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Lisa

Lisa Report 16 Oct 2003 09:25

Only started my tree last week and am already addicted. Hoped I would find my ancester were of noble birth, or authors, poets, scholars. . . Have opened a whole can of worms. Shot gun weddings, illigitimacy, 'aunts' who turned out not to be... I am descended from a long and noble line of domestic servants. Can I receive counselling on the NHS for the stress I have suffered? Or is there someone I could sue?

Eileen

Eileen Report 16 Oct 2003 09:29

Hello Lisa, You will find worse then that, be assured. But it is great fun, let me know if i can help in any way Eileen

Lisa

Lisa Report 16 Oct 2003 09:36

Well now you've offered...! My great grandma had my grandad and then seems to have given him away as he is in the 1891 census as a 'nurse child'. I am now trying to find out if she later married. Can't find either of them on 1901 census so I presumed she had another name She is Mary Hannah Boyes, dob 1867 He is William Carter Boyes dob 5/3/1890, living with the Wilson family in 1891 in Swinton, Yorkshire. There are two potential marriages on Free BMD, do I have to order both certificates to find the right one? Any ideas gratefully received.

Dave & Sally

Dave & Sally Report 16 Oct 2003 13:49

There are several Mary Boyes on 1901 census, in the right area . Perhaps she gave her wrong age. There is one that is 36 Sally

Lisa

Lisa Report 16 Oct 2003 14:13

I will investigate 1901 again. Have already spent too much money fruitlessly searching though, so will have to pace myself! Thanks for looking.

Monica

Monica Report 16 Oct 2003 16:15

Lisa, are you sure she gave him away? Perhaps her milk dried up and someone was "wet nursing" him on the night of the census.

Lisa

Lisa Report 16 Oct 2003 17:12

I am pretty sure, she is working in Pickering as a general servant which although not a long way nowadays was a bit of a journey then. Perhaps she saw him on her days off? He did keep the name Boyes as that was my maiden name. I kind of hope she married and took him to live with her, but that's just me being an old romantic!

Len of the Chilterns

Len of the Chilterns Report 16 Oct 2003 23:14

Lisa I was a counsellor for 10 years but I am afraid that we would not have offered counselling to someone suffering from genealogy pox. It is an incurable disease. You would have been referred on. Still, you have a lot to be thankful for. Most of us are descendents from "Ag.labs". When I first contracted the disease, I approached an elderly aunt, who still had all her marbles, and asked what she knew of the family. Her reply ? "Tsk, tsk. You don't want to know about that lot" I never did get any more information from her. Len