Genealogy Chat

Some groups do not practice infant baptism, all have to be old enough to rquest baptism in their own right. I was baptised at my own request at 10. It could be that he was baptised as a baby in the C of E, and later ws baptised by (forr expample) the Presbyterians. My rellies were babtised as older childrfen in the Presbyterians. Anne

My brother had to be christened twice. Richard is in the family name for the oldest male, going back hundred's of years. Only thing is my Dad did not realise it and christened my brother and it caused an almighty problem with my very strict Grandad. Within a year, Dad had to go back to the Vicar and ask permission to have him christened again! My brother is now expecting his second child, the first was a girl. His wife does not like or want the name Richard if they have a boy. I know my Dad would be upset but not want to rock the boat. so I wonder what will happen? My brother is interested in his family heritage having started off the research 9 years ago so i know what he would want if it was just down to him. It must be hard for him. Claire

Hi Clare Didn't know you could be christened with a name other than your birthname. I have 6 generations of the oldest boy being called Tom Jepson Gritton. Makes my research a real pain. I now call them by numbers !!! LOL My dad was called Henry James, but was known his whole life as Siggy, I guess your sister-in-law could compromise as it means so much to your family. Jeanne

I don't know whether to have a quiet word with my brother but I don't want to upset my SIL - who I know would not appreciate me getting involved. It will break my Dad's heart if they don't do it but then we don't know the sex of the child and its not born yet! They could give him loads of names and just tag Richard on at the end to keep the peace! i wonder if my brother's birth was registered twice then?! i can't remember if i looked at the birth record for him. I know his daughter was registered twice as she was born within a month of their marriage and then she was registered with the mother's new surname. Claire

If I have learnt anything in the last 50 years (or just that when you get older you care less) I would broach the subject with him. My mum wanted me to be called Patricia Jeanne, but my dad didn't want me to have a name that could be shortened. He went along and registered my birth and called me Jeanne Patricia (people call me Jeannie LOL). She flipped out initially, but at the end of the day I know for a fact that a person can go through life being called X, when their birth cert says Y. A passport needs a birth cert, but in this day and age when ever else do you need to show it ? It's a formality................................speak to him.

ok - I'll try and have a chat at the weekend - i may get a chance to visit him in person and talk about it and see how he feels - he may appreciate the chance to talk if he is bottling it all up. Claire

Grasp the nettle Clare - you'll live to regret it otherwise!!

i've just emailed him and invited him to meet up for the weekend on Sunday! So thanks for the advice. claire