR give a list of automated replies you can just click and send, but they are very blunt and I would never use them myself. It doesn't take a minute to just say 'sorry, I don't think we have a match here, but good luck in your research'. There's nothing wrong with an automated reply if GR would just make them a bit less impersonal. Kath. x

Yes, it is a bit on the abrupt side! I'm sure you're delighted not to be related to that person!! Reg

really Cathy I didnt know that, I never send out automatic replies either always write a nice little note to them , thanks for your reply feel better now I know that.

I agree with you Valerie - it's very blunt and rude. I always take the trouble to answer properly, I suppose some would say they don't have the time to answer all their queries in full as they have busy lives - but 1 minute to dash off a sentence? Please!! Snowdrops

Hi Valerie I think thats one of the automatic replies along with 'can i see your tree' and 'yes this is my relative'. I think they are all very blunt and would never use them even if its not my relative! Cathy

I sometimes wonder whats wrong with people I emailed a couple of matches yesterday ,I am always polite saying thanks and all that and most replies are lovely almost apologising for not being related, well I am sometimes glad they arent this is the latest reply 'This is not my relative' is it me or is this just a bit blunt.