General Chat

When my husband went to tell her we were expecting our baby she said "don't ask me to babysit" and she never did, I used to go to visit her and she would go into the kitchen with her two daughters and shut the door and leave me in the lounge to look after all the kids.

Has anyone had a MIL who would constantly refer to your husbands old girl friends? I was at a jumble sale with her once and she picked up some clothes and told his x called .... would wear clothes like this. Why say that? Stories about him and his old flames, I always found this so weird and damn annoying!

I am the same Ann.....have this relationship with my MiL she never interferes or takes sides, never badmouths anyone, my Mum was like that too....

Luckily my two sons have lovely wives, I think they are great....

....and my daughter gets married after Christmas, so I will have a son-in-law.....

I think they are great......they think I am dippy.....

My, BiL and OH got on famously with my Mum and Dad as well.....we are so lucky.....

now that is hanging on!!! spose she never tried the lottery?

Many years ago my mother-in-law said to me

"you'll never hang onto him"................

We've been married 37 years.........

Glynisxxx

I'm a lovely mother in law - decided long before I had a daughter in law that even if I didn't like her, I would be nice - however, I love her like a daughter and could not imagine life without her - she's simply the best

some very sad stories. no-one deserves this kind of treatment, I find it hard to understand how anyone can be so cruel and heartless.

(((((((hugs)))))) to you all that have been bad mouthed and treated terrible.

I have a wonderful mother in law, and she would do anything for me and my OH and my kids even though one of them is not her real granddaughter, all the family love her even the extended family on OH's side-

I don't think you can quite have the same relationship or closeness with your MIL though as what you would with your mum. My mum was my dad, best friend and mum all in one. and I miss her everyday.

catherine
xx

Hi everyone
I am divorced and have been for 15years and my ex M.I.L. is 1 of the best and has a special place in my heart and always will she is a rock and i love her so much. I go to hers for dinner every christmas day with my children. Her son my ex husband has to go on boxing day with his wife and other children because she says i am having my Pauline here with me today and if you don't like it its tough as you can gather she dosen't like her new D.I.L much.

Pauline xxx.

My ex mother-in-law was / is the best thing since sliced bread.

When a marriage breaks up it's not just one person you split with. I miss the In-laws so much. Fortunately my ex is one of my best friends so I still get to see them, but it's not the same.

My partners mother is a witch... in 14 years I have never been offered so much as a crumb in her house, although she has been to ours many times.

Tina x

very sick Joy, who do these people think they are, demanding attention....

Colin, I am so sorry to hear of your story, what an awful woman.....I have a friend whose mother is the same sort, always going from one member of the family to the other, causing mischief.......she agonised over whether to keep in touch with her mother, and she has......but this lady still causes problems.....very sad......why on earth do they do it....

I am lucky to have Gertie, we always have a good old laugh, she is definitely a lady.....

my motherinlaw once

demanded our aunt

who was in hospital dying

was taken off the life support

and brought to the phone

as she wanted to talk to her

the hospital went mad with her

and rightly so

how sick is that

Colin that is so awful, seems completely evil. I can understand your feelings towards the woman, best kept out of your lives. Sometimes although painful at the time the best thing to do is cut ties completely. I still see my sons grandparents around and we just ignore each other and get on with our lives. Once I left my ex they didn't want any contact with myself or my son, their loss.

Hi Ann :):)

It is Hayley and the family I feel most for , they have all missed out so much in their lives. Hayley is an accepted part of my side and accepts history wont change but its sad the way life has treated them all.

Oh Colin, how absolutely awful for you, so hurtful

Hi CG, Hi All :):)

I am sorry to hear your mother in law treated you in that way, no one can blame another for not wanting contact in those circumstances.

In a nutshell with my own and without going into other stories that happened.

Mine initially left my wife who was eleven at the time home alone with four other children, the youngest being less then 6 months old., They all ended up in childrens homes. That was the very start of it all. It was forgiving for many years and fresh starts made. Over the years numerous things happened, My wife was dragged downstairs whilst heavily pregnant, I was then accussed of assault for dragging her off. We never spoke for a few years after that one.

After a few years again she was forgiving and we tried to make amends, She tried to take over our children and at one stage told my wife she wasnt fit to look after them. Utter nonsense and jelously followed. Mother in law went round to each member of the family, telling each member that the other didnt want to see them or have anything to do with them, It caused a divide of mistrust between them all even till this day, no one knows what is what anymore, we still keep in touch but its distant and not as a proper family should be. so much hurt and pain caused all the way. I tried to keep the family together , bringing them into each others lives a little but each time mother in law started the same old games.

Mother in law topped all of this in the end by going on national television and telling the world that she loved her dogs more then she ever did her children.

I dont think I ever want to speak with her again.

Colin, hee, hee!

My ex MIL was a false cow, nice to my face most of the time but a complete you know what starer behind my back.
My ex was violent and when my son was one I finally had my ex carted off by the police. We had a dog he adored and his mother knowing what he had done rang me up the following day asked how the dog was and not to forget to feed it. Never forgot that, that was the last time I ever spoke to her.

Don't have a mother-in-law anymore she died many yrs ago but I never ever remembered her interfering.

I'm a MIL myself always got on well with eldest sons
wife & daughters husband but my youngest sons wife would never let us get close to her & neverspeaks to us now its not very nice but we have had to accept thats the way its going to be .....

Mines been so nasty over the years I told her the next time we speak will be through a clairvoyant :):)

the worst thing my MIL could say to me is

"I'm coming over to see you"

Whirley puts house up for immediate sale, at knock down price.......whoosh am gone.....

Oh Rach - ignore them, go for your dream - there are lots of little ones just waiting for a home and you are there longing to give them such a place - go for it and if they don't want to be involved well leave them to it - they will be the losers and end up lonely and forgotten. Go for it