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Odette is going to try and help Violet find out what happened to Josephine. If she hits a brick wall, she'll ask on Violet's behalf. :-)

I'd sent a message to Odette hoping she could explain the situation to Violet.

Violet does have a genuine query about Barry's mother. If Odette hasn't made any progress, we might be able to help out there. Let's see if Odette has any news yet. It might be possible to trace Josephine's siblings or their families who may know something.

I've PMed Odette too ... I want her to see my other PM also!

And I'll add this here as well


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VIOLET - PLEASE READ THIS!!!

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It's lovely to see you here but there is a problem.

You have posted many messages, with all kinds of personal information.

Everybody on the internet can see it!

You have given your email address, and private information about other people. This is very unwise.

You need to delete these messages.

For each one of them, please click DELETE and then confirm that you want to delete it.

The message that started this discussion is from ODETTE, and you and she are in contact by email already. The information you are posting, she already knows it, because you have told her privately.

Nobody else here is related to you or Odette. We are just friendly helpers who like to help people find their families.

You have put so much personal information in your messages that you do need to delete them.

And then send Odette a message by email - not here! - to stay in touch with her.

I hope you see this and I hope it helps!

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Violet, would you please read the messages in this thread?

Hang on ... I wonder whether Violet doesn't know there is a page 2 ... not uncommon.

I am going to edit my post on the first page to ask her to delete, and try to explain :)

Ypu have the right Barry as he lives in Nelson and I am in touch with Connie the ex wife of Barry. Connie and I are very close, and we will help you. C heers Violet

You’re probably right JoonieCloonie, but if all her posts containing an email address were Reported, it would be difficult for future researchers to make contact.

Just in case someone has a twitchy finger – 3 posts as

4 Feb 2016 12:37
Hi, Barry lives in Nz and I met Cy when he was 66 and I was 52. . He died iMarch 2000
Violet
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4 Feb 2016 19:58
It is the right Barry. Son of Cyril . He does live in (xxxx). Cy did marry a much younger girl . She was nineteen and he was 38 I think . I am Violet who was with Cyril 21 years . He died at age 87 March 2000.
What would be your connection with Barry? He is the son of Josephine Olley and was told by her brother when Barry was sixteen that she died of an overdose and I would like to find if that is true.
Cy took Barry and Kim away from her and went to NZ. Where he lived the rest of his life.

maybe it would be best to just report Violet's messages so they don't appear in the thread ... I think Violet may not be quite up on the technology and perhaps not seeing your advice Det. (I think she is approaching 90!)

and we know she and Odette are in contact privately

Odette appears not to have visited lately ... I sent her a private message 3 days ago and it has not been opened

Violet - its best to tell Odette these facts privately, not post them on the boards. You aren't actually 'talking' to her here, rather you are 'talking' to people who were trying to find family contact details for her.
And please remove your email address from future posts. If anyone needs to contact you privately, they can send a message via the Genes message board system by clicking on your name.

The only person who is related to Cy or his family is Odette. No one else who has posted has any connection. Other than Odette, we have no wish to contact Barry.
If Odette does, then you've probably already told her how to do so.

Try to think that the boards are like a letter to a newspaper - anyone can pick it up and read the print, even people who have no relation to the letter writer.
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Barry’s mother was Josephine G A nee Olley. If he was told he’d died when he was about 16, we need to look for a death c1971.

Jospehine G A Olley was born in 1936.

There are no deaths registered in England and Wales for a Josephine G A born about 1936 with any surname around 1971.
If what Barry had been told is true, then either she had partnered/married someone else and died under that name, or the informant didn’t know her middle names. Do you have any idea if she moved abroad or even to Scotland or Ireland? They have different registration indexes to England and Wales

It is the right Barry. Son of Cyril . He does live in Nelson. Cy did marry a much younger girl . She was nineteen and he was 38 I think . I am Violet who was with Cyril 21 years . He died at age 87 March 2000.
What would be your connection with Barry? He is the son of Josephine Olley and was told by her brother when Barry was sixteen that she died of an overdose and I would like to find if that is true.
Cy took Barry and Kim away from her and went to NZ. Where he lived the rest of his life. Contct ne [email protected]
Violet

Violet - Odette is the daughter :-D
You are already in contact with her off board.

As you've added your email address to 3 of your posts, it might be best to delete them.

Barry married Connie and they have a son called Cyrus. If I know why you want to find Barry I can give you Connikes e-mail address

Hi, Barry lives in Nz and I met Cy when he was 66 and I was 52. . He died iMarch 2000
You can contact me [email protected] I am in touch with Juanita's daughter .

Hi, Barry lives in Nz and I met Cy when he was 66 and I was 52. . He died iMarch 2000
You can contact me [email protected] I am in touch with Juanita's daughter .

Hi, Barry lives in Nz and I met Cy when he was 66 and I was 52. . He died iMarch 2000
You can contact me [email protected] I am in touch with Juanita's daughter .

Can I just say how grateful I am for all the help I've been given here, I had no idea that there were people ready and willing to assist with research, I thought GR was simply a contact site to help people connect with each other.

Had I known, I would have kept up my membership years ago.

The success I've had so far in such a short time has been incredible. I now have information that I've never had about my birth family.

Thank you so much.

I may have found Barry. Violet gave me the first name of his son, which is fairly unusual, I think I found him on Facebook in the right location in NZ and saw that he is "friends" with a Barry Harrington of Nelson NZ! So I've messaged that Barry Harrington to see if he is the one I am looking for. Thanks again for all your help so far.

If he doesn't reply, you might find his son can pass on a message. Not everyone is aware that new contacts messages end up in a different FB box.
You'll have a lot of catching up to do!

I may have found Barry. Violet gave me the first name of his son, which is fairly unusual, I think I found him on Facebook in the right location in NZ and saw that he is "friends" with a Barry Harrington of Nelson NZ! So I've messaged that Barry Harrington to see if he is the one I am looking for. Thanks again for all your help so far.

Once you've had a chance to catch up, try the details for Barry. If its the incorrect one, we can have another go. Violet may have further leads we can work on.

My contact with Violet has focused on Cyril Harrington so far so I don't know if the contact details for Barry are correct, but she may not know as they weren't in touch apparently.