General Chat

hiya kb thanks for this . i am a very trusting person and i thought a good judge of charature,i have been to a meet up. but took my hubby cos he would not let me go on my own.he always looks on the black side of thing. i have met some lovely people on here and in real life.and i will never speek to a woman on here till hell freazes over . cos of her nasty actions invoving deacent people x

karen i totally agree ive met some lovely people off here and another web site . but would be devastated if my girls went to meet anyone of the internet. All my meets have been at meet ups except for one person who i went to her house im glad i took that risk as she is now my adopted mom. i also agree there are people out there you can not trust i also now that i cant rely up on gut feels as ive been wrong on serveral occassions jen in staffs

The first gr member i met though was on my own and i went to their house! She was great though. I knew we would get on.

Karen Until i read this thread, i hadn't really thought about it as everyone seems so nice and alot of people already seem to have met up in the past. Sometimes you do tend to forget that whatever you say is open to all. I will be checking myself in the future. Annie xx

I know this sounds weird but I have never planned to meet a GR member on their own on our first meeting.... its always been within a meet of others and then I judge whether I would like them to know stuff about me that isn't published on these boards (yes your hair would curl!! LOL) There are a couple of members that I would trust with my life as they are now my friends but there are also members I have met who I am more wary of than when I first chatted to them on the boards! I trust my own judgement and always go on my gut reaction. Diana xx

I have been lucky. I went to a meet organised through another website off the internet and everyone there turned out to be normal. I think its the luck of the draw but just use your commonsense.

Have you gone on to meet someone from gr then Karen who hasn't turned out how you expected?

Have to admit that each meet I have been to I went with my husband. I did meet up with a couple of members who i had been chatting to at different times, then two of us met one other. but each time we have arranged meetings it has been in a very public place (i.e. a cafe in a shopping area or a cafe in a garden centre.) You have to half obey your instincts, take reasonable precautions and be sensible. Ann Glos

Everything ok Karen? You are absolutely right of course. I would be horrified if my kids did it yet I've done it myself! I arranged to meet somone from another genealogy site as we lived close together and had got on very well in the chat room. Fortunately she turned out to be exactly the person she was on the net, but in hind sight it was a daft thing to do! lol. Jeanette x

Have got to admit that when i went to first meet up I made sure several people knew where I was going, who i was meeting and when i would be home!!!!!!

I think it is important to trust, but be cautious..... BC

I met a GR member in the queue at Live8 on Saturday (planned meeting) but there were 150,000 other people there I didn't know so I guess that was a safe first meeting. Anyhow she is really nice and we all got on really well so my tale has a happy ending. I guess you just have to take a leap of faith sometimes and realise that you may land on your feet and you may land flat on your back. Sorry you had a bad experience though! Hope you are ok. Julie xxx

There was a person that wanted to do the GB relay (not in my group) who happened to mention it to her husband , who forbid her to take part. He wasn't having her go off and meet someone she knew nothing about, that she had 'met' on the internet. TRUE FACT Jess

Karen, are you okay? email me, please. :-) Joy

Well i will openly admit that i have been fooled!! Karen

Little KB LOL not much happening on the boards I myself was lucky to get back here tonight I was thrown off while reading and answering a thread on tips, never got to answer it as I couldn't be bothered writing the whole B. thing out all over again, anyway many are not around so things are real quiet at the mo :-( Don't think its a case of Coventry. Pat x

Hi Karen, Haven't been around too much, was checking the tips board when I saw this. Hope you are ok? I totally agree with you so many times I have been astounded at the level of trust people put in others they have only communicated via the internet, as you say we would be mortified if our kids did it, as we teach them to protect themselves then the parents fall into the same trap. I am careful to an extent, but once you communicate anything here on these boards its for the World and his Misses to see people tend to forget that and eventually all the little bits we all give can be picked up and eventually someone can have a complete profile of others, its scary. Pat x

OK??? How far is Coventry from Newcastle??? LOL Karen

How many of us would be mortified if our children said they were going to meet someone they were introduced to via the internet??? Then again, do we think we are all adult enough to handle a meeting of strangers??? Are we kidding ourselves as adults that we are capable of judging folk we have met on line??? Your opinions greatly received!! Karen

How many of us practise what we preach to our kids??