General Chat

Sadly Carol the power is with the people who decide to target anyone they see as weak or sensitive.................not pleasant and very difficult to stop.

It is rare, but the danger of sticking your neck out puts a lot of members off posting on debates, hence the increase in fun threads maybe.

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Good morning all,

Well as Kitty has pointed out men can father children into their 80's. My dad was born in 1914, I am happy to reveal my age, I was 49 last month, so Christine does that make you 48? :))

I am also relatively new to GR and I too, like many others, only post on what I consider 'safe threads'
I hate arguement and, always have, I would hate to upset anybody or cause a row, so I always avoid controversial threads. As Chrisitne has said I was always told If you have nothing nice to say then don't say it, and I live by this.

I enjoy the boards on the whole. I read many threads but only add to those I feel comfortable with.

Ann xxxx

Yeeeh the big 50 next time lol

On that we are in complete agreement, Christine.

Gwynne

Elaine - quite agree with you.

David - can understand Dee's sensativity ,l am like wise and my threads nearly always get ignoredl deleted about 4 the other day:o(((

jude sarf wales :o)

Off out now.

Respect for others feeling seems to be lacking in debates, as Uggers has just said.

Mo I know of several others that feel the same way about debates........I am not a coward, but I still get hurt by those who seem to enjoy being cruel to others.

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I think there were less arguments on the site during the earlier days as predominately the boards were of a genealogical nature.

We had our fun too, quizzes, my now departed old conga thread, debates, good humour and fun.

More people would add to the threads because in those early days, it was free to do so on certain boards.(think this was the guest book)

It was a bit like a train station, fast moving threads, keeping our minds quick.

Now and again the odd flare up would occur. as it would do in a room of people who met up on a regular basis.

Then we got bogus members registering & posting nasty stuff during lunchtimes, and after school (get my drift ? )

Gr closed the boards to full members only

Overnight the board went from fast pace to snails pace. Threads stood still for ages.

Membership shot up and so did the posters, we learnt we could change our names..

we did so. It was the worst thing Gr could have possibly done. it was then the boards changed for I believe the worst..

It enabled a minority of members (minority in meaning a few, no particular individual) to change their names just to cause trouble, others joined to cause trouble as new members, but sometimes it was an existing member with an extra new account who used their knowledge of past rows to stir up trouble

I like the idea of having a real name and board name, however I think when we register or proper name it should be only changeable with the consent of gr, so in every case, when you click on the boardname, a true name is revealed each time.(even though I know in some cases a surname shown can be damaging for the person for their own circumstances, they could change it with Gr consent

I'm optimistic this new look site will also bring a more peaceful board..

Here's hoping.

E x

Men can father children into their 80's, so you must all be very young! lol

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Carol, I wouldn't disagree with everything you've said but to turn one of your questions back to you, how would you feel if every time you tried to add a more serious and thought-provoking thread it was virtually ignored and was pushed down very quickly?

Because she can no longer read the boards, I can say that this is what happened to Dee the Biblomaniac. Although her quizzes were popular, she is a sensitive and intelligent soul who enjoyed discussing a range of subjects but most that she started vanished with only a few adding. That's very hurtful for those of a sensitive nature. They have a right to be respected to. Very few will carry on trying forever when there efforts get them nowhere.

Mo..............good morning, you are very funny and good at the quizzes

Chris.............a thread I posted to counter the negative ones on the same subject got me the nasty PM's........never again!

Gwynne.......I was 15 in '69, too young and innocent for any real fun! lol

*gets the calculator out to guess CC's age*

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Hi Chris,

This morning I feel a lot older than my real age.............

Let's just say the Summer of 69 holds many happy memories and leave people to do the sums, shall we?

Gwynne

Great to see you posting, Jean.

Much love,

Gwynne

Age brings wisdom though Gwynne, as you show with a lot of your posts.

Morning Jean, I received support recently too as did Clive's family and Honey's grandaughter.

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Good Morning All,

Agree with David (the original Divine One), Gwynne and Jeanette.

I felt so much had disappeared from these boards until 3 weeks ago when I was amazed to find how much support I got from old and new members alike.

The boards have definitely changed, and not for the better in some cases, but if anyone needs support it will always be found here.

Jean x.

We agree on many things, then, Christine, as ever. lol.

I don't believe we will ever see the same unity of purpose again on general as there was with the support for Gaynor when she was ill.

Times change but it's natural for people of my immense age to have nostalgia for happier times past.

Gwynne

Think it was mostly Dave, Gwynne, cos he was usually first about:) There was usually a good morning thread and a breakfast one, as you say, both of which would last a few hours. I don't see the point of 20 people all starting good morning threads but it could be that those who start them know or get on with those who've already started them.

Good point Uggers and Gwynne.

I have only ever known several good morning threads on general, but since the changes we now have half a dozen split between general and chat.

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Wasn't it Dave Bennettt who added the good morning thread? We all used to add to that, instead of there being several.

I took it over for a while, then Em.

And we used to have the Sunday morning breakfast club but that withered away as well, after Paul left.

Gwynne

Hello Jude.......you don't talk rubbish.......not always, anyway :)) lol

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The early mornings were really nice and chatty too, usually just a thread that most of those who were up added to.

Gwynne, how long did the Agnes thread last for? lol

Hello Kitty:o)

Gwynne has summed it up really!!
As she says there has always been disagreements but things were'nt taken to the extreme as they are now, or very rarely. People get too personal now, accuse you of things that are'nt neccessarily true - make's you very wary to post.
l don't remember feeling that l had to ignore threads or names - where as l do now - very sad:o(((( but then perhaps people feel they have to ignore me and my threads, spose it goes both ways (but then l usually talk a load of rubbish - lol)

Have a nice day:o))

jude sarf wales :o) x
PS l think the changes to the boards have definately helped. But the owners are really only interested in making ££, where as before we the members counted!!