General Chat

He'll go when he feels ready Sharron, probably without giving you any warning Lol!!!

It would be wonderful if Caroles dad,who is younger than mine,were to start achieving a bit now he has been freed of the stress of living with her mother.
Mine has filled the freezer again this year with blackberries.His mate has done most of the picking as he can't see very well.
He needs to get to the opticians just to see if he can get in.Then I need to organize his appointment to fit in with the bus times.
He is putting off going to the opticians now so it is just a waiting game.Can't do any more until he makes his move.

Just popping in quickly that I am still in the land of the living with paid up subs to GR.
No real news, I have felt a bit flat over the past month or so and barely got on top the computer.
No real news yet on sister and brother in law. He still has no hip joint and she is stressed out but doesn't want to admit that it is not just school, but hubbie as well.
I should get back to work, so ' bye for now.
Colin

Carole, I empathise with you, I always had to do things to please my mother, eg. pass my 11plus to please Mum (that was from her sister, my favourite Aunt.)
And when I went away to work in a holiday camp one summer, giving up a good job in an office, I was told off by another uncle for worrying my mother. I was 20 for heaven's sake and didn't come home pregnant but learned to be a bit independent. I never did anything right until I had my son, wasn't right cos I was a single Mum but she so wanted a grandchild and my brother's son born the month before, wasn't as close to my parents as my lad was, so I was sort of accepted. Mind you, I almost ceased to exist then, I was just G's mother, the means to a grandchild, and felt more or less invisible when I took him round there. She undermined me as much as she could, going against the way I wanted to bring him up, until I threatened to stop him visiting.

Keep on telling yourself you have only yourself to please, if anyone else is disappointed it's their problem, not yours. See how the neighbours appreciate and accept you that you can be responsible enough to put the bin out for them.

Love to all
Lizxxx

But I think that you are getting there Carole as you now recognise that is how she makes you feel. So well done, and let your sister do it all if she wants to, as long as you feel strong enough to put your foot down.

Sharron that is fantastic!!! You must all have felt thrilled. He sounds such a cheeky devil! Sort of thing my Dad would have done, he would do things like that when he was able. May your Dad continue to make these leeps Sharron.

Mum phoned yesterday to see how I was! I told her how dizzy and sick I had been, but of course her sympathy turned to how she felt like that. How hard she used to work! Never got any help from Dad. Just had to carry on. Oh then saying good bye, she said love you. Huh huh, yes bye Mum !
She is having decorators in at last (we refuse to be edged into doing it).
No one able to take pictures down everyone dropping ill like flies. But my sister has taken down her curtain vallance. Gardener is coming to move pictures and anything else she needs moving.

There was a note pushed through the letter box this morning, I saw hand wrote dissap I immediatly thought someone was dissapointed with me! It was next door dissapeared on holiday! Would we put the bin out next week! This is the sort of thing that haunts me. I always think people have this negative image of me. At Mums I was only a good girl if I was doing what Mum said. I just can't grow up!

I am so impressed by Carole. Those who have not lived it could not comprehend how much courage she had to muster and,oddly enough, the world has not come to an end!

Carole,you are amazing!

Sharron, well done your Dad, moving his foot is a big step forward (no pun intended).
Carole, I can empathise, my Mum had no sense of humour if the humour was directed against her.Sshe once refused to speak to myself, my other half and my Dad (who had done nothing) for 2 weeks when my OH made a funny - to us- comment to her.

It gets better.He managed to kick me tonight.That pleased him I bet.

On Sunday OH and I went out for a couple of hours,leaving the old man on the bed. When we came home he was looking excitedly at his right foot which he was moving up and down and he could do a hell of a push against my hand. Tonight,while the carers were putting him to bed, he shouted at them to look and he moved his whole leg over.

Doesn't sound much does it,but he has not been able to move them for four years since he had his stroke.Oh,well,not too long to the Olympics!

Hi all hows you?

I am doing quite good lately. Had another bout of the anxiety over the summer but it has dwindled. Sorry if I offend anyone who likes summer but I dislike summer. Because of the heat it heightens anxiety and I dont like breaking out into a sweat, darkness for only 5 hours, busier roads and more people running around.

One of my pet hates is self appointed mods of forums, members who have no authority whatsoever who think they are mods and they requote the rules to members. Who do these jobsworths think they are?

Took mum to visit dad Friday. She told dad she had brought him a banana, but Carole had left it in the car! So I said, she had also left it in the car. God did she give me the look of wonder. (What she had left it). Then returning to the car the bag wasn't there. It was still at my house. I had told mum to get a taxi to my house, and so she had brought in the bag, then forgotten it.
Feeling poorly yesterday (vertigo) I told mum I wouldn't be going to the hospital. So Mum told me to ring my sister! Tell her I wasn't going and see what sister was doing. Sister was at work so I sent a text. Sister said she wasn't going as she had lots to do. Guess what sister picked mum up went to hospital took mum home cut mums grass!! That wouldn't have got done if I had been able to go. I would have just said my grass also needs cutting and I don't have a gardener!

Carole,you are getting there.Good on yas!

As I have put on another thread,my mother died fourteen glorious years ago yesterday and the old man had his stroke four years ago today,so he had ten good years!

Just to even things up,the other half lost his job yesterday,Goddammit!
We will cope,we always bloody do.Doesn't everybody?Even when they think they won't.

Must go now.The old man has a new wheelchair and I need to keep him in sight.

I'm back!! Computer fixed last night (daughters new boyfriend works in IT).
I so missed not being able to reply to messages. And I normaly do my banking on line, and couldn't do that. I was getting spoof sites come up asking for all my banking details!! Thats was allerted us there was a problem.

Mary I love Disney I just know what a wonderfull place it is for kids and adults. Sorry about you all loosing your beloved pet though.

Eileen we pulled apples off a tree that over hangs our garden and Steve made some apple bread, and a lovely apple pudding. James brought us courgettes and tomatoes last night grown on his dads allotment. Steve will be looking at his new found Amish recipies web site for ideas for using them.

Sharron hope you and your dad are enjoying his crop harvesting!

Ann thanks for your kind words regarding my Dad. He is still in hospital and it's confusing to know what is going on. They say things that make us think he isn't well but talk about him being dischraged.

Colin how is your sister and BIL? How are you and your partner?

Must let Gail know I'm back on line! Hope she is okay. And Deanna so we can share jokes again.

Well picking Mum up again today will try catch Dr again! I got Dad off the sedative and he was much more alert yesterday . Although he did get tired after we had been there an hour and a half!

Caz thank you for putting up the thread and keeping friends informed as to how Dad was. It was very kind of you.
And I know Dutch hasn't been well so sending healing thoughts over to Dutch x

Claire hope you saw your black dog sooner rather than later. It's so much better if you recognise the symptos before they get a strong grip on you. Hope you have been to the Dr and started some treatment.

I ended my psychiatric treatment I hated it! Every week going into a room to talk! I just seemed to get moaning about Mum every week. Steve and people at work say I'm lots better and often ask what I am on, and can they have some! I feel more like I am an okay person and can act as me and not put on a front. I stil struggle with my two sides but the real me is coming through. I do worry about jokes I have made and if I have upset people But it's mum she is the one who gets upset at jokes made by her SIL's for instance, anyone else would laugh. But not her. No wonder I think I will upset people, I have grown up upsetting her and then pay with silent treatment cos she has taken a remark personally that others would just poke fun back at me. I have a friend at work who started with us a few months ago, she calls me names (four eyed bitch) and I tease her back but it's because we like each others sense of houmour! It's funny cos she calls me while stood infront of me with her glasses on too. My sister told her husband not to skit with mum, sister also told mum not to skit with her husband. So her husband said the circus was in town seeing mums pants on the line! Mum was very upset. Things like that she holds against people for ever. How can anyone have fun with someone like that? Oh here I go again !!!! LOL

My'"store cupboard"will certainly not be anywhere as full as Mary's.......

Not long in, have a lot to do, many mails to send....am suprised to see the sun, dire weather was forcaste for today.....oooppps, maybe I shouldn't alert the gods.

Eileen

Well,we have cut the tart thing and I don't like it.It is very rich and sweet but OH likes it.

Anybody want a bit?

what a lovely surprise for the girls Mary, wonderful memories for them too.

Eileen looks like your store cupboard will be full of jam when you have done then.

Bullaces.That's what they are it seems.

The jam is a bit sharp but very apricot like.Mixed some with ground almonds and egg and put it in a pastry case like a Bakewell today.Haven't cut it yet but look forward to doing so.

I am so pleased about Carole's dad,it all seems particularly relevant to me.He will be looked after now I am sure without wearing poor Carole into the ground with worry.

Wish MaxiMary was my grandmother.Wonder if she would adopt me.As if she hasn't enough problems!

Thank you Mary for explaining what cucs are.Hope you aren ot hiding your light under a bush(el)lol. Excuse the weak joke. Haven’t heard the word bushel for donkey’s years, it conjures up visions of nice plump milk maids and cheeky farm hands chasing them around the haystack….ha ha.

Apples and pears are available over here.Have been in the shops and farms for a couple of weeks.My old Conference pear tree is looking decidedly dejected. Have decided to have it dug up at last. It had lots of blossom in the spring, but most of it fell off, ditto tiny pears, now there are about 20 hanging on for dear life. Many did grow, but had chunks eaten out of them, or just rotted.The tree is not a happy bunny. The neighbours with the wild plum tree, have a quince tree growing next to the dividing fence out back….Last year there were sooo many quinces, this year, even more, but they are tiny. Have carefully pruned(with their permission) branches hanging too far over my garden,some almost touching the ground.I don’t like or use the quince but a daughter in Amsterdam does, so have given a lot to her over the years.
Never thought of using rhubarb in chutney…interesting idea. My sister only had a few red tomotoes last year, so made green tommy chutney, this year she only has 3 green ones, no other red ones at all. My tomato plants are another story…
I only red back to page 591, so didn’t mention any other names, but do think of you.Thank you Colin for mentioning me.I really must try to get on here more often……

Be happy and healthy all of you.

Eileen

Eileen according to the conversion table a bushel is just over 36 litres or 8 UK gallons.. All I know is, it's a very big basket with 2 handles and 2 people to lift it when full !!
Cucs are cucumbers!
I use rhubarb to make chutney with apples and sultana raisins. Love it, save the rhubarb till autumn when the apples are available.
Today I am Freecycling books and other paraphenalia of my son's, ,
Em has just squashed her foot in the door so have to put on my nurse cap.
TTFN
Mary