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Elizabeth A

Elizabeth A Report 13 Oct 2020 20:33

As a 16 year old I looked a little older, well old enough to buy a drink, friends a year or two older, said I wouldn't get away with.
Forward a year or two,( :-D), to last year, Hubby and I were on IOW, and twice in one day went into 2 places, and was only charged the senior cost, Hubby is retired, I'm still under 60, for a little while longer. Hubby was paying and asked for 1 senior and 1 adult both times,

Liz

Elizabethofseasons

Elizabethofseasons Report 11 Oct 2020 19:47

Dear Tawny and All

Hello

Age is really a number.

Some days I feel about 100.

I look in the mirror and poke my tongue out.

I don't have too many wrinkles but a healthy sprinkling of grey mixed in with my red/brown hair.

If you have your health and are at peace with yourself, this reflects in your face.

Forget about age and just concentrate on living in the moment and enjoying life.

Take gentle care all
Love Elizabeth, EOS
xx

JoyLouise

JoyLouise Report 11 Oct 2020 19:09

Ha ha Brian. The last time my daughter and I went to London for a few days one young man gave me his seat on the underground and the guy sitting next to him promptly gave up his seat to my daughter and she was not even 40! I always tell her that it was the charming way I gave my thanks that got her a seat too and not her big blue eyes and blonde hair!

Tawny

Tawny Report 11 Oct 2020 18:38

I always saw my grandfather as old even though he was born in 1934. We went to the races to celebrate his 70th birthday and he struggled to get around. My father in law was born in 1950 and so has a number change birthday in November. By comparison to my grandfather my father in law is youthful. A few weeks ago he and Mr Owl were lifting 8 sheets of plasterboard at 25kg each out of our bedroom and down the stairs. He has also built all the skirting boards, facings and door standards in our flat from scratch this year.

Your health definitely affects how much you can do as you get older but I also wonder how much your frame of mind affects it. Less than 10 years after my grandparents married my grandmother ran off abroad with another man (though she came back after a few years) leaving my grandfather holding the children. My grandfather was an angry and bitter man who asked us as children if we ever saw grandmother. We had it drilled into as children to say no even if we had.

My father in law on the other hand met my mother in law when Mr Owl was 6 years old and mother in law had been widowed for 5 and a half years. They are still together now and enjoy a pleasant family life to this day.

BrianW

BrianW Report 11 Oct 2020 17:45

My Uncle Jim (mother's brother) was a year older than my father but had always seemed much older.

On the other hand I was most put out to be offered a seat on the London Underground when I was in my early fifties.

Andysmum

Andysmum Report 11 Oct 2020 16:39

As a teenager I looked a lot younger than I was and could go half fare on the buses until I was past 18.

Now I look more my age and, like my mother, my hair went grey very young. When I was about 50 I visited my younger sister in Canada and was introduced to a friend who told her "you are lucky that your Mum is able to visit you." Sister was mortified. I was slightly taken aback and trying not to laugh. :-)

nameslessone

nameslessone Report 11 Oct 2020 14:57

Last year whilst getting my flu jab the Practcie nusrse said I was too young to have it Cue :-D :-D
This year said I don't need to ask if you've had this before - I've been giving you this for at least 10 years

:-S

Dermot

Dermot Report 11 Oct 2020 14:07

'Backhanded' compliments continue to be used even in Parliament.

I'm as old as my tongue.

Barbra

Barbra Report 11 Oct 2020 14:00

Agree about being mentally fit that is great at any age young at heart be yourself it's who you are that matters don't worry be happy you do get knock backs illness but that's life be positive & count your blessings I do every day :-D

JoyLouise

JoyLouise Report 11 Oct 2020 12:13

Keep mentally and physically fit, Tawny.

In my opinion, they matter more when you're in your late seventies.

Tawny

Tawny Report 11 Oct 2020 12:00

At 18 I looked old 25+ but now at 36 I haven’t aged particularly since and I still don’t dye my hair.

My mother in law had to check with her son Mr Owl how old my mum was as despite being 61 she passed for 10 years younger and my dad again at 66 does not look his age either. My father still has no wrinkles and some of his natural hair colour on top though his beard and moustache are completely grey. I hope I age as well as they have.

JoyLouise

JoyLouise Report 11 Oct 2020 10:41

I laugh to myself when people say you don't look your age because I bleedin' do! There are some serious and serial flatterers around, I think!

I am lucky because age has never been an issue for me and I have always enjoyed excellent health, thank goodness. I am still active and supple, can touch my toes easily from standing or from sitting on the floor with straight legs, can do knee-bends, dance (the active not gentle kind) about twice a week for an hour non-stop, can get up and down a stepladder with no difficulty, and (up to covid-restrictions) still found that young men (as they did when I was young) held doors open for me, gave me their seat and let me jump bus queues - more out of pity than passion now, but they still got a thank-you and a beaming smile from me when they did so.

My mind is still active too and I am still quick at figures - but that runs in the family anyway so if I ever slack off, I expect one or more (siblings, children or grandchildren) to tell me to buck up my ideas! The same with my grammar (slang apart, of course). As we have a good range of abilities across the family it keeps one on one's toes too.

All of the above I put down to two things. Good genes (luck of the draw) and the fact that Mum fed us well, making sure that we all ate the same food as our parents. It was only when I was much older that I found out how few families ate every meal together and, in particular, how few families ate as many salads as we did. I was in my teens and it quite surprised me. It shouldn't have because everyone is different but I was still taken aback.

I still love chocolate though! :-D :-D :-D

AnninGlos

AnninGlos Report 11 Oct 2020 08:40

I am sure Genes help, I was always told I didn't look my age until a few years ago. I am 80 now and normally don't feel my age. But reasonable health helps as well. My OH is 82 and, until the end of July looked much younger and was playing 18 holes of golf once or twice (sometimes three times) a week and always working in the garden,. then he hurt his back which has not got better, then he got headaches, which have not got better. Now he struggles to walk unaided around the house and looks more 92 than 82 and the garden is worrying him because it is autumn and there is a lot to do and he is in pain. And I am sure I look older than my age now because of all the extra things I have to do (he can't even put his own socks on), and the worry over him.
So don't worry too much about what you look like, just hope that you will have continued reasonable health to allow you to continue with what is for you, your normal lives.

maggiewinchester

maggiewinchester Report 11 Oct 2020 00:16

I don't care how old I look - it's the brain power that is important.
If I can stump my 18 year old (very intelligent) grand daughter, I'm happy.

If I can still scare the younger grandchildren (and various dogs, apparently) with a 'look' I know I'm winning! :-D
(18 year old knows the 'look' is something I can't help, so now takes the mickey)

Apparently (so my children informed me, when in their 30's). when annoyed, my eyes swivel very fast from side to side.
They'd deliberately annoy me to see this 'spectacle'.

Actually, I also 'shut up' a young man who I was a special needs assistant to at school.
When meeting him as an adult, he was about to tell me something salacious about someone when another person walked in. He said 'I know that look, miss, I'll shut up! '
Shame I can't put 'Can silence people with a look' on my CV!


Barbra

Barbra Report 10 Oct 2020 23:03

Age is a number nothing you can do about getting older I am 74 but told I look in my 60s never wore much make up never smoked as I think this can age your face my Dear late Mum had good complection as did her sister so if you have got good genes your going to age well just be happy in your own skin nothing wrong with that ;-)

Tawny

Tawny Report 10 Oct 2020 22:55

To be offensive but......... One of brownie parents told me I looked really good for 40. I should as I’m 36.

A parent asked me how long I’d been helping out with the brownies? I told her 20 years and the above was her response and I didn’t correct her.

Age is a number and I assume I will feel the same at 40 as I do now as I’m sure I’m still 21 but I would rather my parents don’t tell me I’m older than I am.

How offended would you be?