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pmsl Sharron you have such a way with words lol

~~ to Colin and all

Off to bed now, o.h. should be up and isn't so better go and make some noise lol

Have a good day,

Lizxx

He is not really like a three year old but he has just not let a small thing like having a major stroke get in he way of being the old git he has always been.

Just popping in to say hello. I have been reading posts and thought of adding, but did not feel quite up to it. I was typing a long post last night (our time) and had nearly finished. I dropped the mouse or something and pfft- post disappeared and message gone forever. I didn't have the heart to try again.
I notice that some of our regulars are struggling a bit with down moods at the moment. I am also fighting off a bit of depression.
Living on my own as I do, one of the traps I find is to stay in bed, reading or dozing. Far better to get up and out into the daylight, unless of course it is pouring rain or worse.
Today here was at times sunny but with heavy overcast at times. And incredibly windy. I found out later we were getting gale force gusts, which made it feel a lot colder than it was.
I had a laugh/cry today in fact. Not really a cry, just a b****r. I got the train into the city to see an exhibition at the state library and to deliver my old cheque book and deposit book to my financial institution- it is reissuing them for some reason. And of course it was Bank Holiday,
Noise in flats / apartments (we call them "units") is an issue here, too. In the 60s and 70s many single houses on reasonably sized blocks of land were demolished and replaced by two or three story complexes- the height limit was imposed by the lack of lifts and the need to provide parking.
Originally, most had carpeted floors but with the modern fashion for polished timber floors there is a problem. In theory, when an owner proposes to put down timber flooring he/she is supposed to get permission from the Council of Owners. Many do not bother and in other cases the Council says yes. By the time the problem is apparent it is too late.
I personally do not have a real problem about children living in units and playing in the surrounds. Where else are they supposed to burn off excess energy?
My girlfriend lives in a large complex (it was a very big block of land). Most of the owners and tenants are late middle aged to elderly, with some young singles. She says that during the day it is so silent it is like living in a cemetery. She is not morbid, just expressing the situation colourfully.
Warm hugs to those who need them- gentle for YCaz and others in pain; and smiles for those with tribulations of their own like Sharron. I really have little idea of what it must be like to be the carer of a three year old who is actually your father. I do admire you.
xx Colin

It only takes one family doesn't it Sharron. We are keeping fingers crossed, we live in a fairly quiet cul de sac. several teenagers live here, all are car drivers but fortunately none are any trouble. The house opposite is for sale 3 bedrooms, hope we don't get a problem family!

I am so lucky.
We live in one of those rows of rural council houses and have done since 1964.The neighbours on the left moved in in 1966,the other side in 1971,1972,the next house our friend moved out of ten years ago,having moved in in 1950.Two families haved lived there since,each having quiet children and the mother and son who live on the end have been there since the late fifties.
Our garden is 100 ft long.
It would only take one awful family to move in to spoil this rural idyll.I truly think how lucky I am every day.

Hi Liz

When i had my 3 kids i was on the 5th floor, So know what it is like having young ones in a flat. and i only had to very small rooms.

I think she is about 35ish. He must have gone to bed about 11.30 last night. So had a nice quite night until 5 this morning,then he was up running around with tv up loud. again didnt get told to turn it down. Then all went quite about 10am Looks like they have gone out for the day. So hope that will help him sleep tonight.

I am away for few days from tomorrow. So will have some rest from it.

But council dont think who they put where. When i was housed for the first time when i lefted my husband. I was put on the 2nd floor of block of flats of 12. the rest were young kids all who use to have party after party and 4 of the flats had they music on 24/7.

I know i am lucky to have a place but it made me very ill and in the end i couldnt keep going up and down the stairs as i have back and leg problems, so i was lucky to be moved into a ground floor flat. but a young lad and his mum lived upstairs,and agian had music going most iof the time.

I havent been lucky in anywhere i have lived.

Sorry to go on. But i am so happy living here i just dont want to have to move again.

Lets hope we can work it out. I dont want to have bad feeling with anyone.

Hazelx

Poor you Hazel. I think it's madness to put a family with three children in a flat, with no garden to play out no wonder they aren't tired enough to sleep but it's awful if they are left alone, especially at night. My son's flat is above an elderly lady but she says he has always been considerate and she doesn't hear him, hope when she moves on into care or whatever he gets someone else nice there, maybe I should put my name down, it's a nice little groundfloor flat with a small garden lol
His friend who got beaten up a while back (the lad whose dad died and whose Mum has cerebal palsy so now in a home) was given a flat when he came out of foster care but it was in a block with all elderly people, the lad was only 18 and kept having lots of friends round but was quiet during the night, the old people complained he kept flushing the loo during the night and closing the door etc and he has been told he has to leave, can't understand the council doing that, they should have put him in a different flat or told the old people flushing the loo is normal. Seems he is now sleeping on someone else's floor but my son is trying to find out and get him help to get somewhere different rather than lose the flat altogether. His older brother doesn't seem interested in helping him now he has moved in with his girlfriend and given up his flat and he has no one else to speak up for him, and comes to my son for advice, he having known him all his life (he was born on the first anniversary of my Dad's death and I took his brother into school when the Dad couldn't get out having to look after his wife and baby so I have known him all his life too.

Sharron, I have to laugh but do admire the way you look after your 'problem child' - your Dad doesn't know how lucky he is to have you there for him

Have added a saga on Just Jean thread, oh how that o.h. of mine drives me nuts!

Gill, glad you have renewed your membership, always around at night if you have problems and can't sleep and need to off load worries. Keep in touch on here so we can support you if you want it.

Lizxx

Maybe they could have a word with her to keep him quiet, or get her to put a rug down. Is she very young?

Yes i think she isnt there most of the time. I am hoping i am wrong.

You never hear her much. Can only hear the little one running round, now and then you hear the other 2.

Being they dont have carpet its very load and its right over my head when in bed.

I am going to give the housing a call Monday,

He use to go quite about 8.30-9 which i could cope with, but over the last few months has got later.

You have the odd night having kids up running around, more so if you have people round.


Hazelx

Hazel, that must be very tiring for you to have all that noise. You say you think the Mum isn't there. I hope you don't mean that you think the children are left on their own. Surely not they are too young.

Hi all

Why dont people who live in flats above people stop and think how much noise they make? There is 3 children who live upstairs to me, i am shaw mother isnt there as last night i had the little one thats about 3 running around all night, plus had it all day omn and off as well,

I know what kids are like i have 3 myself and i lived in flats, but i wouldnt let them run around to much(we had carpet)(they havent upstairs)plus if they were not in bed by 9 they had to sit and played quitley

My grand daughter is 4 and dont sleep very well but she knowns as soon as 8 aclock comes she plays quitely.

It has got me down today and he is still on the go up there.So looks like not going to get much sleep tonight. I dont sleep very well as it is.

I never hear the mother telling him to stop it. Plus she lets him play down stairs outside with the other 2 who are 7 and 8.

I cant go up to have a word with her as cant do the stairs.

Well sending (((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))to all who needs them

Hazelx

Ouch Sharron, hope all goes well with the extraction and hope himself doesn't go digging up the seeds to see if they are growing like a three year old would!!!

Hello everybody.Oh dear it's raining.Think fractious three year old cooped up indoors then multiply it by thirty and that is what I have.
He planted some beetroot seeds yesterday in a big pot.After I had dug it out from behind the shed and lugged the last of the potting compost up the garden to fill it he decided he couldn't carry out the task.
Well,that is like red rag to a bull to me!
I put the seeds on a saucer for him so he decided he couldn't reach right across the pot to plant them.Bloody well turn it round then!
Having shown him how to turn the pot around I went indoors and left him to it.

I suppose he planted them,he came rolling indoors smiling a bit later,demanding something to do.I haven't even got the end of the school holidays to look forward to.

I am having this painful tooth out on Monday,having demanded.It is the last of my wisdom teeth and I still don't know whatever I did to get them

Wishing you all well.Must go now and see what he is up to.

Thanks Mary


Gill

I am out here Gill, and have read your post. I am sure you will find the strength to get over whatever ails you.

Susan

Hi Gill and welcome back. Someone is always 'out there' with the time differences,. Hope the AD's dose is a huge help to you. I maintain on 40mg daily, but some days it just doesn't cover it.
You aren't alone, sending you a hug,
Mary

hello

I just renewed today, wasn't going too but I did anyway. I am now on 65mg of anti d's, one is a very strong one to put me to sleep at night. I have been pushed back and I have to start the climb back up again ... if anyone is out there and wants to read my post.

Gill

I seem to be out of positive things to say. I've had a shock - was notified this morning that a very dear second cousin, passed away this week after a 36 year struggle with MS. As usual there are regrets, that I didn't find the time and money to have a visit with her before the inevitable happened peacefully this week.
I hate being so far away from home and extended family.
Everyone will be home tonight so my hours of peace are ending. Managed to make a pair of curtains while they've been gone, not the long list I'd planned.
Eileen so good to see you here, missed you.
Hugs all round, going back in my shell.
Mary

Lovely to see you Eileen, we have not chatted for a while. How are you?
That was a tragic story you just told, bless them
We are all so fragile really aren't we?

Ann, I miss the big family so very much.
When we were young we had a huge extended family. It started to fall apart after my granny died.
The woman is usually the linchpin isn't she? (Is that how to spell linchpin???)
And when my children were younger our house was always full.
The table groaned under the weight of dinner for the kids, their friends and boy/girl friends , family.
I loved it.
How sad it makes me feel sometimes that the family has shrunk instead of grown. Ah well... such is life.
To all of you a hug if you want one, a smile and a kiss if you like, and I will see you tomorrow.
Love to ALL....
Deanna XXXXX

Hello Eileen, how lovely to see you. Sorry that you are under the weather and I hope that when you start the meds again you will feel better.
How sad for your son in law, his mother has a lot to contend with and, no doubt he doesn't normally see much of her.
What an awful storm that was in that village, I think we heard about storms on the continent. We had a lot of gale force winds here but nothing as bad as that.
Anywa, as I said, good to see you and I hope you will pop in again to see us soon.

Mary, I do hope that they can do something to help your son's girl friend and relieve the pain poor girl.
Lovely that the girls are enjoying camp and that you have had the opportunity to yet again be busy busy. No rest for you is there?
Had to chuckle at Gareth, he does like the water doesn't he? But he obviously understood that he would get no more boat ride if he disobeyed. And good that he was exhausted by it all, no doubt it slowed him down a bit.

Deanna, glad you enjoyed time with the family, always good to see them. I used to puzzle over this when my Dad used to always be so keen to have the family all together, wasn't worried about it when I was younger. Now I understand where he was coming from.