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Welcome to the Genes Reunited community boards!

The Genes Reunited community is made up of millions of people with similar interests. Discover your family history and make life long friends along the way.
You will find a close knit but welcoming group of keen genealogists all prepared to offer advice and help to new members.
And it's not all serious business. The boards are often a place to relax and be entertained by all kinds of subjects.
The Genes community will go out of their way to help you, so don’t be shy about asking for help.

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Member Since: March 2003 Posts: 26,286 Send Message	ArgyllGran	Report	16 Oct 2021 15:34
	As far as I can see, there have only been helpful suggestions and no negativity from the helpers on your threads: https://www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards/board/military_chat/thread/1397660 https://www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards/board/ancestors/thread/1397769 https://www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards/board/military_chat/thread/1397659 https://www.genesreunited.co.uk/boards/board/ancestors/thread/1397768 None of the helpers are related to you. Your relatives are very unlikely to look at this site unless they have an interest in researching their ancestors.
	Researching: Old genealogists never die.....they just lose their census.
Member Since: May 2006 Posts: 7,005 Send Message	nameslessone	Report	15 Oct 2021 17:25
Member Since: May 2006 Posts: 7,005 Send Message	I am sorry you feel like that. If you had said you had done a lot of research already but were stuck I might not have assumed you didn’t have any knowledge of other sites. Many people come on here to ask for help without having done any research themselves. How are we to distinguish between the beginner and the experienced. Why would you assume that relatives would not want to hook up - they would have to find your postings but how would they know to look.
Member Since: November 2003 Posts: 28,261 Send Message	KathleenBell	Report	15 Oct 2021 16:57
	It is helpful if you look at the headings of the different boards. If you are looking for living relatives then try adding any request you may have to the "Find Living Relatives" board. Kath. x
Member Since: January 2003 Posts: 49,504 Send Message	Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it	Report	15 Oct 2021 16:51
	It’s very unlikely any relatives would see your enquiry and make contact The site doesn’t work like Facebook Think you may have been advised to look in members trees to see if anyone has a connection? Folks on here are members like yourself with subs to other sites and will try and find info for you It’s always good to be proactive yourself and look for records on free sites like freebmd I responded too on your other enquiry and it looks like your info may not tie up You haven’t responded to the posts People do spend time and use of subs they subscribe to to try and help Haven’t seen negativity tbh
	Researching: Surname Fahse. Germany. Essex .South East London My avatar is one of our wedding photos of 1957
Member Since: December 2008 Posts: 5,371 Send Message	Florence61	Report	15 Oct 2021 16:39
	Hello Sheriden Welcome to the boards. There are many helpers on different boards who are always willing to try & find ancestors etc but when it comes to living relatives, its a little bit more tricky. Say you are looking for an aunty and you put the details on a board. The chance of that aunty seeing your post is quite slim unless she is a member of this site. Therefore your best bet would be to look at social media FB, twitter etc as you may have more chance of finding them.You could pay to view the electoral role and try to trace them that way. So in short the chances of your rellies looking for you on this site are very slim. Most of us try looking ourselves and when we have exhausted all the usual sites etc, then we ask the helpers. I wish you well with your searches. Florence in the hebrides
	Researching: house/hampshire prophet/cheshire skinner/kent
Member Since: October 2021 Posts: 7 Send Message	Sheriden	Report	15 Oct 2021 16:13
Member Since: October 2021 Posts: 7 Send Message	I am new to this site but have been researching my family history and am glad I came across this site. What I didn’t realise was people could be so negative. I have put a few threads out asking for information as I am looking for living relatives but some seem to think I am after free information from them and to do it myself. I have spent very long nights looking into my ancestry and have found out so much. Maybe I should have stated I am looking for living relatives and not looking for a free ride into my past. Was it naive of me to think that other relatives would like to hook up and find out where we fit in the family? Very despondent now.

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