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Mandy

Mandy Report 23 May 2006 22:25

Children of single parent families are in the same boat regarding role models.......... often that's where the extended family come in ............. single people can foster/adopt so they have the same situation ............... Loving stable parents in whatever situation have to be better than growing up in care....... :-)))))))))))))))))))))))

Mags

Mags Report 23 May 2006 22:26

I think that any couple who would raise a child in a loving enviornment should be able to regardless of there sexual preferences. I do not believe that the childs sexuality is at any risk being raised by gay parents. My friend who is a lesbian is raising her daughter with her partner and the little girl has all the posters in her room of all the male pop stars she loves and talks of the boys at school she wants as boyfriends, She has not been affected at all by it. She is a very happy well rounded little girl who is being raised by loving parents. See no problem with that.

The Ego

The Ego Report 23 May 2006 22:26

so if a boy grows up with just his father,or a girl grows up with just her mother.....?????.....sorry I dont get it........a same sex couple as role model.....how is that any different if we talking about 'different to the norm' ?? The positive nuturing affect to a child is what is important here,whether it be an old grandad ,an old aunt,a couple of blokes or women,a younger bloke,a younger woman,a man and wife,a couple unmarried but common law,a couple who have been together for a few years...........any of these are equally capable of being a good influence or a bad influence.

The Ego

The Ego Report 23 May 2006 22:34

' i dont believe that a childs sexuality is at any risk.by being raised by gay parents' quote............ ffs........no wonder the gay community still feel that our seemilngly advanced society still has some way to go... you are making out that being gay is some sort of affliction .....!!

valium

valium Report 23 May 2006 23:12

My friend is gay she and her partner at the time both raised her girls both are very happy and have boyfriends she was lucky as had no family of her own to help her. Val xxx

Unknown

Unknown Report 24 May 2006 10:06

That's what I wondered Sheesh - hard not to take it personally:)) As usual I agree with Alter & Esmeralda, both of whom manage to make their points so clearly & reasonably that they make what they're saying seem blindingly obvious lol

PinkDiana

PinkDiana Report 24 May 2006 10:17

There are thousands of children that currently live in a single sex family, with single sex parents already - its called 1 parent families!! I think a child deserves the love of someone, so why not 2 people of the same sex? xx

Bec

Bec Report 24 May 2006 10:24

I agree with Lynda, Zoe, Deanna etc AND (shock horror) Alter Ego!

PinkDiana

PinkDiana Report 24 May 2006 10:35

This thread has insensed me and I can't move away from it!! Why does having a mother and father make it a better childhood? I have a mother that should never have been allowed to have children..... she's mentally ill BUT I didn't become mentally ill just because she is!! In fact i fought so hard against my upbringing that I am amazingly different from my siblings in my attitudes etc..... Any LOVING person should be given the chance to adopt if that's the route they chose!! Would anyone object to me (a singleton) adopting a child? And yet no-one on here really knows who i am as an individual, you only know what I show you but I don't think anyone would be up in arms if I said I was doing just that!! The word homosexual is a label, but that label makes people no different to the person next to them!! They in fact have more stable relationships sometimes than hetrosexuals!! A skirt is still a skirt no matter what label is on it!! Who are we to judge on what makes a good family unit?

Bec

Bec Report 24 May 2006 10:37

*claps*

~Messy

~Messy Report 24 May 2006 10:44

If everyone had been gay in the days before IVF there'd be no children needing to be adopted....Just a thought....

PinkDiana

PinkDiana Report 24 May 2006 11:07

So is it confusing for a child that has friends with only 1 parent? Should all single parents have their children removed from them to be given to 'normal' parents of a husband and wife? Who causes the confusion in a child's mind? Bigotted adults thats who!!

PinkDiana

PinkDiana Report 24 May 2006 11:12

Why? Should the child stay in a children's home rather than have the love of a parent? My friend is adopted and her father died when she was 12 - should she have been given back to the state to be dealt with because there was no longer 2 people to love her?

Unknown

Unknown Report 24 May 2006 11:12

Perhaps 'these' children may also grow up to be well adjusted young adults. More accepting and tolerent of difference, more compassionate, less critical and judgemental of those who don't fit into the classical stereotype boxes.

Bec

Bec Report 24 May 2006 11:13

At a guess growing up with 2 parents who are drug addicts can't be great for children. And I'm thinking alcoholic Mothers and Fathers are going to inflict certain 'issues' upon their offspring. What about violent parents? Have a feeling their children might suffer a slight degree of emotional (physical and mental) suffering. How about families where both parents work? Are the children being emotionally deprived? Is that not neglect? There are no exams to be passed in order to become a parent. Be loving, supportive, understanding and kind and you qualify as a parent in my eyes.

PinkDiana

PinkDiana Report 24 May 2006 11:13

Well said REBS!! xx

Unknown

Unknown Report 24 May 2006 11:16

Louise.........Are gay people also not gods creation? Do gay people wake up one morning and make a conscious decision to be gay? I'm sure they don't really have a choice, that's just the way they are, physiological make-up. Why should they be punished for being different - for want of a better word.

PinkDiana

PinkDiana Report 24 May 2006 11:20

Should we ban disabled people from being parents just because they are different? My parents were both profoundly deaf and i had loads of grief as a child because they spoke 'funny' - didn't do me any harm? Don't gays come from a man and a woman and have straight siblings? Is it something the parents did? For gawds sake they are human beings and can love like anyone else!!

PinkDiana

PinkDiana Report 24 May 2006 11:23

Louise what century are you living in?

HeatherinLeicestershire

HeatherinLeicestershire Report 24 May 2006 11:25

Every child born is special, and deserve to have loving parents/parent. Heather x