General Chat

I married my OH cos I couldn't envisage life without him....................and he asked!!!!!lol We're still together so I made a good decision (in my eyes) Stel.xx (pass the bucket) lol.....I must be feeling soppy for once!

On the other hand, what does being 'engaged' mean to you? Being engaged used to mean a definite commitment to getting married. I got married, but I was never 'engaged'. nell

thanks christine!!

Lynda...i came from a broken home.......my parents seperated in 1970 and it was difficult to explain to other kids at school that i didn't have a dad until my mum remarried.......then it was 'why's your mum got a different name to you?'....... I think nowadays its common place. I have 2 daughters who have my surname. Me and my girlfriend are from broken homes......so we both think the same about marriage. Nick

my thoughts excactly christine! but unfortunately some people have narrow minds and the thought not in so many words has been expressed on the genral board a few times!!

i do think it nice and a little old fasioned that he wants me to have name and i did sugest that he took my name (as hes more apart of my family than he ever was of his own) but he just laughs!! it doesnt help when there are still people in this world who think if your not married your child is a bastard and i would never ever want my daughter thought of in that way!

Call me old fashioned, but I think it is rather nice that men still want to share their name with a lady. It used to be called 'the protection of his name', and we can all do with that. Perhaps you could get married and share your name with him i.e. he takes on your name!!!! It does happen Or you could hyphenate yourselves. Seriously, it is actually far easier to function in the world of bits of paper if you are married. It is also easier to refer to your husband/wife than use the term partner, significant other, boy/girl friend (ok for teens in the 1950s and 60s, but not 'cool' now)other half - nice but not very good on official forms etc. Husband and wife are good old terms that are understood by everyone. Officials know where you are at, as it were. Speaking as one who has had quite a lot of names, birth name, adopted name, first marriage name, second marriage name, I can tell you when form filling, that there is a lot in a name. Anyone who asks 'what's in a name?' should just try having to explain so many.

No! A marriage is only a piece of paper, and a piece of paper doesn't make a successful relationship.

jill..........i know what you're thinking.......'he doesnt look a day over 25!' i started young.......lol

hi helen, emma has her daddies surname (i thought that was the 'done thing') he just thinks i would look better if we all had the same name!!

24 years!!!!! omg

Lynda I lived with my husband for nearly 13 years before we got married. 16th wedding anniversary coming up in August. Does your son have the same surname as you or as OH? I'd say that judging by the school where I work, where many children have parents who aren't married (at least, not to eachother), where lots of married women retain their maiden names for work purposes, many parents are divorced and some of them in same sex relationships, children who have two parents with the same surname are probably in a minority. nell

me and OH have been together 8 years engaged for 6 have lived together 3 and have a 2 year old and now he wants to get married!! i say if its not broke dont fix it! he thinks we should all have the same surname for when little one goes to school!!!

i've been with my girlfriend for 24 years.......... so no.........not really.........

I think they innoculated me at school against it ...........

yes, but it's not the be all and end all

hmmmmm well yes generally do!!! just not my marriage!! lol well not now anyway lol

lmao what are yous lot like???

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