Genealogy Chat

Sylvia

Thought I had made a breakthrough with my cousin who is administrating the estate of Grace Hack.

I am aware from the Probate Research Company that they have found all entitled heirs - very impressive as Grace Hack had a German father born abt 1867 in Germany. They were pipped at the post when applying to administer the estate.

My cousin is becoming frustrated at not finding details for Grace's uncle George Hill - my earlier post related to this. She now recognises that she also needs to trace August, brother of Grace after the 1911 Census.

It is obvious to me that she has no clue how to finalise the administration. I encouraged her to sign up with the Probate Research Company detailing that they had all the answers. I added that if she was having difficulty with George Hill & Augustus Hack, then she would find it impossible to trace the German relatives.

She has now come back to say - it is unnecessary to trace the German relatives as Grace's mother Gertrude survived her husband. Who has given her this misguided advice I do not know, but I am now becoming very frustrated with her.

My brother and sister and I have signed up to the Probate Research Company as we realized that we did not have the experience to trace George Hill - who we thought was the person who had died. When we became aware through my cousin that it was George's niece Grace Hack, we realized that this made no difference.

The amount we will receive is not likely to be great, but the family history info is priceless.

Arthur

Well back to earth with a bump -What a lovely peaceful thread

I can’t stand bullies – i had enough of that at school and certainly don’t like it on here & there is no need for it anywhere on this site.

This thread was my haven when i was in deep depression & not once did i feel the need to run & hide from anyone on here. Everyone on that thread (which was this one’s predecessor) was very understanding and helped me through it all.

Phew what a relief - It looks like a certain thread has run its course - never thought it would end

I didn’t know the majority of the people on the thread but I felt bullied just reading some of the comments – goodness only knows how the original poster felt - I just wanted to give her a hug.

I really wanted to say on there that some people need to grow up & get on with their life - if a small thing like an innocent comment can make that one person bully people needlessly, that person urgently needs to see a counsellor and quickly. I cant even feel sorry for them - its just so unfair.

However I kept the peace & gave up as some people will never change.

I found that when i met one of the biggest school bullies over 20 years later. She was still a bully she gave you that look (all sweetness & butter wouldn't melt ) & said something totally different - and yes thinking about it now - I do hate her as just thinking about her now brings it all back. thats what that thread has done to me in 2 days.

Have i learnt my lesson? - no I will probably still pick up a thread & read it - this time try not to get involved.

ITake care everyone

Have had terrible problems with my laptop resulting in me discarding it and buying a new one. My nephew who is a computer whiz has rescued all my important info - all addresses of friends - had telephone numbers on my phone.

Still having trouble with new laptop, but can get here and other favourite sites.

Sylvia

My 'cousin' - not sure what the exact relationship as she is the daughter of my father's cousin - still not playing ball. The Probate Research Company to which my brother, sister and I are signed up, has just sent her a strongly worded legal letter asking for details and stating that it may be necessary to take her to court if matters are not resolved by the end of March.
Talk about "Light the blue touch paper and retire!"

My 'cousin' should be sensible and sign up to the same company as us - all details to finalise the estate are known

Hi everyone ...............


Tabitha .......... you're referring to Shirley's thread??


Yep, poor Shirley, she felt personally attacked ............. BUT she did get a whole lot of support, both on the thread and by pms, and I think that she now understands, as should you, that one person always behaves like that. Very OTT ............ and quite frankly, I believe she needs help right now.


There was no excuse for what she said ........... and it seems that GR agrees as the 2 posts by her that were RR'd have been removed :-)


Just pity her ...................... don't let her upset you xxxx



Arthur ....... I hope you get things sorted out with that cousin :-)


Good luck xx

Thank you Sylvia - I wasn’t going to mention any names - as don’t want to start it all off again & it’s not a vendetta either

Some of the comments really made me so cross and i have to admit upset too as it opened old wounds

I agree some people really do need help & quickly too - I don’t think Pity is the word I would use - After bringing back all those memories i had tried to forget - my only thought at the time was that someone needed a good slap to bring them to their senses. You cannot live your life like that - no matter how upset you are - you have to get on with life.

I have had a lot of sorrow & grief in my life & at one point I lost 5 close relatives within 6 weeks of each other. Some things can still set me off even after several years.

The slightest little things can just trigger something -

However i can certainly say it has never made me react in that way - i have my few moments of sadness & then remember all the good times.

Anyway - let’s put all this behind us now and concentrate on happier topics

Its nearly Easter - anyone planning anything exciting or just a relaxing few days at home like us

Arthur - good luck with the new computer & i hope you get all the answers you want from the probate situation.

Take care all

hello all

I saw the posts and thought it was over doneand somebody needed help



the wheather here has been not bad at all lovely and sunny but a cold wind if it stays the same for the next few weeks it will not be too bad

oh is so so daughter has cleaned my windows and washed the nets they were bad and worrying me and g daughter is helping with the cleaning as I can not push the dyson as it is to heavy so gradualy getting sorted

while oh was in hospilal in the middle of the night my smoke alarm kept going off and every time it did the dog houled so in the end I hit it with my walking stick umtill I smashed it and the battery fell out as I can not reach it to put a new one in I was able to sleep at last


a peacefull easter to you all

sally w <3

Oh Sally what are you like

Glad to hear you are being looked after

My smoke alarm went off yesterday when i was cooking - both cats ran for cover & nearly ended up sitting together until they realised then they went to either end of the lounge & glared at each other.

Peace reigned – Shadow on his cushion (it was mine) on top of the footstool,
Ginger nut on top of the armchair by the window. Then Ginger nut crept down the arm, onto the seat & slid down to the floor very quietly & tried to sneak across the floor & past Shadow on the foot stool.

Shadow with the speed of lightening zapped out a paw (yowling as he did it) & caught ginger nut on the ear as he tried to run past. Ginger nut backed up to his chair & stayed on the floor for a few mins. Shadow sat up & looked at his paw – flexed his claw, yawned washed his paw & curled up again. Ginger nut crept back on his chair.

Mean while we both jumped out of our seats with all the noise

About an hour later Shadow got up, stretched & walked over me to the desk & wanted to go out as the rain had stopped.

As soon as he left Ginger nut jumped off the chair with a loud bump, rushed to the kitchen & wanted his lunch. Once finished back on the chair & fast asleep again. Shadow came back & wanted his lunch, then he went back to HIS cushion & back to sleep.

Did mum get any peace - No - meanwhile OH went back to sleep & finished his Sunday afternoon nap & missed all the ins & outs & demands for food.

I have decided in my house you have to be either a cat (looked after by me) or a husband to get any peace.

I even had one of our seagulls in the garden demanding scraps during the afternoon - its got so cheeky lately it comes up to the window & squawks at me
If Shadow is not around & when I go out with food it will get near enough to be touched (not that I ever have) It loves it when i throw out the stale cat biscuits
Apart from the actual cat food i think Go-Cat is its favourite. My rear garden is now a haven for Seagulls & neighbourhood cats (when Shadow is in the house)

hello all

I hope you all have an enjoyable easter


I am avoiding all the political (what I call rubbish ) on tv it bores me silly

ann your cats are so much more interesting

so plenty of chat please to keep me entertained

sally w <3

Hi Everyone

Oh's Ops have been and gone ,all went well he is in bandages for a while but he is handling being home all the time instead of at work( don't know about me though),I am not used to having him home all the time and it has thrown my life as I knew out the window.

He has more ops to come one on his neck but a while down the track.

Anne I try to stay away from threads like what you mentioned now,they get you too upset,I don't even know anymore who the trouble makers on here,don't go on Genes much anymore.

When the Hubbys injuries get a little better will start up my tree again but for now giving it a rest .

Glad to hear you are all well,will pop in from time to time .

Suex <3

Susan
Glad your husband's ops went well.

Anne
Loved the account of Shadow and Ginger Nut. My two behave in much the same way, with one huge difference - they may have almighty fights and fur literally flies, but they do tend to 'kiss and make up'. I frequently find them mutually washing - a paw on the neck makes it so much easier to clean inside the ears. They may then fall asleep cuddled up together. Sometimes, however, the mutual grooming is a prelude to a bout of intense fighting. Nobody seems to know why this is - my brother had 2 male cats from the same litter and they were just the same when it came to having major fights.

Vikki continues to have urinary problems even after a booster antibiotic injection. The vet is puzzled as she seems perfectly healthy in all others respects. I am only aware of the problem as she climbs into the bath daily and spots urine with varying amounts of blood in it. Tests have not shown infection or crystals. Think I will keep an eye on her and only contact the vet if she appears unwell.

The Probate Research Company have not been in touch and I have not heard from my 'cousin'. I can only assume she has not provided the necessary info requested.

Weather currently grey and cold, but we are promised better weather for the Easter weekend. I plan to spend all the time in the garden - plenty to do and mostly weeding - I have hired a skip and am well on the way to filling it.

Hopefully the exercise will help to reduce my weight - would like to lose at least 7 kg.

hello all
arther hope the wheather was better than ours and you got some gardening done it was cold here and very little sun but a lot better today

sue hope your oh is on the mend

and every one else is o k

sally w <3

Hello to all my friends on here and thank you for your kind thoughts.

I am settled now in Dorset and have been beset by bouts of ill health and problems with the new flat, mainly leaks around doors and windows which have proved very difficult to put right. They were, I hope, all completed last week with the final coats of paint where needed. It is very comfortable, with very friendly neighbours around and the family close by. The grand daughters now 10 and 13 are delightful and, with their parents, had last summer in Australia visiting all the relations on both sides of the family. They brought back some lovely photos taken with their cousins and of the places visited.

I am trying to get back to researching but finding it slow going. I am probably near the end of what I can do and have struck a couple of "brick walls" as I'm sure you all have at some time or another.
My love and best wishes to you all.

<3 <3 <3Reece

hello reece

nice to see you nice :-D

we are getting thin on the ground pleased that you have got over all your problems and I know you are living in a lovely part of the world

perhaps Robert will pop out of his shell

sally w <3

Hi Reece xxxx

Hi Everyone

Reece it is so nice to see you back and so happy to hear you have settled into you new home,I hope your health sorts itself out soon for you.

We are all fine here ,Winter is on it's way back ,rain today and lots of it ,everything need a good wash so dusty everywhere.

I was going to get World Ancestry again this year but thought it a little to expensive again as I did not use it for most of last year so gone back to middle one $215.00 a year ,I did most of my tree with that membership anyway.

My Oh is now on a disability pension so no more work for him and it will give us a bit of a chance to travel some more ,and maybe a quick trip back to Uk to see all my rellies ...I do miss them a lot.

Well off again to get Grt Granddaughters Lunch.

Love to you all <3

Suex <3

Lovely to have you back Reece

Sue sounds like you have a lot of planning to do now -

Arthur - how strange with the girls I would be very worried about Vikki but think you are wise to keep an eye on her.

Its quite warm here for the time of year

Cats were good over Easter -

Over Easter both cats had a good time in the garden – at one point Ginger Nut & Shadow were stetting one paving slab away from each other both facing the same way & sitting alike.

There is another little black cat appeared - he looked very worse for wear & grizzled at me - but purred when i stroked him – I gave him the leftovers from the cats breakfast & he was very appreciative. I also told him i couldn’t look after another one as Shadow wouldn’t like it. He looked very miserable & walked off – I saw him down the road a few days later - gave him a cuddle & he went on his way. I felt really sad i couldn’t help him too – they will be calling me the mad cat woman soon.

Ginger Nut arrived in the garden with his Sister Pippa on Sunday - Normally i only see Pippa outside their house or at my neighbours house as Pippa is a regular visitor there. She is pure Tabby where as Ginger nut is Ginger tabby. Pippa now seems to arrive with Ginger Nut on a regular basis now - OH thinks she will be in too - not if Shadow can help it. He has already given her the warning glare.

Ginger Nut has a girlfriend called Kristina - she is a Bengal & lives over the road - they are always together in the sun in her front garden (when he isn’t with us) - occasionally Pippa joins them & they all look really sweet. The two girls were both washing Ginger Nut the other morning - with Lily the tortoiseshell looking on - Shadow was in the house having a snooze - he does not go over the road that i know of - he is not happy with cars.

When Shadow upset Ginger nut a few weeks ago & chased him out the house – Kristina came over to our the garden jumped on the window sill – looked in - Shadow jumped on the desk & glared at her – she gave him a full Bengal blasting & swearing session - turned her tail & walked off down the path - over the road & back home. Jumped up on her wheelie bin in the sun & had a good wash. Then she went & cuddled up to Ginger nut in the her garden & they both fell asleep together.

Kristina does not normally visit us in our garden - she comes to us outside & will jump in OH car if he is not careful - They had a Store delivery – he left the door open - she jumped in – he closed the door 7 drove off – 5 mins later he came back - opened the door she jumped out & he drove off- seems she had done it before - so he just brings her back.

Anne

You have such fun with the cats in your neighbourhood. Shadow could not have found a better home.

My two keep the neighbours amused, but I rarely see any other cats.

Vikki is fine and the vet said she may have FLTU - feline lower tract urinary infection. This is when they do not really know what is the cause of her symptoms. If she didn't climb in the bath and spot, I would never know there was a problem!

Still awaiting word from either the Probate Research company or my 'cousin'. Although it is very satisfying to solve brick walls in our trees ourselves, this one is extremely difficult for an amateur - and has already been solved by the Probate Research Company.
The money is irrelevant, I want the extension to my family tree.

Arthur

Thank you Arthur

I think Shadows needs reminding of this on occasions - esp at 2am in the morning or when he has a very mornful cry at the window at 9pm to go out & we have decided on an early night. I feel so very guilty for saying no to him - OH crys back at him

As soon as i go to the kitchen or say beddybeds he dashes out at a rate of knotts & speeds upstairs & sits on the bed waiting for us as though to say "where on earth are you i'm sitting here ready for bed & does a very big yawn"

I would really miss him if he wasn't here

Sometimes i wish i had the money to pay a professional for some of my brick walls - but then i would miss the fun of the chase - i would like a time machine - i just want a crumb so i can search in the right direction. Its so very annoying.

I hope you hear soon arthur

Anyone heard from Robert ?

Take care all

Thanks Tabitha,

Yes I am still around and fighting fit.

I look in occasionally to see whether you are all behaving yourselves.

Love to all.

Robert do you think we are :-D

glad you are well

sally w