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I will contact the Social worker on Monday with your idea about contacting the Passport office :-)

And am trying another avenue about the surname :-)

Unfortunately the little information that I have given you is all that I have, and not what I choose to give you. I know it is hard and frustrating trying to find Ian with only this information, but it has been like that for me for years.

I last saw and spoke with Ian the day before he went back to the home in 1965, so all I have had to go on over the years is little drips of information from people I have spoken with, so when I said about him leaving one evening this is what I was told.

As I have said before and will keep on saying, I really appreciate all the time and effort people are giving in try to help me find Ian and I can’t say Thank you enough, but if I knew anything else I would tell you as my ultimate goal is to try and find Ian and with all your help I am feeling much more positive about that, than I did a little while ago when all I was doing was hitting a brick wall every way I turned.

Shirley
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I know that he was adopted in 1971 by the House mother of the home.

Would the social worker lie ?? :-S

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If I was Dave I would be down to my local Probate Office rather than waiting for the Social worker !!

He does not have to tell the Social worker he is doing this as they hate to rush it !!

He will have enough data to trace the "mother"
name/address/year of death


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Not now...but I will try and find out :-)

I can ONLY work on the little info that Dave chooses to give us.



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The only other information they know is that he left one evening and never returned.

Would he have been legally adopted at aged 17 ? Maybe the lady fostered him rather than adopted him

Are you sure the surname is not FALCONER ??? <<<<<<<

The adoptive mother was not under this exact surname or used her birth first name.

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If above is correct ............ you need to check if your social worker is chasing the correct spelling.

I have data for the possible adoptive mother etc
This person's house was sold in 2010
Sadly one of her other son's died in 2006

Due to her business & sale of the house I would think a will was registered & probate obtained.
& if she did not disinherit Ian he should be named etc

PROBATE OFFICE
1996 onwards is kept on computer
There is no charge for you to search the calendars yourself.
A small fee gets you a copy

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ANOTHER AVENUE TO TRY

Has the Social worker been in touch with the PASSPORT OFFICE to ask if ever a passport has been issued in Ian EITHER SURNAME quoting his date of birth ???



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No unfortunately I do not know these details the SW has kept them to herself.

Brilliant.

Do you know her first name and place of death?

From what the social work has told me, she died a couple of years ago. She is going to try and get her Death certificate to see who registered her death.

Thank-you, Dave.

So we are looking for Ian Robert Faulkner, age about 58.

I have friends who are not registered with any doctors, and they are in this country....

Do we have any more information about Miss/Mrs Faulkner?

Elliot

It is easy to start researching sometimes with little info, when you have been doing it a while you will see

Pat,

Ian's birth name was Webb, He was at the home until about 1973-5.

I have been in contact with the Adoption agency and they sent a social work to see me. But they do not know where he is either.

I was given a document by social service which just happen to be in my file and I know that he was adopted in 1971 by the House mother of the home.

I have found out by contacting other people who were there the same time as Ian, that her name was Faulkner. The only other information they know is that he left one evening and never returned.

Initially the social worker would not give me Ian's name as she had to ask Ian's permission, but as no one can find him that would be a little difficult.

She reluctantly confirmed Faulkner the name she had, when I told her I now knew it.

Ian's middle name is Robert.

This is all the information I have apart form the Social worker said that he is not Dead, but he is not registered with a doctor in England or Wales. Which means he is either in Ireland, Scotland or Abroad.

If I find out anything else I will let you know.

Dave

Dave, I'm sorry if I have offended you - it was not intentional and was very unthoughtful & unfeeling to post in such a way.

I'm not trying to defend myself, but like the other helpers was just trying to find something to help you find a way forward - mine was obviously not the right way to go.

Have deleted my previous post.

Oh yes, sorry. My eyes and brain clearly aren't working in tandem today.

I'm confused how anyone has been able to start researching this with the information Dave has supplied?

I would like to help find Dave's brother, but at the moment there are no facts that I can follow.

Elliot,

Fairthorn is a helper who has posted a suggested family for Ian and Dave.

At a rough guess these people have you in their trees;
Carol, Richard, Abegail and Chris

I've clearly missed something. Aren't all trees private? How are people viewing it?
I now see the introduction of the surname Fairthorn? Where did that come from?
Clearly there are deleted posts as I see no reference to your family tree or your brother or sister, but clearly someone is lacking in tact!

I would help but without an explanation of the surnames, I can go no further.

Dave,

Unfortunately we might appear intrusive because we need to get the facts clear in our heads. Because your opening post was not completely clear, we were trying to work out what had happened to both of you. We do not mean to offend.

I still do not know where 'Faulkner' fits in.

I was trying to find more information and was hoping a middle initial might appear for Ian.

Could you reread all the posts and answer any questions that appear unanswered, as it should help us, including what information do you have from Social Services?

Thank-you,

Pat

First of all I would like to make it clear that I put this link on here, on the off chance that I might find Ian, I know about my details it is Ian I am trying to find.

I appreciated all the effort and interest that people have taken. What I do not appreciated is when people talk about my dead brother and sister as if they are files quote " so no need to worry about deleting them".

I know I am very new to this and as I say I do appreciate that people want to help, its just the way some people act, I find just find just a little intrusive.

I am happy and willing to answer any relevant question which might heip finding Ian but I can not see how it helps going through my family tree.