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Allan

Allan Report 30 Oct 2020 21:43

This thread has turned out to be not so charitable ;-) :-D

JoyLouise

JoyLouise Report 30 Oct 2020 09:44

No address on the cheques, Sylvia, only surname and initials of Christian names.

Often people sending cheques will write their address on the reverse side but I never did that as I knew from experience that the charity would still bank it.

Gwyn in Kent

Gwyn in Kent Report 29 Oct 2020 22:03

Sylvia,

No address shown on our cheques. The name of the account holder( s) is printed towards the bottom right of the cheque, but it may just be initial and surname, if that is the name that has been recorded for that account

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 29 Oct 2020 21:57

Joy .................

do your cheques not have account holder name(s) and addresses printed on them???

Here, a name and address has to be on the cheque, upper left corner, either pre-printed or handwritten on, or it can (mostly WILL) be refused by the merchant, or whoever the account holder has issued it to.

Bobtanian

Bobtanian Report 29 Oct 2020 18:54

A friend of mine died recently,,and as his NOK lives a hundred or so miles away, I have access to his flat,

positively amazed at the various letters he gets still from charities...and others!!
whether he actually supported them, I don't know....

nameslessone

nameslessone Report 29 Oct 2020 10:48

I think I’ve done it both ways. give a charity a hint of an address and they will be onto you.

When we last moved we took our telephone number with us which was registered with TPS. I then got a letter from a charity I had never supported saying how sorry they were that they were sorry to see one of their long term supporters cutting off telephone contacts from them.
Names thought up names for them ;-)

JoyLouise

JoyLouise Report 29 Oct 2020 10:33

names. several years ago I was laid up for six weeks at this time of year and I sent a cheque to the poppy people - nothing else in the envelope and no address given either.

It worked as I expected. The cheque went through and I had no correspondence from them as they did not have my address.

nameslessone

nameslessone Report 29 Oct 2020 09:32

There are some charities that I am quite willing to drop money into a collection box for, But I won't sign up - so they have lost money.

There is a suggestion that the Poppy sellers won't be out and about this year - if I send in a donation then I am inundated with post from them (it has happened in the past).

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 29 Oct 2020 01:38

JoyL .................

yes, some people do.

The vets who sell poppies here are among the best at that.

OH came home this afternoon and said Poppies are on sale now.

Now, I do donate to the Poppy seller, whether that be the Boy Scout, the Veteran, or, as is happening more often, putting the money and taking the poppy from the box one or other of those have left at the coffee shop so they don't have to be out meeting people.

The vets from WW2 are so old now!

Kay

Kay Report 29 Oct 2020 00:01

Allan, zzz and JoyLouise I agree with all of you. It's disgusting that the Guide dogs have all those amenities , probably paid for from donations. It's bad that such goings on deter people from donating, but it happens and it's a shame.

JoyLouise

JoyLouise Report 28 Oct 2020 11:33

Many years ago, in the 1990s one of my rellies, who then held a senior post in the oldest charity in one of our big cities, told me about this problem and spoke about charity hoppers - people who hopped from top jobs in one charity to another, - how many had gold cards and travelled first class etc. all sorts of things my rellie was not happy about.

I stopped donating and decided to support a local charity by saving and buying a variety of toys, warm hats, mittens, gloves, even warm padded babysuits and taking them into the local office at the beginning of December every year. My daughter joined in, although as well as doing this, she has always had money deducted from her salary every month to support medical research since she started work.

Also, while I was working, once we found out that some of the tin-rattlers were being paid, most of my colleagues stopped popping cash in. The only tins I now pop cash in are the poppy ones because in our area the collectors are older people and children's groups such as scouts etc who pack groceries for you at this time of year.

Sylvia, many years ago when my OH and I landed in Vancouver there was an elderly Poppy Lady collecting at the airport. Naturally, I poppd cash in her tin and we got chatting. She asked where we lived and, when I told her, she responded with 'You're one of us.'

I only ever had that response once before - from a 20+ year-old in Australia.

Some people have the knack of making you feel at home wherever you are. <3

ZZzzz

ZZzzz Report 28 Oct 2020 08:36

We have Guide dogs for the blind down the road from us and it’s massive, there are security guards, and a landscape gardener and goodness how many other staff, it has or had tennis courts and swimming pool yet we have never seen a guide dog. That is why I don’t directly donate to any charity but I do go to the shops because I at least get something for my money.

Allan

Allan Report 28 Oct 2020 00:16

I'd never sign up for a monthly or annual type of donation.

On occasions, when I have been approached and ask to sign up for such a donation I have been amazed that when I've replied "No, but I will make a one-off payment" I've virtually been told not to bother as they weren't interested.

I'll stick with what I know .

I do make donations to my Lodge's charity fund as at least that all goes to the right places :-D

Kay

Kay Report 27 Oct 2020 23:54

The reason I never donate to charity is that I always think so much of it goes to a big, fat wage for some executive. So often, if you ask a charity collector what percentage goes to the actual charity they don't know (or they say they don't)
The second reason is that if you sign up to pay a monthly amount most charities sell your details to other charities (to gain more funds) so you end up bombarded with charity requests.
Sadly it means I don't give charities any financial aid but I do donate clothes etc to Air Ambulance.

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 27 Oct 2020 23:43

Allan .................

the same happens here with annual Provincial telethons, with the same level of celebrities appearing. All the costs are covered by the station(s) involved and all the money goes to the nominated organizations.

Our local newspaper has had a year-round charity for many years that provides money to schools around the province so they can provide breakfast and lunch to children arriving without any, but also "backpacks" to take home at the weekend to help feed the family, plus clothing for kids who arrive in ragged clothes, or without winter clothes and boots. Some of the schools also run some sort of food programme(s) during the school holidays. All the costs of this are covered by the newspaper, every penny goes to the children.

Unfortunately, it seems to be some of the biggest and most demanding organizations that send the least money to those they claim to be helping.

It may surprise anyone who looks into some of them, even places like Oxfam!

We have a "society" here called Value Village, donate unwanted clothes etc etc (just like your charity shops) and they also seem to buy end of season over-runs from clothing manufacturers or whoever. It advertises as "the" place to go to buy your Hallowe'en costume as they have the largest collection, for example. Then they donate to various needy organizations.

Sounds good??

I refuse to go near them after a neighbour (now dead) told me that her daughter was involved as one of the founders (true), and "how well she and her husband were doing, the house they had bought". etc. My impression did not improve some years later when the daughter's husband was accused of taking much extra money in his position as leader of a nation-wide trades union!

That store, now a chain, is still in operation, and my daughter buys some clothes from a branch near where they live as it seems to carry quite a lot of good business clothes that have been donated, despite the fact that she knows how I feel about them!!

Allan

Allan Report 27 Oct 2020 21:19

Just as an aside, Telethon was held last weekend.

The following is an extract from Wiki regarding the Perth event

"Perth
The annual Channel Seven Perth Telethon is run by the Channel 7 Telethon Trust, out of Channel 7 Perth, Western Australia and broadcast statewide through TVW7 in Perth and GWN7. Most of the major media are involved in Telethon including W.A.'s two major newspapers The Sunday Times and The West Australian as well as radio stations Mix 94.5 and 6PR. The two major beneficiaries of Telethon have always been Princess Margaret Hospital for Children and the Telethon Kids Institute. However, each year there are numerous other beneficiaries (in 2016, there were 41 beneficiaries).

During the weekend of October 20 and 21, 2017, Channel 7 celebrated its 50th Telethon in Perth, raising a record A$36.4 million ($10m more than the previous year), which amounts to $13.94 per head of population in WA. This makes Perth's Telethon the highest fundraising Telethon (per capita) in the world. Since 1968, Perth's telethon has raised over A$A$268.4 million (to the end of 2017). The annual 26 hour continuous broadcast runs on a weekend, usually in October commencing at 6.30pm Saturday until 8.30pm Sunday.

A number of international celebrities have visited Perth to appear on the Telethon, such as Michael Jackson, Celine Dion, Harry Connick, Jr., Stevie Wonder, Phyllis Diller, Bea Arthur, Sammy Davis Jr., Tina Turner, Julian Lennon, Whitney Houston, Def Leppard, Elton John (who performed live from the opening night of Perth Arena in 2012) and Hugh Jackman. A number of Australian television personalities and actors also fly across the country for the weekend including stars from programmes such as Sunrise, The Morning Show, 800 Words, Home and Away, The Chase Australia, House Rules and My Kitchen Rules"

This year, despite all the restrictions on International and national travel which meant the big name personalities could not attend, over $46 million was raised.

All of that does go to the nominated organisations.

Caroline

Caroline Report 27 Oct 2020 20:12

I hate the wasted money too when they send cards or magnets or whatever, they're trying to guilt you into sending money. I also don't like the calls where they say can you afford our lowest amount of $100 or whatever it is...well quite frankly no $100 is a lot and I know most aren't giving that much!

SylviaInCanada

SylviaInCanada Report 27 Oct 2020 19:36

There is a site in Canada that we can access to see how much money donated to "a" charity actually goes to where it was intended. They show it as %age of a dollar.

They track hundreds of charities a year ................ which means delving into financial records etc.

It is eye opening to read how much of a dollar does NOT go to the intended place.

I looked at the site a couple of years ago, and it was rare to find any charity where less than 50% was used for support at home. That included paying executives and other permanent and temporary workers, advertising, etc etc. The majority were only sending 20-30% to the intended.

It was horrifying to see, for example, how little of each dollar went to cancer patients or cancer research by such major cancer charities as the Canadian Cancer Society, the (name of province) Cancer Society, BC Cancer Research Society, Diabetes Research, and basically you name it!!

Some of the worst were in fact some of the ones that attract those small donations.

I'm sure that other countries have similar web sites, if you Google.


This is why we now no longer donate to any of the groups we used to, even though we know how important the intended end result might be.

We now direct our donations to two groups at the university for the support of students, and we ensure that the donation goes to the actual group not to the university's Fund Raising group. This way all of the money goes to support a student or is used for the project that we want to support (eg, a horticulture student in a certain programme).

Another donation goes to the member-run scientific society that we belong to, and is again dedicated to support for student members of the society, eg contribution to travel costs for their research or to attend a conference..

We also make it very obvious to everyone that a) the donation is anonymous and is not to be included in any list passed on; and b) that any unsolicited call or release of information will result in no further donation from us.

As we are both cancer survivors and have lost relations and friends to cancer and heart problems, I sometimes feel bad for not supporting cancer research, heart society, the blind children in Africa, but until I can know that more than 60% (preferably even 90%) is going to cancer research, the children, etc, then I will not support high paid executives, luxury travel, etc.

ZZzzz

ZZzzz Report 27 Oct 2020 13:34

Trouble is they say for £2 a month it does this that and the other, then after a while they ask you to up the amount because £2 isn’t enough.

Gwyn in Kent

Gwyn in Kent Report 27 Oct 2020 12:12

Allan, I also wonder about use of donations.

Daughters and I used to take part in an annual sponsored walk for charity and registered and paid a subscription online. On the day of the event, when we turned up, we were given a T shirt with the Charity logo and event printed on it. Not dated.
We could have quite a collection to wear now, because there was nowhere on the online form to state that we didn't want yet another identical T shirt.
We mentioned it each year at the check-in desk, but the message didn't seem to get through to the ordering office.
They could have saved so much money.

Another bugbear was being targeted with unwanted mail, when I bought Christmas draw tickets for a different charity. They must have used the details on the ticket stub to bombard me with requests for money. :-|