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hold onto hope Neil, but without beating yourself up, as others have said, and do what you can to create the opportunities for Brian to contact you if he looks for family

A few years ago, I found the family of a man who was born to unmarried parents in England in the 1920s, believe it or not, so he was in his 80s ... I identified who his father probably was from the little information he had, found what he had done in life afterward (not too difficult as he was landed gentry!), found his family ... the man in Australia contacted the family in Ireland who had never heard of him ... and there was joy all round.

Sometimes people don't find out they were adopted until their adoptive parents die, although that is less common these days. Or, as has been said here, may not want to look for their birth family until that happens.

if you ask google for

"Brian Robert Dunn" 1961

or

"Brian Robert Dunn" adopted

your thread here comes right up. If he does the same, he will find it too.

I most definitely think he was adopted in a local area.This is what has made it more difficult as I walk around thinking is that him or I can be on site in southeast laying bricks looking at everyone of the age.

I would like all to no.I am not seeking to fill and find possibly an answer to my failures or answers and excuse for behaviour.But please believe me I am proud of the pain that has made me the man I am.
I will find you my brother.By means of no alterative motive than love of blood. :-)

Upon my death I will die happy knowing I done all I could to reunite me with my brother.AS understood if not thirsty water will not be Taken.This as painfull as it is I will use to make me a better man.XXX :-)

Never give up hope, Neil.

Good luck in your search :-)

Good Luck Neil in your search for your brother.

I hope you find the answers you are looking for,

regards

Thank you all for the support.
Jean as an unmarried couple my mums father would not support them and my fathers family was,not in my mums eyes a place to be.
I have pushed and fought to worship my mums wish.
My fathers belief was that I should never have been told.
I do not no how I new but I new I had a brother and it was this that lead my mother to tell me.
All answers Jean i need not look for.My mums mum committed suicide when i was a year old and my mum died at 54.
Adoption at that day was barbaric with no thought about helping parents or the ongoing devastation it causes.
Things and attitudes have thank god now changed.
My motive is not selfish but only for my brother to know i am looking for him.
There are know answers Jean only life.
Love and respect.Neil.XXX <3

To all the people that have offered help thank you.
AS much as I want and try the web confuses me with basic skills I cant achieve.
I am spending hours on my quest.I do not understand the literacy of the computer world and am struggling with to understand,the basic information given,i am getting lost in word I don't understand. :-(

just take your time - go slowly - ask any questions you like

Hello Neil,

Hope you are O.K.

Can I ask was it a family member who adopted you're brother or maybe a family friend ?

If so can you remember any names ?

regards


You can PM me if you don't want to put names on this thread.
jean

Jean if it were a family friend my Father would have most definitely have told me by now.All I have is all adoption records to name.
Many thanks Neil.X :-)

Hi Neil,
O.K.
Just trying to find something that might help, just clutching at straws really.

I have sent you a P.M.

regards

Neil , if you don't remove the swear word someone will report it,

I doubt Ancestry have wiped your account, phone them on
0800 404 97 23

Or Email
[email protected]

For ref, there are comments on the Ancestry FB page that there are some problems with Ancestry at the moment, with an error message appearing...that may be why you can't gain access Neil...

RR Ancestry have just took unauthorised money ffrom my account :-(

Neil,

What did you sign up for on the site,? were you on a year or monthy subs,,,,,or did you do a free trial,,,,,,,,,,if you dont go back and cancel your details they will auto take out a years subs,the number to phone them is on the site,,,,,, free call -0800 4049723......Saturdays is---9am to 8 pm.

Contact them Neil, you should have had a reminder email for renewal, sometimes they go into Spam though.

Kay.RR.Please believe in me. :-)

Neil,

You must have signed up to Ancestry at some point and given them your card details,the subs must have been up for renewal or the end of a 14day free trial was at its end,,,,,,,if you dont go on the site and cancel,they think you want to continue and take an auto payment from the card details you gave,they assume you want to become a full time subcriber,,,,,,,,naughty really,,,,,

dont sign up for free trials that want your bank card details,,,,,,,,,it can trap you into something you dont want.

if its free why do they need bank card details.?

Has anyone suggested to Neil to look under his mother's name?

EDIT I see Rambling Rose suggested it

If "Brian" was searching himself for kin, he would perhaps start by looking for his birth mother

Could there a trail via "Brian's " birth certificate ? ie the address of his mother

"Brian" may have gone on websites & also asked for help.

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EDIT

http://www.ukbirth-adoptionregister.com/search.php

FOUND THIS . have you placed this ? <<<<<<<<<<<<<<

Birth Relative
BIRTH PLACE sidcup kent
SEARCHING FOR brian robert dunn
Adopted persons birth place
woolwich plumstead


.

Name: Susan M Dunn
Spouse Surname: Webster
Date of Registration: Apr-May-Jun 1964
Registration district: Dartford
Inferred County: Kent

WILL DELETE LATER <<<<<<<<<<<<<

Above sadly fit the data

Looks like 2 family tree entries on Ancestry public family trees