General Chat

The gay couple who abused the children they fostered, were monsters, not people. Plenty of hetrosexual couples abuse their own children in many ways, that's how there children end up in care in the first place. Lynda.

I think the well being of the child should be paramount, and all avenues should be explored, leaving a child in a childrens home , however caring must surely be the last resort..........children should have the chance to belong to someone.......Barbara.....

I think if a loving and well balanced couple can give a home to a child I'm all up for it. Lynda you put it so well. Much happiness Debi

Hi Jean You didn't upset me:) Got my back up a bit but I know where you're coming from now lol

Haven't read all the replies yet but so far, Deanna, Zoe and Lynda - I'm with you. x

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Have to agree with Lynda on this one. XX

Definitely.....I cannot bear to think of any child being bought up in a childrens home. Wendy at what age would you suggest asking a child. Jean

No idea Jean, I just wondered if the children involved ever get a say or if it is just thrust upon them.

I feel that it depends on the child and on the adults. Some people should never be allowed to look after children (foster, adopt, babysit) regardless of their sexual orientation. Some children may actually benifit by having homosexual parents (or even a single parent). Social services have started to reconise that some children do not trust adults of one gender or the other because of circumstances - e.g. sexual abuse (by an adult of either gender), therefore to force the child to live with a heterosexual couple could be harmful to the child. Besides I have a homosexual firend who I think would make a fabulous father - who are we to deprive him of a child (whether biological, fosterd or adopted) and to deprive a child of his love for them. There is no right or wrong in these cases as the world is not black and white but a million shades of gray!!

I reckon Deanna, Lynda and Zoe have got it just about right. Daisy

I'd be interested to know if those who are against gay people adopting or fostering are happy for the thousands of gay people who are bringing up their naturally born children (from former heterosexual relationships) to keep their children :)

I agree with David & Lynda Of course they should be able to adopt children - there are many heterosexuals (married or single) who are incapable of bringing children up in a safe and happy environment. Debby

surely everyone knows who I agree with!! Lynda, Zoe, Deanna, David - I'm so predictable! Don't the children get a trial stay with their prospective adoptive parents? They aren't just handed over without any prior contact. I think they ARE asked if they are happy to be adopted by them, although obviously babies can't give an opinion. But then again, babies wouldn't know any different, they will just accept and give love unconditionally from/to whoever is raising them, just like any other baby. Maz. XX

Thats an interesting point David. I wonder if anyone who knows me thinks i shouldnt have my kids with me now? I also agree with Deanna, Lynda and Zoe.

What confuses me is why sex is such an important issue .................. surely it's the people that they are that counts, not what they do together behind closed doors ............... Most kids aren't really aware what goes on between their parents in private surely ................... and when they reach a certain age they think you are too old anyway............ doesn't that count regardless of the parents gender? :-)))))))))))))))))))))))

It would be crass of me to use an example of two men who have 3 adopted boys saying they seem to be doing fine- how shallow it would be of me to use them as an example to argue in favour. The point is it shouldnt even be up for discussion- a couples sexual orientation is irrelevant in their suitability as parents-their ability to parent is..-but that like any other family is only known afterwards,once the task is undertaken. To bring up examples of abuse is feeding the idiots that sieze on any opportunity to label gays as deviants,ignoring the fact that 95% of child abuse is committed in the home in heterosexual families by family members,and not by outsiders that we see on the news or gay people. What is most important is the right role model,and by that i dont mean some immature chav screaming blue murder at her mite in a supermarket.

Well this is a difficult one. I have very mixed thoughts. I've always defended homosexuals. However, it did make me stop and think when the question of them being able to adopt children came up. I do agree with what many people have already said, the most important thing for a child is to feel loved and cared for. There again, I can't help feeling it's a bit strange for children to live with same parents of the same sex. Where do they get their role model from? There again many children with heterosexual parents have dreadful role models. If a gay couple has plenty of gay and heterosexual friends the children will get the opportunity to meet other men/women to 'use' as role models. See what I mean, I have VERY mixed feelings.

i totally agree with lynda Rosex