General Chat

Hayley your thoughts and memories are just beautiful. As you know I never got to meet BC but we had a storm of PMs going ever since she got diagnosed. She was a beautiful person inside and out. she has been so supportive to me since our son in law's sad diagnosis. Her often repeated phrase 'What do they know' rings with me every time we reach a new stage. I would like to say Rest in Peace BC but I can't imagine it, she will be partying now wherever she is.

Thinking of BC today and I agree with Gwynne. Silence on the board at 15.45 today. <3 <3 <3

Thinking of the beautiful ButtercupFields today

Also thinking of her Family and her Dear Friends


RIP BC <3

My thoughts will be with BC's family and friends on this sad day. I have posted with her but never met her but it sounds as though she was a wonderful lady to be with.

R I P <3

It would be a nice gesture if the General Board went silent at 15.45 today.

Deepest Sympathy to BC's family and friends. <3

What beautiful memories you have Hayley , thank you for sharing with all of us . lots of love xx

Thank you for the shared memories.


I remember

BC in the writers group,

BC looked up a birth registration in Dublin for me.

I think of BC, kind, funny, charismatic lady, and I smile. But I miss her already.


If I should die before the rest of you
Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone
Nor, when I'm gone, speak in a Sunday voice,
But be the usual selves that I have known.
Weep if you must
Parting is hell.
But life goes on.
So sing as well.

Joyce Grenfell 1910-1979

When I first met BC in 2009 I loved her on sight,,,,,,,,she did a little jig while holding on my arm in P/boro square to some arabic/russian music,I nearly went on me arris,,,,,,she would have loved to have stopped and shown her skills, :-D :-D,but she had a meet to attend and I dont know of one person there who wasnt charmed by her......even the Viker Biker,,,,,,Hayley and TW fetched her from the station and had to almost run her off the platform,,,,everyone was wanting the shirt off her back, :-D,,,,,My sister was going to London for the weekend and I asked BC something by PM,,,,she said come with them and see me,,,,,,,I couldnt as it was her annversary time,,,,,,,and she offered if I wanted to visit Ireland where ancestors came from she would take me.....last time I saw BC was at another P/boro meet when Daffy came ,,,they both looked a picture of health and thats how I want to remember them both ......looking gorgeous and have left an impression in so many people lives,,,

Feckin &Bloomers will always be BC........
:-D :-D :-D.

Hayley . <3her surrogate girl......

I met BC at the London Meet, but had spoken to her on the Boards.

I had written something about London, and she wrote me a PM asking where I was living. I told her, and we discovered we lived a bus journey away from each other. She asked me to a party she was having a few weeks away.

I thought she was joking, and said 'Yeh, course I'll come!' and forgot about it. She wasnt, and suggested she met me from the bus-stop. I was mortified, I had made arrangements to go somewhere else.

I wish I had gone now, I imagine the party would have been a riot!

Sassy is the word I think best described our BC!

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Thank you for sharing some of your memories of BC Hayley.

I had spoken to her on the boards and through a few pm's, and always thought what a lovely lady she was, warm, full of life with a lovely sense of humour.

Your posts brought her alive for me and now I really wish I'd had the privilege of meeting her. :-) <3

Thank you Pickle Mumo and Mau <3 <3 <3

Mau I am lauhging like a drain when I remember she called to tell me her son was getting married and that my invite was in the post I didnt actually take her that serious as I had only met him once. She went on to repeat the conversation she had with her son over the wedding...and she had rang him to ask what her future DIL Mother would be wearing, she was promtly told the wedding would be different and the only dress code was it was fancy dress.....I can still hear her cries of anguish when she told me in despair " Hayley I am expected to go to my only son's wedding dressed as fecking clown "

:-D

Hi Hayley lovely to see you, thank you for telling us of your treasured memories with BC <3 I know she loved your phone calls and I can hear her voice as you write the words. <3

For me BC was unique, a one off, full of fun and I've never met anyone with quite her zest for life.
I remember the night I stuck 'jewels' onto her high heels for the Indian outfit she was going to wear at her son's wedding. She looked fantastic in a bright green sari and shawl, and with her red hair...a real head turner.

When she was diagnosed she never moaned or wanted sympathy, she'd rather tell a joke or give a witty remark. and she was so kind always thinking of others.

I will miss her and never forget her XX

Aww, that is lovely Hayley.

)))HUGS(((

Prickles. <3 xxx

Hayley, lovely memories, x

I remember when l sent some flowers to BC she sent me a message to say she was overwhelmed that someone she had never met would send her flowers and they had made her so happy as she was off for a scan, why l sent them was she had been so kind to me when my mum and brother were dying and l wanted her to know she was special, x

Now you have got me going again :-(..I was trying to find my pics of the Peterborough meet as I know I had a lovely photo of BC .I remember her arriving at the meet and thinking what an elegant lady .Her lovely hair ,coat and nails to match with a pretty green scarf.I think it was green.
I wish I could find my photos ,as dear Daff was there too .I have a horrible feeling they have been lost ,as others have, in a change over from my old lap top to this one.
Thanks Haley for your memories of BC. <3

How lovely Hayley you had such a precious and dear friend. <3

Beautiful words for a beautiful lady, Hayley. <3

Hayley <3 <3 <3

I used to ring her weekly and we would be on the phone for at least an hour, she’d ask how are you and I would tell her about the family was and then ask after her she would say “ Ohhh so now finally we get to talk about me” but she didn’t like too she would never moan or complain well actually she would but never about her pain it was normally if she had to wait longer then she expected for a hospital appointment or a doctors attitude. After a while I would ring and say “ no lets talk about you” she didn’t say much never went in to detail about her treatment or the next steps. When she was first diagnosed with cancer in 2010 she told she would have the operation but refused chemo treatment when I protested she would say “ and that’s that” I took this many times as subject discussed and there will be no more to be said. We would exchange our news and then we discuss GR for all of 20 secs this was a ritual she was very protective towards GR and the members.

Like many others I adored her company she was genuine kind funny honest charming witty and so very interesting I cannot believe she has gone I will love and miss her BC will be in my heart forever.
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During her last months she became so weak she couldn’t get out anymore, BC was always on the go, she would walk the dog (she died a few months back) in Hyde park she would be out and about meeting friends she even sang in a choir. On her birthday this year I rang her to wish her happy birthday she was so happy that she had made it to another one and also as her son was with her, he had taken her out for the afternoon in a wheel chair and they had been out and about in Hyde park it choked me to know the free spirit had been so cruelly grounded. Her son had brought her the biggest bottle of Prada perfume he could find she loved it and told me about the wonderful smell, a couple of days later I returned home from work to find a parcel from Harrods it was beautifully wrapped and looked so posh I didn’t want to open it, inside was a large bottle of Prada perfume and a lovely note from BC, I rang her delighted but concerned don’t go wasting your money on me, I then told her I parading up and down the street with the unopened parcel to make sure the neighbours had seen it.

The last time I spoke with BC was Monday of last week and it was only for a few minuets and as the called ended I knew it was the last time I would ever hear her lovely soft sweet voice. She text me last Saturday and her final words were get that sticky ready and make it good. Still when the call came early Sunday morning I was shocked and numb and still am.