Genealogy Chat

Merry, you know you may well be right. How many of us on here have found peeps and gone to visit them. Probably first time in decades, if not centuries. My GGPx4 graves now has a little rose bush and some lavenders on it, probably first time in about 150 years anyone has stood there and cuddled their gravestone and wished them goodnight.(They were buried 1825 and 1826) I even went and had a cuddle with GGMx4 gravestone on Mothers Day. GR peeps could change so many graves in this country - amazing isnt it.

My gran's head stone as it was a wooden one in 1920 has rotted away and I have just found out her grave is under the path so I have asked if we can get an idea where she is in the grave yard can we put another head stone up I really hope they do let me as it is sad we don't have any where to go to put flowers on it

Maybe there should be an ''adopt a grave'' society?? Hubby's great granny is buried next to someone named ''Jack Ripper''! LOL No one bothers with his grave either.....Maybe I should adopt that one?! Merry

I was always fascinated by the grave of a child who died in about 1912 that was meticulously cared for back in the 70s. Clearly the parents would have died - but the siblings must have cared. As for do we dare tend graves of those who don't belong to our families? I think so. Families die out - or like me, the last of the line, marry an Australian and end up at the other side of the world. I am sure no one could object [and indeed would in all probability be very grateful] that someone cared! Victoria

I was wondering the same as Jennifer, on my drive to work I pass a cemetery. There is one grave that stands out in particular, because it is totally neglected :( The small headstone is covered in bracken and I would love to pull it all off. I have bought some gardening gloves in readiness to tackle it...but dare I? Would you?

When I visit the cemetary to tend to my Sons grave, I am saddened by all the unkempt graves and am tempted to do something but dare we.

Merry, Why not leave a not next time you are there. You never know it may be someone you have 'spoken' to on here! Jacky :-)

well i have found three graves of old rellie and i have visited them and put flowers on. it seems the right thing to do. in the past i have looked at old gravestones and not thought about the person or family but now i know each one tells a tale love linda x

my ma in law had twins in1919 one died after 11 days the other after 18 days they are buried in a cemetary in Suffolk, there is no record of where they are in the graveyard and I spent a few days there looking for them but to no avail, I would have loved to have found my wifes brothers. Rodney

Hi Merry. Well there will be 3 in the Berwick area that will soon be visited for the (probable) first time in years. A mother and two of her sons,one seven months old and one just 16 hours,the remaining family moved from the area seven years after the mother died,way back in 1857. That will be me saying a few words to Ann,Frederick and wee Thomas. Glen

Next to hubby's relations at the cemetery there is a baby's grave dedicated to ''Diana - 1939''. Every time I was up there I would look at it, with the weeds growing round, and wonder who this child belonged to...............anyway.....this time, someone cares! There are flowers planted and the stone has been cleaned as well. This grave has gone untended for at least 10 years, probably a lot more....so I wonder........is it ''one of us??''.....a family history searcher who has found out about a long forgotten relative? It made me feel soooo good to see that, after all, someone does care about the little mite.....Happy Hunting - Merry x