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I have a right to choose how people know/address me just as you do, had I known the hostilities of 'the few' on this board; I would have change it before using them, I trusted all in here were nice helpful people; sadly I was wrong, why on earth should changing my title suggest guilt, that may be your reason but not mine.

I must apologize for misjudging you, I had taken offence thinking yours [& the few's] onslaught was personal to me, however I now see I was wrong; after reading quite a few of your replies it appears 'sadly' that this is your natural manner, hence you will never offend me again!

I asked my friends as to what name I should chose 'they' came up with Locator, due to my successes I felt it appropriate & LOVE IT!

Oh I must add, myself & Georgette felt comfortable in replying to your nastiness on this poor ladies thread; because I had located what she needed; hence myself & Georgette felt she was not likely to return, sadly this could not be said for you lot; that have carried on on here for three bleedin days.....

For the record MY LAST COMMENT WAS 19-45 on the 23rd..

For some reason, Locater is jumpy about being addressed by her forename...............

dont worry about it, it dosent bother me in the slightest who reported it,
im sure genes will look into it all
just indicating its like behaviour from children!
remind me of hormonal teenagers! .... have to have the last word in,,,,, going on and on and on
maybe you should leave the thread alone and for genes to make there dessions on the matter
thats what im trying to do! but instead comments keep being added waiting on a response from others,
which is just going to drag it on and on, so again, ill try say goodbye
but im sure they be more comments on later to carry it on!

for information ................


I did NOT report Georgette's post.

Georgette posted ...............

georgettetaylor Report 24 Mar 2013 18:08

I haven't reported any coments ... I've got 2 options watch the goonies on tv or listen to them on here... chosing the 1st option ... more intresting.. goodbye


you really are not doing yourself much good you know, by calling us "goonies"!

We are the people who help you.

We are not the bullies ............

............. we just need to be given sufficient information that we can do what we like to do, and give you what you want.

If you consider being asked to provide more information is bullying, then I am sorry ...........................


you obviously have a very different sense of bullying, and a very different idea of what GR is all about.

There was no bullying on your twin thread, you and your mate just did'nt like anyone giving you advice so you kept deleting and starting again....which I am sorry is not the done thing, nor is reporting posts because you do not like the comments

I never said them threads...!!!!!!! Threads that u know fine well that I have deleated.... stop try to make more arguements!!

A couple of georgette's threads.......

http://www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards/board/ancestors/thread/1321637

http://www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards/board/ancestors/thread/1321845

If there is any 'bullying' in them, I'm using the wrong dictionary

as for informing a new poster on how to return to a thread ...................


This was Johanna's first post ....................... so she may well not know how to find her thread.


Most of us very gently add to any pm to a new poster ............... "In case you do not know, you can find your thread by looking in My Threads, clicking etc etc ................."

and this would allow a new member to return to the thread, see what others have posted (even if you do not agree with them) ............

............... but also allows that new member to thank people for the help given, and for the time spent.


Nowt to do with trying to beat you to the post ................ helping is not a "first to the post"!

All you needed to say when Patchem asked if you could provide some information on the help you had sent, was to say "re marriage" or death or possible address

That would prevent needless duplicate searches by other helpers ................ and allowing them the time to work with other requests.


................ and that would have prevented much of what has happened on this thread.

I go and have my tea and all hell breaks loose :-D

I think you have imagined being bullied Georgette, or is any sort of conversation bullying to you

I hope GR take this reporting seriously and Banns whoever has been doing it :-D

Georgettetaylor,

If you felt bullied then I am sorry about that.
I hope that you were always treated in a polite manner, and that guidance was offered, with your expectations being realistic.
You are asked not to put personal details on your post as it is against the guidelines of the site.
It is a balancing act between privacy and giving necessary information.

start a new thread.... what so can all start on me instead

Thanks Patchem - I had a feeling that may have been the case.

on my other posts, in the way i was spoken to .... when asked not to put personal details on my posts, they were ignored, telling me my search was more orless usless, ect ect.... i will give this a couple of mins and then i will remove all my comments off the thread

The friction on here seems to have been caused by Locater.

Therefore it is I that cannot understand what you are on about.

Georgettetaylor,

Could you explain how you felt bullied - possibly starting a new thread as this is really Johanna's post looking for Sidney Lamont.

Ah, I imagine Locater and Georgette must be friends.

I see that some posts have been RRd.

Rather a silly thing to do really as The Team at GR are well used to those who help on the boards and have often said how valued these members are because of the help they give.

CX

I put in my post of 20.07 that I had written nothing that justified my 18.20 post being rr'd.
And that Cynthia was the most helpful and polite person, and that jax and Reggie had not breached any terms and conditions.

My 20.06 post just went through a few points about board etiquette.

So my 20.06 and 20.07 then get rr'd.

I have not rr'd any of these posts.

Johanna,
Sorry, this is not a normal day, and I do apologise that you appear to be the innocent focus, it is not you nor your post.
Please bear with us until the storm has been weathered.

My word, Locater, you DO have a way with words don't you? I have to admit to being slightly insulted by the word numb skull though as, I am sure, are the others.

Perhaps you aren't aware of the absolute talent, expertise and experience of those who help on here.


Working by private message actually defeats the purpose of these boards apart from where privacy is required.


We are not meddling or bullying, we are trying to show and advise you how these boards work. We are a Community - we work together - we help each other to help others. We make friends on these boards with each other and, sometimes, with those whom we help.

We are not a private detective agency.



As for having a life you are, indeed, fortunate.

Many of us help on these boards because life has dealt us some sort of blow, whereby we cannot be as active as we once were.

For many, this is their way of helping others despite their limitations and I admire them wholeheartedly.


Cx