General Chat

surely everyone knows who I agree with!! Lynda, Zoe, Deanna, David - I'm so predictable! Don't the children get a trial stay with their prospective adoptive parents? They aren't just handed over without any prior contact. I think they ARE asked if they are happy to be adopted by them, although obviously babies can't give an opinion. But then again, babies wouldn't know any different, they will just accept and give love unconditionally from/to whoever is raising them, just like any other baby. Maz. XX

I agree with David & Lynda Of course they should be able to adopt children - there are many heterosexuals (married or single) who are incapable of bringing children up in a safe and happy environment. Debby

I'd be interested to know if those who are against gay people adopting or fostering are happy for the thousands of gay people who are bringing up their naturally born children (from former heterosexual relationships) to keep their children :)

I reckon Deanna, Lynda and Zoe have got it just about right. Daisy

I feel that it depends on the child and on the adults. Some people should never be allowed to look after children (foster, adopt, babysit) regardless of their sexual orientation. Some children may actually benifit by having homosexual parents (or even a single parent). Social services have started to reconise that some children do not trust adults of one gender or the other because of circumstances - e.g. sexual abuse (by an adult of either gender), therefore to force the child to live with a heterosexual couple could be harmful to the child. Besides I have a homosexual firend who I think would make a fabulous father - who are we to deprive him of a child (whether biological, fosterd or adopted) and to deprive a child of his love for them. There is no right or wrong in these cases as the world is not black and white but a million shades of gray!!

No idea Jean, I just wondered if the children involved ever get a say or if it is just thrust upon them.

Definitely.....I cannot bear to think of any child being bought up in a childrens home. Wendy at what age would you suggest asking a child. Jean

Have to agree with Lynda on this one. XX

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Haven't read all the replies yet but so far, Deanna, Zoe and Lynda - I'm with you. x

Hi Jean You didn't upset me:) Got my back up a bit but I know where you're coming from now lol

I think if a loving and well balanced couple can give a home to a child I'm all up for it. Lynda you put it so well. Much happiness Debi

I think the well being of the child should be paramount, and all avenues should be explored, leaving a child in a childrens home , however caring must surely be the last resort..........children should have the chance to belong to someone.......Barbara.....

The gay couple who abused the children they fostered, were monsters, not people. Plenty of hetrosexual couples abuse their own children in many ways, that's how there children end up in care in the first place. Lynda.

Jean - there have been cases of heterosexual foster parents sexually abusing children. Do you object to heterosexuals fostering as well?

The WEST's were hetorosexual............... Deanna X

Do the children get a say in who adopts them?

As long as it's the best thing for the kids concerned I haven't got any problem with it - as long as it's not made compulsary lol

I agree with Lynda parents are parents whatever sex they are. The couple Barrie Drewitt and his partner came from the bottom of my Mums street in Manchester they seem to love their children and thats ok by me Davexx