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What a shame....I am really ashamed of myself as I have watched this going on and did not dare say anything and these people are on the boards as if nothing has happened. And like me we will probably sit here till the next vunerable person comes on and they wear them down till they expolde and get suspended then we will all be here again saying the same thing They will never stop they keep getting away with it.And if it is the people I think it is they act as if they are so innocent and everybody treats them as if they havent done anything. Which makes me think I am as bad as them for not saying HEY STOP you dont treat folks like that .

Having read Wendy's thread first, and replied. I am relatively new to GR(March 05). At first not using the threads, but eventually looked through them all. Generally all the people who have helped me in the past seemed to have been very willing and helpful. Have not really been chatting on the boards, but have followed a few threads, but felt that I would be intruding, so never replied. Over the last couple of months, when I see an interesting thread I have been adding a reply, but am very cautious. Having now read both Wendy's and your thread Maz, I will be even more cautious. Are these people still using the boards? Can they not be reported? Anita

I think its really sad thet people are like this, I'm assuming that these people are adults not teenagers in the playground? They need to grow up and get a lifr, these boards are meant to be fun and informative not an excuse to make people feel upset, theres enough of that in the real world without having it here. Good for you Maz, you're brave and a bigger person for standing up to them...go girl! Laura xx

The problem Viv is that some of the newer people on here, myself included (new to the boards only this March) don't know who these people are...if they are so devious how do you know who to talk to and who not, yes I agree some you get on with others you don't but people can SAY anything and make you believe them to be caring people. Maz is obviously a lady that speaks her mind but probably now feels she can't be as free with her speach as she would like.....It's like living in the shadow of BIG BROTHER!!!!! I think now I am pleased that not many here have actually noticed me!!!! I felt sad about that but perhaps now I am glad!!!!!! Jacquie on her own, byherself, Storm Watching....... xxxx

I have come to the conclusion that, after reading all the comments here, there is a majority of wonderful, caring, helpful people on this site. Unfortunately, there are a very small insidious minority who enjoy causing misery and havoc whenever they can. They prey on others who may be ill, weak or low in spirits. They incite mistrust and conflict and then run and hide. Like most people on this site I abhor bullies, cliques, bigots and troublemakers of any kind and beleive we should treat them with the contempt they so rightly deserve. Sorry, rant over! Viv

Maz, this was a very brave thread to put up. Well done and I respect you for it. If more people took notice and refused to join in the cliques (and MSN has a lot to answer for - and has right from the start three years back) there would not be so much nastiness on the boards because bullies never can stand alone. I still say there are more nice people than the other sort on here, many of them on this thread. So much good has been done over the past year with Pink and Gaynor raising so much money, and all the love generated by Gaynor that hopefully the good can overcome the bad. We have to remember that the boards are open to all to read, members, non members, past members - members of other sites etc so plenty of chance for 'stirring' things. Please everyone, before you press the send button, read what you have written to see how it sounds, will it inadvertently hurt anyone. And to those who send hurtful e mails via this site, think... what goes around comes around - you may need friends one day and one place you can be sure to find them is on these boards, don't alienate people or they wont be there for you.. Again Maz, best wishes, I am pleased that you decided to leave the cliques alone, you don't need them you are funny, witty and clever enough to stand on your own Ann glos

Hi again Maz... think my answer would be the same as my granddaughter ( who is VERY SPECIAL NEEDS)....... 'Whatever,,,,,, talk to the hand cos the face ain't listening' People like these don't like it when they are ignored...... Much love and respect to you Maz... Anne :)))

Well Well see the perbitraitors are working behind the lines again sending nasty mail through the back door so no one can see it. How low life to do this Linda

Maz, Just seen what you said about mail if you are getting nasty stuff well thats ridiculous report it to GR straight away. Please don't let anyone get away with it. Pat x

Hi Maz You and I have been around late at night for many months. I have seen lots of things happen on the boards like you have, things I agreed with and obviously things I disagreed with, posts being put up only to be deleted after a heated argument or disagreement some we would be involved in sometimes agreeing but other times we would be in total diagreement with each other. I didn't like some of the things you said like you wouldn't like something of the things I said. We have had fun like with your quizzes but at times I would be upset by what I saw, I often would say so too. Over those months people have come and gone, people we may have thought of as friends on here, others we saw as enemies but we are still around at night. I sometimes got the bullies and the bullied mixed up, sounds ridiculous but it did happen. I would like to apologise to you Maz for misjudging you many months ago. I admire totally your ability to stand up and say you were wrong, and to apologise for things you have done. Respect to you Maz and here's to us having more fun than arguments (although they were never arguments of our making) here in the future. Love Pat x

Maz I don't know you that well but you seem nice to me so good on ya girl and if ya getting hate mail forward it to GR Julie xxx

Maz, are you getting nasty messages? send them to GR!!!

Queue the hate mail!! Go get a life!!

Well said Maz. I tend to be one of those who stay quiet unless someone close to me is affected and then the gloves come off. I am probably over sensitive and worry too much. At the end of the day there are a few on here whom I trust completely and most people I prefer to think the best of. That might leave me vulnerable and certainly means I'm naive, but I've always been inclined to think that if you see the best in someone then the best is what you'll get. Daisy (one of life's Pollyannas!)

Mags, From what I've seen of your posts, you've no need to worry what anyone says about you. You're friendly, witty, amusing (Whoops! Nearly said 'funny'!) and helpful, and, as well as keeping Chatston going, etc, you organised a fantastic Meet that many people enjoyed. I know it's not nice to have nasty things said about you behind your back (Lord knows how often I've had that!), but here you have a choice as to whether to read what's written. Anyone who treats you badly can be avoided, and anyone who abuses you verbally can be cut off. It leaves a nasty aftertaste, but you're the sort who can move on and leave all that behind you. You have many friends on GR (Hope I'm included!) - stick with them and ignore the others. CB >< XX

Well done Maz, very bravely put. I sit here talking to some ingored completely by others and I have come to realise what is going on. It is so obvious most of it there for all to see..... Jacquie x

takes a big person to own up and apologise, i admire you for being so honest xxx

Maz, I had no idea all this bullying was going on. I hop in and out of threads and don't see a lot of the nastiness that is obviously going on. I have already added to Wendy's thread along the same lines. I admire your honesty and it takes a BIG person to apologise in public like you did. Good on you love. Jean x.

Hello Maz, I read Wendy's thread before yours, and here I am. As I said on her thread, I was shocked to read what she'd told us, but it needed to be said. No, I don't agree with your neck being on the line; thanks for having the guts to tell us. x

CB - I do care if people are being spiteful behind my back - It's just that I am not about to change because of it. I'd hurt the same as anyone else if untruths were being spread about me but what could you do? - Absolutely nothing. If you don't retaliate - 'they' say that they 'must have hit the nail on the head' - and have won If you do retaliate - 'they' say that 'she protesteth too much - so there must be truth in it'....and they've won There are two people I trust implicitly on this site. Other than those two I have learned not to trust anyone. Magsxx