General Chat

oh yes dave and he even managed to delete all his threads before he left. catherine xx

Hi Kris I do think its down to individual choice which thread you choose to read, if you don’t like a thread move on leave them too it. the problem is the PD brigade they just cant move on and leave others to have a laugh, (PD meaning preach one think do another) they have to spoil it for others, very immature I think, but as I said we are all individuals and have are own opinions on things, if you don’t like it ignore it, Lil

Call me behind the times (I'm a bit late in posting I see) But I think ALL of these threads with sexual innuendo are not appropriate for this site. Regardless of who posted them. I see fitz was lynched the other day for objecting about another thread. Sorry but I have to agree with him. It wasn't appropriate. (*waits to be lynched myself*) And the only reason he was lynched was because the person who originally posted the message was a 'long standing, and respected member'. I don't give a flying fiddly fuff who has or hasn't been here for so long. We ALL have equal rights to post on here as much as everyone else. Can I ask, this site is for people aged 16 and older. Anyone with a 16 year old, would you be happy for your child to read some of messages on here? I wouldn't. - And I've said before, it's much easier to say ignore it than it is to actually practice.

I read the thread in question and must admit I found it very near the mark and offensive Oh, I know I could have ignored it, but lets ask ourselves why we dont ignore such threads ? HUMAN NATURE We feel we must take a look, curiosity gets the better of us....no one would be so sexually personal on a family history site would they ? Yes we are shocked at what we see...but we also know its not the right material for a FH site...general board or not...so we either complain to abuse quietly (as is our right if we see something which offends us) or we admit we have mailed abuse, or we complain on the thread, then get shot down in flames from those who think because as they like the thread/poster they can belittle you and run you down, and that as they are not offended, then 100% of the board shouldn't be offended either. What I find funny is, many people found some very distasteful jokes hilarious which were posted in recent months. Some of these were very crude and near the mark. OK in a personal email between friends, but not on the board where there are many different people from different backgrounds to offend. Anyone who complained was shot down in flames because they did so. (Again I hear cries of 'If you dont like it...dont read it..') That statement doesnt make the offensive / distasteful material right though does it ? I saw Grampa Jim's thread yesterday I thought its initial posting was a bit rude...but I appreciate it was a ploy to 'Make you look ...make you stare...' I watched as Fitz got shot down in flames yesterday...it wasn't nice...he had an opinion and voiced it...to his downfall. I saw some very nasty posts concerning him ...all I can say is shame on you who were nasty via pm and on the board to him...all because he dare have a differing opinion to yourselves. That I find more offensive than the distasteful threads combined I suppose I will be now jumped upon for having this opinion...so Ive got my tin hat on, and at present im hiding behind the sofa in an undisclosed location :o))))))))))))))) Have a great day everyone Elaine x

OMG! Elaine, me and you agree for once! :-)

it's also a very cowardly thing to stir up trouble amongst other members, keep putting your two pennies in on the thread, to stir up more trouble, then sneak out the back door and delete your posts before GR see it cos you know they will delete it you will get smacked wrist. catherine xx

Actually Elaine, I totally agree with you. very well put and to the point. :))

I would go one step further and say that the women who encourage the poster by replying to his questions are just as much to blame.

Yep, I agree with you also there Batman.

you do have a point Batman, me for one will defo not be going there again. catherine xx

Maybe we don't all have the same sense of humour, and some people are offended by things that others wouldn't bat an eyelid over - and we all need to remember and respect this. However, I think there is a stark difference between the obvious humour that was the intention in (for example) Grampa's thread and some of the other threads. Human nature says 'turn the page and have a look' and what you have in Grampa's case is Carry On style humour. Maybe not to everyones taste, but it is their absolute right to express their views in whatever way they deem appropriate. (Fitz - I'm not getting at you here - you didn't agree and in my opinion went the correct way about things). But then the other threads - and especially the one's referred to earlier. They have absolutely no place on a discussion board such as this. A joke, for example, about stockings and suspenders is one thing, but to start asking personal questions is wrong. There is a time and a place - and here is not the place!! The nature of some of these posts makes me question the motives of such a member. I think members need to think very carefully before adding to threads and giving any personal details. Please please please be careful!

A huge round of applause for Tony. catherine xx

Tony I have to say I totally agree with all your comments............. I deleted my own comments from one the threads in question when I saw it was turning into something less funny than initially. It all smacks of someone getting cheap thrills to me!

I did the same Anne. I saw a few more strange threads from the same person and decided there was something a bit odd going on.

'And the only reason he was lynched was because the person who originally posted the message was a 'long standing, and respected member'. I don't give a flying fiddly fuff who has or hasn't been here for so long. We ALL have equal rights to post on here as much as everyone else.' I so agree with these sentiments, Paul

Ah Tony - I have just re read and seen your closing comment - which I think is very unfair !!!! The new person was introduced in good faith by said member - said member cannot be held responsible for a complete change of personality - which I myself have noticed having had early contact with the newer member !!!

what does it matter............as he was so brave he's deleted all his post's ........so he mustn't have felt them right anyway.....

I agree Anne, what that person does is not the responsibility of another member. but Anne if you read the original post by said member, introducing said new member it started to go downhill on day 1 really, and has steadily declined ever since. catherine xx

Could it be possible that GR has deleted said posts from this member - maybe somebody has reported him and GR agreed with everything that has been said and here. Hopefully said member has also been banned.

I remember him being introduced, said he was a shy person haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa