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thank you dave. dont delete this thread its helping so many people.death of a child is one of the hardest things to talk about face to face,but putting it all down in writeing on here and shareing the pain so many of us feel,is like a sense of relief. so so many kind poeple who understand and send best wishes and love really helps. i for one and i think i speak for alot of others too, thank you for starting this thread,youll never know how much youve helped. thank you. debs.x

Someone I knew was run over a few years ago when she was the same age as me. I didn't really know her but I thought it was quite sad. When I went to the funeral I felt so sorry for her parents' loss. Lucia

I can't imagine what you that have lost angels are going thru but my heart goes out to all of you!! Sending you all lots of Pink Fluffy hugs Diana xx

Debs it makes me feel so good that you think my thread is a good idea because when I read some of the sad replies I had thoughts of pulling it! Thank you so much! Davex

my heart truelly goes out to everyone on here who has lost a little one,they were all to special for this world thats why god chose them to become his angels. i know the loss of a child only too well my precious god daughter was taken by the hands of her mother at only 18 monthes old,we console ourselves in the belief that she is safe in the hands of god and will grow up happy in spirit,weve just celebrated her 2nd birthday very emotional day for her daddy,nan and me. i think this thread is such a good idea because so many of us are shareing our grief its helping the healing process. luv debs.x

My brothers daughter died aged 10 of an asthma attack, it devastated the whole family, it was there only child. They went on to have two more now, Wendy.

Hi Bob, I do, sadly, remember your loss. I didn't realise though, that David was a twin. What a hard day, their birthdays will be for you. Full of mixed emotions. I know you'll cope though, we'll be thinking of you and your boys. Deepest regards, Debbie

Bob you are welcome hope you and your family are getting over things a little bit now hopefully each day becomes a little easier! Dave

Thanks for this thread. As most of you know we lost our 'angel with broken wings', David (14) to Muscular Dystrophy in February. I would echo Debbie in not wishing the experience on anyone. Having to agree to turn off life support to our son and try and convince your wife that there was no other option has taken something from me. For those who gave support we are not too bad. David would have been 15 on the 27th of this month which also the birthday of his twin Matthew, so that will be a strange day. I know from the mails I have received that many have been or are in similar positions.Some I know personally. Let our thoughts be with them all. Bob

Oh Debbie you are truly a wonderful person take care, We had 2 friends one of them made a remark innocently when she was pregnant saying I hope I dont get a disabled child, nothing wrong in the remark we all hope our children are born fit and well,The other lady said to her 'you wont get a disabled child God only sends them to people he knows can cope with them' I believe this was also true people who care for disabled children are so special! Davex

Hi Kerry and Dave, That's just how I see it. He was too good to be kept here. Our son died of a cruel, wasting genetic illness. In the end it was kinder that he went to a 'better' place. I miss him every day, but I know he's here, around me. I talk to him, sometimes. What do you think, then...? I only have pictures of when he was a happy, healthy little boy. That's how I want to remember him, not how he was when he died. And I know, one day, I'll see him again, and he will be happy and healthy then too. Like you, Kerry, I'm not religious, but I do believe in a life, when we depart this one. That's where he'll be, when the time comes. Bless you all, these losses are hard at times, easier at other times, but never completely unbearable. I think it makes us stronger, in a strange way. Debbie

I`m not very religous and would never force by views on anyone but I found comfort in thinking that our child was too good, too special to be on earth and that god had given him/her their wings early.I know he/she will row in heaven and watch over us until we meet again.I am a mother to 2 children, one here with us on earth and one angel waiting for us all in heaven-until the day we meet again my little one xxxx

Debbie and Kerry I am so glad that you are not offended by the thread and it has helped you to talk about your sad losses. Davex

Debbie that is beautiful, trying to type through tears! I too am not offended. I lost our baby last month and it was so great to come on here and talk to you guys who gave me so much strength and support. I will never get over the loss of our little angel but you lot have helped me to try.I have to be thankful that I have an angel here on earth still!

Hi Dave, Just 'popped back' for an update. You wrote: 'I just hope that my thread has not recalled some of those feelings to much if so I apologise to you!' Personally, not at all. It's good to talk! He was my son, he lived a happy, but short life. I love to remember him, recall funny stories, things he did, and said. We are lucky to live in a more 'open' society, where these things aren't kept locked away in our hearts, but where we can freely speak about passed loved ones, young or old. Unlike years ago, when they were more likely to hide away the fact that there had been other children, who had died. And thank you, for starting this thread, and trying to understand what it's like. I sincerely hope, though, you never find out. Debbie

Some of these stories are so very sad but reading them you get to understand just a little bit how people feel now, and also at that sad stage in their life. I just hope that my thread has not recalled some of those feelings to much if so I apologise to you! Davexx

Hi everyone just be looking at all th comments.We lost our son in a drowning accident in the late 70s,he was just coming up to his 16th birthday. We often wonder how we got thro it all and still feel the loss greatly. We were looking at some of his old school photos and the pain was unberable when we realised that three other children in the photo were also dead.One suicide one road accident and one from cancer.

Evening everyone, What sad stories! It's heartbreaking to lose a child. As Dave say's - 'it's not the right order of things'. A parent, should never have to bury their children, no matter what age. We lost our 11yr old son, 7yrs ago. His birthday was in February, when he would have been 18. Quite a young man. This has been the worst 'anniversary' for me, so far. Probably because it would have been such a special birthday. I wonder every day, what he would be doing, now. He would have left school now, what career would he have carved for himself. As a tot, he always wanted to be a fire-engine driver. Perhaps that's what he's doing 'up there'. In a baby castle, just beyond my eye, My baby plays with angel toys that money cannot buy, Who am I to wish him back into this world of strife? No, play on my baby, you have eternal life. At night when all is silent, and sleep forsakes my eyes, I'll hear his tiny footsteps coming running to my side. His little hands caress me so tenderly and sweet, I'll breathe a prayer and close my eyes and embrace him in my sleep. Now I have a treasure that I rate above all other, I have known true glory - I AM STILL HIS MOTHER. Debbie

I nearly lost my son twice but thanks to the hospital I am very thank full he is here. My brother's wife had a still birth 20yrs ago and my other brother's girlfriend at time lost a baby at 6wks old but I have not lost any live kids that had been born yet and I thank god I haven't. I did have miscarriage would have been 13yr end march but then I think John would not have been here

One of my mum's brothers died aged 15. Both her brothers died before their mother, my grandmother. My mother-in-law's first child lived for 2 minutes. My sister-in-law lost a baby in the womb at 5 and a half months and I miscarried my first child. I am thankful every day that my children are healthy. nell