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well had a good day today went the see the ongologist they are going to start me on chemo tablet program cant risk intravenous becourse of some of the tablets I am on still it,s a start. I thought about writing down things for my son but my writing bad so have brought one of those message things that firms use hand held jobbys so I can add by voice when I feel like doing it. then he can write it in his own way. keep him busy for a while. oh and I cant flipping spell proper. lol

That sounds a great idea to write your like story - it doesn't have to be in chronological order, just jot things down as they come to you. You or someone else can get them in order another time :-)

Michael2 I really can understand what you are going through, just take a day at a time the people around you will love and support you and understand your mood swings. I think writing your life story sounds like a great idea and a wonderful legacy for your family.

Michael, I am glad you got things clear with your visitors and how lovely that you had a chat with your son and had a laugh. Don't say if you have time to write the story of your life, just please try and do it, either jot some notes in a book or even make a recording that can be transcribed later on. It will be such a special gift to him and even to your daughter as well, so that she knows more about the time when you weren't in touch.

Sounds morbid but I don't mean it to, try and talk to your son or write something down about how you want things done at the end. It will make it easier for your son to cope if he's not left wondering whether things he arranges are what you would want and it will be done with and out of the way, so you can get on with the chemo if you have it, or whatever help is offered to give you more time with the family.

Been thinking of you so much and hope today will go as well as possible.

All good wishes

Lizxx

Thinking of you and yours.

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well had a shed load more visitors to day well I told them how I felt and not to stop me doing what I want while I can . I think that done the trick well after they all went my son and I had a good old chat about what I was going to do tomorrow re chemo? if offerd. I said I would have it as I had not peed enough people off yet. the we sat down and talked about my past I think he was shocked at the fact that when I spit from my first wife that I had no were to go and had to live on the street for a number of years, we had a laff at some of the things I had to do just to stay alive. I told him I was very proud of him the way he has turned his life around after he started to go down hill he has a good job and is now married alas no children will be forthcoming. but that aint the end of the world before he went he said I should write a short story of my life for him I will think about that if I have enough time left. so was a good day all round. :-D :-D :-D

Hope you enjoyed your visitors today and allowed them to pamper you for a little bit. xx

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Michael keep smiling we are all thinking of you <3

Michael, I think the fussing is natural. People don't know how to deal with the situation, they maybe feel awkward at hearing your news but are unable to express themselves. they therefore channel their feelings into fussing over you and doing things for you. So, in a way, you end up caring for them. Maybe tell them when they come that despite the prognosis you actually feel fine in yourself and just want to carry on as normal for now. then they will know where they stand. :-) It is difficult for them but I know it is more difficult for you. And it is good to see that you retain your sense of humour. :-)

Glad you can keep your sense of humour Michael. Don't be cross with your visitors, they don't know how to help you so want to wait on you and such, it's the only way they can show they care. Why not enjoy being waited on while people are around or just say, It's ok, thanks, I can manage for now but might be glad of your help later on.


Would you like us to find some frilly knickers for oldies lol ?

Lizx

Is that not just you looking in the mirror Michael :-D :-D :-D ;-)

nah Mersey I have me French maid to do the dusting I just stand back and look at her frilly knickers and wish. I wernt old.pmsl :-D :-D :-D

Michael you can always get your feather duster out and when you have done yours come and do mine ;-)

We all care and understand <3

lol kandj had me marigolds on for that got a load mre people comming tomorrow as well don't get me wrong I do like to see them all. some I aint seen for a long time they are coming out of the wood work. lol. xx
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Keep going Michael and do what you want to do. If you feel like letting off steam now and again, come on here and let us know <3

It's good to moan sometimes Michael. It doesn't alter the situation but it's still good to get things off your chest.
Perhaps your visitors are just wanting to make a fuss of you right now and trying to help but I can see how important it is for you to remain as independent as you can be for as long as you feel able to potter. No need to be a couch potato so just do what you can, for as long as you can. Keep putting the kettle on but remember to wash up after!. xx

well ive had a shed load of visiotrs to day was nice to see the some came a long way . my only gripe was they don't seem to grasp the fact that I am be ill istill must be able to get up an do things for my self . I/e make myself a coffee or a sand wich..other wise I will only sit there and vegetate which will not be good. I don't want people running around after me at the moment that will prob be later on in my treatment I realy need to do things my self till the time comes when I cant. moan over. :-) :-)

I cannot add anything that has not already been said to you Michael, only to say how much I admire your courage and bravery in facing whatever decisions you will have to make when considering the treatment that will be offered to you.

My thoughts are with you and your lovely family at this difficult time.

Jo
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