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Kenneth

Kenneth Report 11 Apr 2013 11:19

Have had a pleasant chat with Robin`s cousin, her brother and mother
were with her when I rang, she sounded a strong but very likable person, with her guidance I hope there is positive result to Robin`s quest, have PM her email address to Robin.

Penny

Penny Report 10 Apr 2013 06:08

Sounds like you have the right approach Robin .take it slowly and carefully.
Thing is, you will only get one chance to make the 'first contact' If someone does it for you , you have lost that chance to say what it was you really wanted to .
Its all very well to think 'If soeone makes the contact , then I'll write'' But if that initial contact meets with rejection you are stuffed.
When A post adoption Social worker write they do so in a certain way,- they write and introduce the idea, not the person.

I wish you luck. I have done it, with limited success, bith mother is now dead, so there is no more to be had

Feedom

Feedom Report 9 Apr 2013 22:51

Just to let you know that I was adopt out to another english family two months after my birh. They migrated out to Australia shortly after I was placed in their care. So no I have never met my birth mother or family.

Feedom

Feedom Report 9 Apr 2013 22:47

Hi guys

I am very pleased that you all are helping me out to find my family. It has been good to put the tree together and receive all the address and contact details. Since I am in Australia it is harder for me to obtain information. In the past few days I have received so much information which I have to thank all you wonderful people that are taking the time and effort to seek out the information for me.

I will make contact however I too am going very cautiously. I need to approach the right person. So I am taking all of your advise. Many cousellors make for good decisions.

So as the infomation comes to hand I am putting the peices together.

Penny

Penny Report 9 Apr 2013 12:48

OK, so what right does my cousin have to know my business- or for you to tell them?

What right do my chidren have to know of what they might percieve as unnacepable behaviour on my part?

Shoouldn't i be the one to ask, if i was in the situation you describe?

Kenneth

Kenneth Report 9 Apr 2013 11:06

Penny I can only try to help in a honest and sensitive way, if it
does not meet with you approval, I really am not bothered.

Penny

Penny Report 9 Apr 2013 10:39

Cant see its right myself to EVER approach ANYONE except the person that categorically knows the fats - that is, and can only ever be The birth mother.

Kenneth

Kenneth Report 9 Apr 2013 09:28

I have in the past helped many people find birth fathers or mothers,
or other relatives, and have never been accused of insensitivity, I
have always tried to make contact via younger members of the
families, I have a strong possible contact for a sister and cousin,
if because of so called advice from those that believe they are more worldly
wise, Robin decides to do the contacting himself, so be it.
I wonder if the person who reported Penny, was one of those who
PM me with kind remarks in relationship to my offer of direct help.
REDKEN

Choccy

Choccy Report 9 Apr 2013 07:39



A 'third party' approach is not the route I would have taken, but as Robin has made that decision I hope it all works out well for him.

I hope that Kenneth's approach to the relatives is more polite than his response to Penny's posting.



Penny

Penny Report 9 Apr 2013 06:10

That's good, Kenneth is allowed to be rude to me, I get reported for rude reply back!

Feedom

Feedom Report 9 Apr 2013 03:52

Hi to everyone that has been helping me in researching my family roots. I am going to pursue all the contacts that I have received. I will keep you all updated with my progress.

Once again thank you so much.

Robin

patchem

patchem Report 8 Apr 2013 18:15

Kenneth,

I think that telling Penny to wake up was not a very tactful reply, and makes one wonder whether you are the best person to approach relatives who are possibly up to 80 years old.

Presumably you have been in extensive contact with Robin off the boards and have been told why he has lost contact with his Mother and siblings.

Robin has been sent various addresses and so should be quite capable of writing letters from Australia.

We have had no response on here as to adoption or why Robin had no knowledge of aunts and uncles, so I think from what has been posted on the boards Penny's response was eminently sensible.

Kenneth

Kenneth Report 8 Apr 2013 14:35

Penny wake up the marriage was in 1964, possibly three children
Robin being the middle child, looks like father died 1982

Penny

Penny Report 8 Apr 2013 14:28

lets hope they know she had the baby then, otherwise all hell could break out.

Kenneth

Kenneth Report 8 Apr 2013 13:56

Robin lives in Australia, and has accepted my offer to contact the
English aunts uncles and cousins who I have found contacts for,
and acquire any information relating to mother and sister.

Choccy

Choccy Report 8 Apr 2013 13:33


PM sent with possible addresses.


patchem

patchem Report 8 Apr 2013 06:59

If you go to this site and enter the surnames Woon and Harrison and search for births from e.g. 1927 to 1947 there appear to be 5 children in the family.

http://www.freebmd.org.uk/cgi/search.pl

Penny

Penny Report 7 Apr 2013 22:27

Certs can be purchased on line and sent to you.

Can I just ask, were you given for adoption? If so, I wonder if this lady will appreciate all her personal info being on the internet for all to see? maybe discression needs to be exercised here

Feedom

Feedom Report 7 Apr 2013 22:22

Thank you for the details. I am just commencing the process of trying to locate my mother and sister, I appreciate your assistance on the information that you have all found.
Being from Australia it is difficult for me to purchase certificates as I can not travel to England at this stage.
I don't know if Sheila J Woon has any siblings. I know that her mothers maiden name is Harrison, but that is all I have.

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it

Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it Report 7 Apr 2013 20:21

Please Locator you post have sent info but it would help us other helpers to know what info you have found and are sending .

You have posted similar on other threads and we are left in the dark what you have sent