General Chat

I know i have offended, i did just the other day, but mine was an opinion posting.......not aimed at anyone. i try not to offend, life is far too short, as well i know. But some times, we cannot do right for doing wrong.

I agree with the point of letting things go over your head - this is what I do - I'm not here to argue, although I could if I had to - I am here to be light-hearted and to meet like-minded people......

I think it's a bit sad when peeps don't seem to care whether what their post contains offends someone or not. We all need to remember sometimes that not everyone has met each other on here, & also that we should stop & think whether we would talk to 'Real life' friends in the same way as we do on here. I for one am very careful to try to make my posts as inoffensive as possible, & if I don't like what someone says I have the self-control to be able to restrain myself from replying in an offensive way. :0))) Joan

Well said Christine, take it from someone who knows just how short life could be. Having had an out of body experience many years ago and knocking at the perverbiale door makes you realize just whats worth sweating over and what isn't. Agree to disagree, look on the bright side, and don't sweat the small stuff. It may sound cheesy but until you've been at deaths door you don't always see the colours just the black and white.

I love a good debate David, but I always say my piece face to face.....so that I can see the reaction to what I am saying.....that is why I find it difficult on here and would not generally involve myself in anything that could be misconstrued.......

My thoughts exactly, Len I'm not sure what's been happening either Christine:) I sort of agree with you;) I can respect people having different viewpoints even if I think they're wrong (mostly lol) but I think life is too short for letting things fester when you think something needs saying! But if you're the sort of person who can let things go over your head and not rumble away, that must be very good for your peace of mind:) Good job we are all different;)

i wouldn't like to think that anyone comes on these boards with the sole intention of upsetting or offending others, what i would urge people to remember is that what you get on here is just words, and sometimes words without tone or body language are easily misinterpreted.

Not at all, everyone expresses themself''s different, as individual's we all have are own opinion's, Lil

I'd rather be damned any day Carol ;) Hi Sally I like the threads where people get a bit passionate about their opinions - all helps you to see different perspectives:) That surprises me, Maggie:) I know you've got very strong opinions and thought you were very eloquent and just said what you wanted to - didn't think you planned so carefully! I do sometimes think that people are looking to take offence and it can happen however well you word something:)

I try not to offend others and am sorry when I do and will say sorry if the offence is justified.. But as it's almost inevitable when only the written word is being used, to worry about it would be futile. There are always super-sensitive folk who will read into a message something that is not intended.....but that is their problem. len

David you need to ask Caherine cos she got the flack. I joined these boards for friendship but dont know whats happened over peeps bein offended. Cazxxx

I think you've hit the nail on the head David - It's the way the opinon's expressed. I may disagree with someone, but don't take it as a reason to get personal. If I think what I may say may be seen as controversial, I tend to think about how I express it, and use 'formal' language. Rather like the above - then the thread tends to die! lol maggie

No, most of the threads that I would post on would not call for people to be offensive in any way to each other. I would be mortified if I thought that I had inadvertently upset someone. I do not easily take offence, most things said on here are said in a light-hearted way. I take politics fairly seriously, and hold certain views, not necessarily set in stone, and I am interested in other people's points of view. On the whole, I am here to enjoy myself, and to watch the witty toing and froing on the board........

a mutual friend, I think lol

In what way affect others Caz? That ain't a bad thing Woody:) But it must be terrifying on here if you feel like that sometimes Sarcasm is my best mate Paul :)

Yeh, I agree with that Jay:) Felicity:) Think we were typing at the same time. As I said to Mags, if it's my opinion I can't do much about it except perhaps learn from the way I've expressed myself.

My worry David is when it affects other people. Cazxxx

Yes, I do worry in case I upset others...I know my opinion is as valid as the next person's...I know I shouldn't let it bother me but it does...

Debs, you never have to worry about foul language with me;)) Mags - but if you've posted something you believe to be right, it's hard to be sorry for it isn't it? That's the way I feel.

I've never seen you be offensive. Strong opinions, yes, but offensive ? no. I'm like Mags.. if I'm adding to a serious thread, I try to get my point across without causing offence. If I think there's any danger of that I just resort to sarcasm instead lol