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Deanna Lol!! nag nag nag!!! But how right you are, that Mary needs a rest.

Mary, how on earth did you manage to take BOTH Sarah's medications? did you mistake it for yours and did you give her yours?? The mind boggles but please do be careful. Is ther anything at all you can let slide so that you can have an hour or so rest? see how we all worry about you.

O.M.G. Mary, PLEASE , PLEASE, be careful.
You are not only a nurse.... you are a GOOD NURSE.
So if you can do something as daft as that Mary, you
are exhausted love.
You need a rest.
I do realise that I am sounding like a male doctor talking to a pregnant woman with three little kids...... "Mrs Smith, you really must put your feet up and rest more".....
But you do need a rest love.
I know what I will do.... when Liz, or Dutch Joyce win the lottery , I will make them give you a huge lump sum, to make your life easier.
BUT.... not before I get my share. ;-0)
Liz, I didn't even miss yah...... ;-0)
So what are you worrying about? ha ha ha
I should have been in bed an hour ago, so good night folks.
I will sleep well tonight, my boy is home again.
Dear god, I'm such a worry wort ... He only went to a wedding up north.. on Sunday and came home today.... he is a grown man.
But sorry folks, he is still my baby..... but don't tell him that.
The day I stop worrying about him is the day you can diagnose me with senility.
Ah well I am off now.
See you all next time.
Look after yourselves and Carole, be careful.
The other Carole, hope your pooter gets some 'medical attention soon.
Love to all,
Deanna XXXX

Hello there, I am finally back at the pc after 10 days!! What a time I gave myself last weekend. I cannot believe I could do something so totally daft and careless. Namely swallowed both of Sarah's night-time medications myself. Took me 5 days to wake up completely. Severe headache, double vision, dizziness, confusion, completely snowed under by the med.
Woke up on Thursday finally, then on friday had to go and help my son and his girlfriend with a sudden move, which had to be done urgently because she was going under the knife today for a big nerve-release surgery in her elbow. The idea being that the place would be clean and tidy and as germ-free as possible for her recovery. Finally arrived home about 3am today. I am so hoping that the surgery will be successful, at the very least I hope it will provide a reduction in the chronic nerve pain she has endured for the past 4 years.
I am so relieved they have managed to find their way back to each other.
Got a ticket last night on the way home, C was driving, and getting tired, so apparently was weaving a bit on the road (she can't drink, it was total exhaustion). The ticket was because I didn't have the car insurance proof available - can you imagine that she who has driven a vehicle for 50 years could forget to carry the insurance card. More concern for my mental health!!
Have to deal with my stew which is bubbling a bit too enthusiastically!
group hug,
Mary

GoodMorning all just poped in to say hello to everyone
Liz if i won the lottery you would be the first on my list I have never met oh but already dislike him ,I keep hoping that one day you will go but to do that you need help ,and I would gladly come over and help you with your house,Jan is off now for three weeks holiday but not going anywere he wants to do things outside at the moment he is making lift to go under his motor bike so if it needs fixing he can jack it up,Caz hope your abit better and Deanna you do make me laugh,Colin nice to see you back i dont come on alot these days so much going on with the family ,Carole hope your ok have,nt heard from you for while
Betty sends her regards to everyone we chat on the phone to each other at the moment she has found two certs for two of my relatives who were born in Ireland,Then got another contact the other day to lady who is related to my family on my Dads side,well must go things to do ,take care everyone and best wishes to those who i may have forgot
Love Dutchxx
JoyceP nice to see you on again Caz always talks about you in anice way of coursexx

c and p from Friendly thread so I don't have to type it all again!

Hi all

Sorry I haven't been posting much, am just a bit low at the mo (and a poet and don't know it lol) so p***ed off with this wedding and finding the apparel for o.h. etc etc Spent ages in Asda on Friday trying to find a suit to fit the short fat git and then on the phone to another store where the woman did her best to source matching jacket and trousers in the right size, and finally couldn't, so have to go back to the local Asda and get the jacket that fits but is a lighter shade than preferred, and the trousers in the wrong size but right colour (all on hold for the mo for us) and then trousers will have to be shortened to fit his short fat hairy legs - yes, they really are!!
His son brought the tie he wants him to wear, it's the palest mauve I have ever seen, looks as if it is faded from the sun but with slightly ever so slightly darker mauve flecks in, like a sort of slub material. O.h. has been told it's to be tied in a Windsor knot which of course he cannot tie, so will have to get my son to show him how before we go.

I went into the city on Sat pm for an hour and managed to get a pair of mules from that cheap shoe shop Shoe Xpress is it? they are white and silver but will do the job I hope, couldn't find anything else I liked that fitted or that I could walk in, so once I decide for sure I want to keep them, will try and find a suitable bag. I hunted everywhere for a shrug - how I wish I had bought a white one when I got the black one form Tesco's in May - and found a lilac part linen jacket in Bon Marche, reduced to £20 and goes perfectly with the dress so I think with that, or the black shrug, or the stole I am going to make from the scarf, I should have something to cover any kind of weather - well it is going to be August Bank Hol Satuday so who knows what kind of weather we will get.

O.h. has got to do some different shifts on the week before the wedding, a couple of nights but will get an extra day off so will have time to take car to be cleaned, and to sort his stuff out well in time for our Friday getaway to the hotel, I will take some magazines and a book and he can go off and see his sons or do whatever he wants while I have a lazy evening there ready for the frivolities the next day. At least by the end of August it will all be over, his son will be on his way back to NY, touch wood, and the family day for his father's 79th bday will be past too and he will be on late shift so will have my evenings to myself for Tues, Weds and Thursday. Wonderful, will be the first time for weeks and hopefully will be like that for some time to follow, altho I also have to sort out a holiday for us too

Should I win the lottery in the meantime, disregard all of the above, as I will be off like a shot lol

Take care of yourselves, my concentration levels are shot to bits, so can't respond individually to anyone, much as I care about you all.

Oh and guess what, on Sat when I got home from shopping and before I started cooking dinner, I found a very chilled can of strong cider, the sort o.h. drank secretly before he met me, he had hidden it in his coat pocket on the coatrack near the door, I obviously caught him on the hop lol

I hid it up and later caught him carrying a further can in a plastic carrier bag up the stairs, he swore it wasn't a can but I am very experienced in spotting his secret stashes, he wouldn't admit to it but at least it stopped him drinking one can and he hasn't found where I hid it yet. I had a feeling this secret drinking was starting up again - it's no good for his diabetes and other problems, but heyho, if he is leading up to a binge at the wedding so be it, let his family sort him out, it's not my problem. He watched Heartbeat where the woman poured her hubby's best brandy down the sink and he completely sided with the bloke, swore no one was going to dictate what he drinks - yeah right! Good thing he doesn't drive much to work now, can you be done for being drunk from the night before and in charge of a bike lol?

Oh life is fun!

I am seeing my counsellor today and then on to see my new doctor. Having my hair cut on Weds so if they cut too much off there is time for a little bit to grow and hope to try out a spray tan to see how my skin reacts, don't want to go looking all pasty and pale.

love
Lizxx

Hello Colin lovely to see you again. Deanna I am ok and taking it quietly today, hubby is at his daughters wedding, went near lunchtime then came back at six to make me a cuppa and aome soup, now he has gone back for the evening do. He didn't want to but it isn't fair spoiling his and daughters day just because I can't go. I was a bit fed up but there would have been no one to look after me, hubby was needed by Sharon of course and the other person who would have looked after me is her mum, but being the mother of the bride she couldn't really do it so I opted for staying home on the promise of a lot of photos. Daughter is one of these girls who live in black jeans and tee shirts with doc martins boots. I asked her if she was wearing them under her dress and she said 'no, I have some white doc martins with a heel on', of course we laughed but blow me, when hubby came home to make my tea he said she had white docs on with a heel, lollol.
I hope everyone is keeping ok or the best you can be, might give you a ring soon Deanna, you are right about the phone, it is awkward for me to get to it sometimes and I fall, nearly did when Liz rang me last week, my right leg stuck to the floor and wouldn't move, couldn't lift it.

Take care all, love and hugs to all.
Caz xx

Hi Colin, nice to see you... and yes I am a very 'up and downer' sometimes.
On the whole though, a happy person.
Son & dil off up north to a family wedding (her family), leaving today... be back Tuesday.
How is your brother-in-law now, mentally I mean? He did have a whole lot of work to do trying to sort himself out after his cancer didn't he? Bless him.
It is sometimes so easy to fall into a depression, and often just as easy to jump out of it. Well it is for me... but then I'm your average 'nutter' ;-0) so don't judge yourselves by me.

It is a difficult thing depression, isn't it? It is one of those illnesses that no one seems to understand, not even people who have suffered from it.
I can go to bed happy as Larry...(whom ever he is) and wake up in such a down state. So why is that, and how many of you suffer like that? It cannot be my problem alone.

It is raining a bit here now, although the sky looks as if it is going to open up soon.
Those poor people in Pakistan, my heart goes out to them. AND YET THEY SMILE. The human race is so wonderful... we should give ourselves a break sometimes.we come through so much.
Having said that, I don't think I would be smiling. Those wonderful people are carrying their children and any meagre belongings and needs they may still have, and ploughing through water up to their thighs.

O.M.G..... no wonder I get depressed. I just have such worrying thoughts, but , can we ignore them?

Carole (Caz) how are you today love? Well,I hope and keeping warm as it is like a bad autumn day today isn't it?
Everyone else, stay warm, rest up, and be happy.
Speak another time when I don't sound so much like a mad depressive.... ha ha ha
Lots of love to all,
Deanna XXXX

Hello all, just a brief visit 'coz it is past my bed time. Special thanks to Joyce J of P for your kind thoughts.
That is a nice thought about dancing in your dreams. I was never a dancer but used to enjoy walking. On another thread, someone was talking about the soap opera Home & Away. The real "Summer Bay" has a lighthouse at the end of the peninsula. I have climbed the island up to the lighthouse a couple of times - the lighthouse itself is not open to the public - but I don't think I could manage it now.
Madam and I did go for a walk this afternoon. I was so pleased for her because she has been so wonky on her feet for weeks but coped really well, even with the stairs. Mind you, she walks too fast for me and by the end I was the one wheezing.
Hello Deanna, good to see you sparking again. We are all different. My blues sneak up on me and take a while to go. I think your variety would be harder to deal with, like being hit over the head with a cricket bat and be almost paralysed.
At the moment I am OK, but brother in law has been having a rough time. He had colon cancer early last year and 6 months chemo. Two hours drive each way from their home. He recently had a hip replacement, but it became infected and had to be taken out temporarily. He is at home, but obviously without a hip joint cannot go far. His wife (my sister) is the one who had a breakdown early this year. She is back at school but is doing administration only at present, not teaching. And this is a lady with almost 40 years experience: She started teaching about 1972.
Thinking of you all, and goodnight. Colin.
PS And I said I would be brief

Carole, I don't need to cross my fingers for you love... I rarely have you out of my mind.
I do not phone as I know how disturbing it is to get a phone call when we are not able for it, and just now, you are not able for a list of phone calls.
You also know, that if ever YOU feel the need to call ME.... I will be here love.

My BIL only has one week to go of his radio therapy, and then they will be able to have a chat (he and his consultant), but all seems to be well with him.

You too are going to be alright love, you have to be, we all need you here,. And that is no *bull*.
God bless love.
Deanna XXXXX

PS. wobbly on your feet is something I also share with you Carole, and my feet are RESHAPING themselves. Painful
too.
Lots of love XX

Joyce how lovely to see you again and such a long letter.
I am ok Deanna but a bit wobbly on my feet last couple of days, having trouble standing up without falling over, must be drinking in my sleep but I don't have a hangover, lol.
I started my chemo this morning so keep your fingers crossed for me that it won't affect my feet this time.
Oh I am being called for my tea, see you all later.

Love and hugs.
Caz xx

OOPS..... forgot to say, HI JOYCE.
Speak later.
Luvs yah.....
Deanna XXX ;-0)

There you are Carole (Caz)... I told you Joyce would be back.
She tries so hard, but just cannot leave us... she knows we need her.

As for the dancing Carole, NO ONE can take those beautiful memories from you.... ever.
And had you not been so shy about your talent, you could have been a professional perhaps.
ME.... I could do the normal 'swing around the dance floor' but no one would ever have
stepped back to watch me... unless I fell over, which I would have been very careful never to do.
How are you today then Carole? It is an up and down life love, isn't it?
But chin up, we will come through....
If my son were here just now he would be saying.....
"I hate you *glass half full* people"... ha ha ha
But we will ignore him and have a nice day anyway. XX

Better go as I am getting a little tired...
Where did all my amazing stamina go???

Have a lovely weekend everyone.
Lots of love Deanna XXXXX

Caz xxx
And dance again you will my bonnie lassie, maybe only in your dreams but it is in our dreams we are transported back to times when the world was our oyster. We were young, so full of adventure and carefree, so dream away and try to recapture those magical times lass xxxx It is in my dreams that I often spend time with my daughter Sue, I know she is happy which helps me to bear her passing xxx yes lass, I did have a spate of posting like mad but that was in a panic mode leading up to the anniversary of her birthday......unfortunately disaster struck us on that very same day when my granddaughters beautiful Cleveland Bay horse had to be put down..she was taken ill with colic and despite attempts to keep her on her feet she collapsed, even painkilling and tranquillising injections didn't help so the vet had no choice but to put her to sleep....life can be so cruel at times.........anyway my little sis, rest assured you are not forgotten and it is when you make a posting that I kick myself (not too hard lol) and just have to return your posting..who loves ya babe, ME XXXXXX

On a much lighter note I will bring all you lovely folk up to date on bits and pieces of news... to all of you who read of my plea for 'ladybirds' well! I eventually found some live ones on Monday which was roughly a month too late....moral in that story being only grow courgettes in the ladybird season to avoid blackfly!.....any newcomer reading that last statement will probably think I am a nutter which I am lol.....have now eaten my eighth 4" courgette, yummy......my tomatoes are just turning slightly red so look forward to a fine crop, as for the peppers well no one told me they grew so tall, no flowers yet but I am hoping....some neighbours think I am growing sun flowers lol.......

My bedroom has been turned into a store room and is stacked with cardboard boxes which are filled with every known item required to set up home....no I am not down sizing just setting up a survival kit for my son who flies in from Brisbane next Tuesday...when he moved to Oz six years ago he corporate rented out his home in Leics thinking they might return to the UK one day...they are not returning and this visit is to set in motion the sale of the property, so he intends reliving his youth as a boy scout and camping out in this empty five bedroomed house...his choice...I have a blow up bed, sleeping bag, director canvas folding chairs, folding table, tv.microwave,cutlery, crockery, bought in enough cleaning material to spring clean Buckingham Palace, even down to mops and buckets, and no I did not forget the toilet paper lol...and so the list goes on.....I so wish I was well enough to travel with him and help out but my daughter is going, along with Toby but she will be staying at my granddaughters who lives roughly 30 miles away....he will be spending the last four days of his visit with me which will be magical.... you above all know that feeling Dianna, a son is a son, is a son, yes xxxx

As for Toby, who could ask for more....he did have a couple of hiccups today though! don't ask me how it happened but early this morning I forgot to shut the front door! being so alert he suddenly darted out of the lounge, into the hall and out the front door and was about to take on some poor chap delivering leaflets, who froze, I grabbed Toby and all was well but only just, phew!...later and whilst waiting for a taxi I went out of the lounge to get a coat when I heard muffling yelps and cries, I found that Toby had somehow dragged my lovely and colourful knitted blanket off the back of settee and was entangled in it, the more he struggled the tighter it held him...it really frightened him but he is fine now......

On a final note......on the advice of my doctor I finally gave in to making visits to a chiropodist, being a diabetic and all that jazz about not nipping one's flesh.....I returned home after a visit this morning with not one but two toes bandage, why! because she was rather clipper happy, maybe she didn't like me lol.......

Well Deanna once again I did not quite make the 5000 word limit but you must admit I had a darn good try, my love to you and yours as always xxx

Take very good care folks and have a peaceful weekend..

Night night Caz, sleep tight xxxx

JoyceP

p s I keep forgetting to say hi and bye to you Colin, you take care also. xxx

Deanna you have no idea about me and dance. I love it but obviously will never dance again. We were taught ballroom at school and our teacher (man) said I had picked it up pretty quickly and so had to dance every dance with him to show the others the steps. How embarrasing, but it paid off when we went to my FiLs dinner dances. The best part was in the late fifties and early sixes when we went dancing, rock and roll and all that, I had a partner who was brilliant and we used to clear the dancefloor, others just watched then clapped, again embarrasing. But how I loved to dance, sadly never again with the damage to my back, making my legs not work properly.
You've got me wanting to get up and dance now.

Caz xx

Hi (Caz) Carole,
Joyce probably gets as low and as high as we all do, so don't worry.
She will be back.

I was not my old self for long yesterday Carole.... I went into a deep one in the afternoon.
OKAY NOW. ;-0)
We never know what will knock us, or when , do we?

I hope the chemo works better this time love, and does not cause you the pain it has in the past.
You WILL dance again Carole..... even if you were no good at before. ha ha ha

Good night to everyone and I too will be back.
Love and hugs to all,
Deanna XXXXX

Hi everyone, not been on for a while, been fed up and down and when I am like that I can't write anything or indeed want to. Thought I'd let you all know I am back on chemo from tomorrow, the doc looked at my feet and said they were healing nicely so put me back on a reduced dose.
My eye consultant wants me to have a ct scan on my head to see exactly where the cancer has gone to round my eyes, she can see and feel one but wants to know if there are any more there. Will it never end.
Colin thanks for the hugs I really needed them when you sent them, glad they were gentle. I have read all the messages but forgotten what was in them so you will have to forgive me if I don't mention them.
I don't know what is happening lately but my memory is getting awful, I hate talking as I can never remember the word I need and feel a fool, we used to laugh at my mum and grandma but I am the same now, lol. It's not funny when I call things by the wrong names, although hubby has a good laugh sometimes.
Glad to see you back to your old self Deanna, sorry I have not been in touch but it is the same with everyone, I have a laugh at what you send me by e-mail.
Where has my big sis Joyce vanished to? she comes on and writes for a few days but I haven't seen her for a while now.
Finding it difficult to type now so better go.

Love and hugs to all.
Love Caz xx

AH..... Well thats where you made the mistake Liz.... I AM a shire horse, but not so beautiful, or useful... ;-0)
Be back on after 'DOCTORS'.... TV programme.... not appointment. ;-0)
Bye all
Deanna XXXX

Deanna, you are forgiven lol, you only sounded like a little foal, not a big shirehorse crunching lol

Take care all, hope everyone is coping ok

Lizxxx

I think I got that wrong Hazel..... YOU had the 3 children, right?
Me too. But they have to have a bit of discipline, don't they?

I have had a really exhausting afternoon!

Tony & Karen came back after a day out.... not far.... with a bunch of roses and irises & babies breath.....lovely.

Then we were sitting having our coffee when we had a 'Skype' call from s&bil in Scotland...
It is a new web cam so their son was fixing it up for them.
We got the call, but no picture... I could hear them but they could not hear me!
I phoned up to see if we could sort it out on the phone....
WE THEN had an electricity failure.... as you do! ;-0(
I had to pull the wardens alarm cord to ask for help.....
Allan could not get the flick switch to work!...
Between phone calls and wardens calls, we spent a happy hour!
However, it was Allan' Scooter charger.... he had left it charging, WITHOUT covering the charger.....AND IT BLEW!

Well imagine that? And that from an intelligent man....
Still all's well that ends well.

Then we had to help fix the Skype
which we managed between us all. My son phoned at the same time and I had to put him off, bless him.... upset? NAH...... "don't you worry about me mum, just you speak to Noelle.... I'll just go away....."
Oh boy it is hard being a mum, isn't it? ha ha ha
He was of curse joking.
and it was fun, but tiring.
Still, it is fixed now and we can contact each other when we want to.
Then we sat down EVENTUALLY to out tea, which although always a cold meal, was tonight a hot meal.... and my wee pal phoned me.... thanks Liz.
So we chatted to the tune of my crunching..... Sorry Liz.

Well folks, I am now too tired to do anything.
I have had my tea, dressed for bed and will clean my teeth and be ready for EMMERDALE.... is it on tonight? Better be.

So,
Love to all.
Joyce, Dutch, Mary, Eileen, Hazel,Colin,Ben,Sharron, Liz, Gill.... and Uncle Tom Cobley and all, and Uncle Tom Cobley and all....
Sleep well,
Deanna XXXXX

Hazel, my heart goes out to you.
They should not have put a family of three children in an upstairs flat... they have to play somewhere, don't they?
But Ann, you are quite right.... it takes only ONE FAMILY which cares little about anyone else, to ruin an entire estate.
been there, suffered that, and it is not pleasant. It ruins your every day, and colours your enjoyment of your home.
BUT Hazel you are entitled to some peace and enjoyment of your home. You do not get it for FREE.... you are paying for it, so someone owes you a little respect... he is called
*the landlord*.... You can at least ask about what may be done.
You don't want to make an enemy of your neighbours, but you do need help.
Good luck love, you have had enough to contend with lately, so lets see if they can give you a quiet home.

Colin.... staying in bed with a good book is a luxury we CAN afford. SO, enjoy it. You are not taking anything away from anyone, and I think it is a harmless but enjoyable pastime. ;-0)

Well folks, I have plenty to say but Allan has made me a coffee, and as I do not eat or drink over my desk, I have to leave you for a while.
No no, don't cry... I will be back... tee hee hee
Deanna XXXX