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now my youngest is 18,the divorce settlement came into effect,and last sunday,i moved out of my lovely house,into a much smaller property,just big enough for the two of us. ive left behind,all the happy memories,that we as a family ,built up over the years,the times we laughed,cried,argued about holidays,boyfriends,hormones. but worse of all,its the first time ive moved as a single man,no partner to share my thoughts,my worries,someone just to say..dont worry,we'll have this looking homely in no time..women have this knack of visualising,something us fellas lack. well ime not online for another week,my pc is at my daughters,and i pop in here for an hour in the afternoon,and a couple of hours in the evening,just to make sure,that your all behaving lol. bryan.

hi brian i can feel your sadness i know with time you will cope with all things that are different to you now, life is so hard at times but i really hope you will be happy again and maybe even settle down with another love and gather many more memories, take care hugs to you tina xx

brian i do feel for you, moving on your own is awful, i did it 2 years ago, but then i have moved around alot with ex marriages and pubs, etc. etc but like me you will always have those lovely memories, nothing can change that, a house is a material object waiting to be turned into a home, and it will be your home before you know it.have a (((((((hug)))))) and if you need a moan we will be there for you take care hun sandra

Bryan, look on it as a new start and a time for making new memories and happy times to look back on in the future. On a practical note, I've studied interior design and in my opinion the best magazine around (some of them are far too unrealistic) is BBC Good Homes. Have a browse and there might be some small touches that you like the look of and could adapt for your new home. It must be a very stressful and unsettling time for you, but you will soon feel at home I'm sure. Love and best wishes, Mandy :)

Hiya brian i knew you were moving but did not know the reasons so dont let it get you down if you can the sooner you get back online the better for you and us at gc take care i will send you a funnytale sandra

thank you all very much,just writing your thoughts down is good therapy,so i keep telling myself anyway! might take my own advice,and get some vitamin B6,probably wot i need. ime flat sitting for my eldest tonite,shes met a guy online,so i insisted i meet him first lol,you wouldnt think shes 22,and wasent happy at my suggestion,but it gives me a chance to be online lol. thanks for the emails,theres so many kind folk on gc,youve all helped to cheer..old grumpy..up. i took note of what mandy said,and ive found a really good site online,with amazing help for painting,decorating,colour co-ordinates etc...if anyone wants a look its. http:// www(.)bozzle(.)com/ bryan.

Bryan - we moved from Sussex Dec 2002 - leaving behind good,bad,funny,sad,hilairious,magic times - but it was the best thing we have ever done.Live for today tomorrrow may never come - enjoy,be happy:o)))))))))) Jude s wales x

Hi Bryan - I moved into this place 9 months ago and it was move number 35. You always have the memories and now you have the opportunity to make a new life and new friends but make time for the old ones too. I wish you all the very best and hope you won't be sad for too long. Eileen

Bryan, I know I've been there too. After I was divorced I had to sell the house. The house where my children had been born, grown up, brought their friends too. I had lived in that house for 22 years. My youngest (at 20)was with me the day I moved out. I said to him, 'don't look back, just keep walking, this is a new phase for us'. We did just that and a while later I met a lovely guy and did what I swore I would never do again....get married. That was 12 years ago, and I've got a lot going for me now. Take care, Jo.

Hi there Brian; I have been through the experience that you are now having. It can be very hard but believe me you will get through it. I ended in a flat feeling totally lost when I got home at night, luckily I had a few good friends who took control of me, and 2yrs down the line I met my present wife and we started living together. That was 18 yrs ago and we have now been married for the last 7yrs. Although my wife is a lot younger than I, we get on like the proverbial house on fire and are extremely happy in our little bungalow. I have wonderful step-children (all adult) and a very supportive daughter of my own. My son hasn't spoken to me for 20yrs but what the hell, thats his loss. So chin up mate all is not doom and gloom, and life can get better. You never know, having announced that you are free on this site. Your card might have already been marked LOL Cheers Ernest.

thank you all very much...ernest that was really nice of you. bryan.