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My beautiful son was tragically killed in a road accident three days ago he was 16 years old. Is there any body who has also been or going through this I am comforting to not to shut out the support which my family and friends are providing. People say that words don't help but i can assure you they do! Some of the achievements my son aquired are 10 GCSE's and he earned the respect of many people. He also attended kick boxing and he is featured on the newsletter on www.cobrafma.co.uk. He has also wrote poetry on www.poetry.com just type in the name callum Hughes I am so proud of him

Thank you Elaine Always show him how much you love him - fortunately I did Roseanne

Dearest Roseanne, Just logged on and saw your message. I felt like I was kicked in the stomach. My heart goes out to you, I have 3 sons 34, 23, and 18. They are my life and I love them deeply. I can't even imagine how you must be feeling but you will be in my heart, thoughts and prayers. Please be comforted to know you are not alone and I know all the people on this message board will be with you in spirit. God Bless from Dawn in New Zealand

Roseanne, It's hard to find words to express the heartfelt sympathy I feel for you in this terrible time you are going through. I am sure you will cherish the happy memories you have of the wonderful son of whom you feel so proud and find comfort in the love of friends and family. Thinking of you, Valerie.

Roseanne I cannot begin to understand how you will be feeling at this sad time, but my thoughts are with you and your family. I have looked at the Cobra newsletter - what a lovely young man. Sue

Roseanne, my heart and thoughts are with you and your family. i cant even start to think how you feel. my daughter is 7 tomorrow and she is my world. all the best. kerry.

Dear Roseanne I cannot express how deeply your loss has affected me today. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Deepest sympathy Michele

roseanne i have just read your message and i am in tears.i cannot begin to think what you are going thruough.i have 3 sons and a daughter and ,although they are all in their 20's they are still my babies and i would be devasted if anything happened to them. i will be thinking of you at this sad time god bless roseane love and hugs susie

Thank you your words are very comforting he loved travelling and has been to spain, turkey eqypt, syria and greece. He is receiving condolences from all over the world - he could never understand why they are wars and never had a bad word to say against anybody - is goal was to travel the word and he was working hard at college to achieve it. He is achieving his ambition in a different way from people like you Thank you

My heart goes out to you, I just cannot express my thoughts at your sad loss. Shirley

Roseanne, Have just looked at the 2 web sites. What a lovely young man and what beautiful words, they have touched a heart the otherside of the world. Take care and be sure you are not alone. Dawn in NZ

Roseanne I have just seen your message and my heart goes out to you and your family. I also have a 16 year old son and i cant begin to imagine how you must be feeling, i am so desperatley sorry for your loss. Your son sounds like a fine young man who had a wonderful life and was very much loved, not only should you be proud of him, but also of yourselves. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please consider this a 'virtual' hug. Yvette

Roseanne, that's terrible news, I'm so sorry. My brother is 16. One of his classmates, Emma, was killed in a car crash two weeks ago, and he has been quite upset about it. My sympathies go out to you.

Roseanne, what can I say? I am so desperately sorry to hear such news. You are so rightly proud of his achievements, you must have some wonderful memories to hold on to. Be brave, we are all sending supporting and comforting thoughts to you. Jan.

Dear Roseanne & Family My thoughts and that of my family are with you all at this time of great sorrow. God Bless Janice

Dear Dear Roseanne, It is very difficult to know what to write, I have 5 children and 13 grandchildren and do not know what I would do if anything happened to any of them. You message has made me look at myself, how I am inclined to take so many things for granted. MY household throw our love to you, be strong and take care.

Roseanne, I have two sons and I don`t even want to think how you must feel. Sending all my love at this sad time. You must keep talking about him and let the tears flow where ever and when ever. love Mary

Roseanne. My heart is broken for you,,Nothing anyone can say will ever make the hurt and pain feel less. Keep talking about him,,,,cry all that you need to and remember that he is just a thought away. Treasure the wonderful golden memories that he has given you. My thought sand love are with you and i know that all of your friends on GC are here whenever you need us. Claire xx

God Bless you all so much I am finding comfort in my computer and all the messages you are all sending. Bob I am so sorry, I have printed out your messageI keep reading it. I am so sorry for you and your family but it is helping me by knowing that although i am sorry for the loss of your son you are surviving - because i know i need to for my other two children. Are children our are world, arn't they! The poem "my beatiful son you are to me" I am having read out at the funeral. What beautiful kind people you all are and i also realised this from the searches that everybody helps each other with. Thank you Roseanne xxxx

Roseane You will never get over this tragedy. You will learn to live with it. You will find a brave face for the world. Your friends will stop talking about him but you won’t and he will always live in your heart. You will find a way to get on with the day to day business of living but it will never be the same. You will ask over and over, “Why him, when there are so many horrible people out there?” and no one will be able to answer because there is no answer. It will get worse before it gets better. At first there is the whole business of dealing with sudden death. Stuff you only ever saw in TV drama suddenly becomes real and you are in the middle of it. There are decisions to make, stuff to arrange. How you will deal with all this in a home full of Christmas is beyond me, but you will. All of this `business` will keep you going but after, when it’s all over and there is nothing more to do, there will just be this big empty space in your life. You need all the help you can get. Most people have no idea how to help, what to say, what to do. Try to help them to help you. There is no “right way” or “wrong way” to behave. One day you will laugh again – and then feel guilty. When you see other people with their sons you will envy them. When strangers boast of their son’s achievements you will bite your lip. I promise it does get better. Little things at first; you will mention his name without crying; find something of his and not burst into tears; sleep through the night without the nightmares. Slowly, eventually life takes over again. Not the life you planned but another life. Life without your son. I lost my 19 year old son in a car accident on 6th October 2003 and not an hour goes past that I don’t think of him. Bob