General Chat

Quite right Kerry, thats what I said..things work out differently to what we expect- 22 year career?? Who should ask any man/woman to sign for that? LOL Just expect more than 6 months- after all as a tax payer I paid for your training?????? Then 6 months maternity??? Don't mean to sound harsh- just when people shout about immigrants? What have we here???

Ruth, i don't think anyone has said there is anything wrong with it, we are just trying to understand the system. Mike, it is accepted these days that young people want a family and a career, i see nothing wrong with that. Gone are the days when you were kicked out of the forces when you were pregnant, or going back even further, when you got married if you were female. This is 2005. Kerry, i must admit to being surprised that your pay is so low that the nursery fees absorb most of it. As an ex civvie I always though we were much lower paid than our military (I was going to say opponents -sorry) opposites. Ann glos

Shelli, despite losing out buy a few quid a week i have no regrets of being a married mum

lol Bendy,you just want to eat him though!!! Seriously though, he is my number one priority and I`m his mum first and foremost, a service personell second and that`s how it`ll always be. This money is what I`m entitled to and I will use it to give my son the best. Sorry to rant but how many people would not use it?? It`s for him and him only!

Too right Kerry - he's scrumptious!!

Ann, yes. I will get less when we marry but thats the way the system goes and I can`t complain! Mike, I joined the forces with the intention of a 22yrs career. I was using the injection as a form of contraception which didn`t work and I fell pregnant. Yes, by accident but things happen and there was no way I was going to get rid of my child!! I didn`t plan it to turn out this way but things happen for a reason and I wouldn`t be without him now

Bella In a word yes they will be treated differently miss B and miss B allowances will be worked out on their wages alone, whereas Mrs jones allowances will be worked on the joint income of herself and her husband

nursery fees mite seem to b high but i work in a nursery ( it is considered a well paid one too !! ) and i earn just above minimun wage !!!!! p.s. the place i work isnt a profit making nursery

problem is the wages should be calculated together which they would be if he lived 4 nights a week.but by living 3 nights a week only one wage is calculated.

Chris buys him thinks yes but that is alright! Lou, I know you get benefits whether your married or not, but I know it`ll go down alot in Febuary as at the moment they base the working family tax credit on my wage alone and in feb they will have chris`s wage to take into account too

Sorry, but I'll ask what no-one else will--- Why take a career in the forces when its obvious you started a family?? Sorrrrrryyy, but if I want a career in the Forces I don't get pregnant at what 20/22? Thats not a career- and if that hurts again sooorrryyyyy, A career means long -term??

Kerry, so does that mean you will be worse off when you get married? Ann Glos

Thank you for that!!! I get no income support at all and think you are right in what you said Margaret

kerry it doesnt actually matter whether u r married or not it simply depends on him only staying overnite 3 nites or less if he stays more than 3 nites then his wages wud also b taken into consideration as well as urs, whether ur married or not :-)

Sorry but i have to ask this question, If the partner who stays with Miss A 3 nights a week earns,£200 and the partner who stays with Miss B 3 nights a week earns £400 week, are the mums treated differently to Mrs Jones who's husband stays 7 nights a week and earns £ 250 a week?

Kerry - not being personal but does Chris contribute financially towards Kian's keep or is he prevented from doing so?

I may be wrong but tax credits arnt the same as income support. Kerry is working and is therfore entitled to family tax credits regardless of the fact she is a single mum, or living with her partner. She has a child and her income is below the level the state allows. If she was on income support and living with her partner she wouldnt be classed as a single mum and would be given her money as such. But if she was living with someone and claiming as a single mum then its fraud. But only for income support.

i`ve just kicked out my partner and told her to come back in 4 day`s,or could i get away with her living in the shed for 4 nights. xxx

If I didn`t get any benefits, nearly all of my wage would be gone on Nursery fees!!!

Kerry, It's not what you pay now...all pensions etc are what has been paid in the generation before? Thats why there's no money??? Last generation paid - this one doesn't! You don't take 'whats yours?' You haven't paid into ityet ??