General Chat

Keep going Michael and do what you want to do. If you feel like letting off steam now and again, come on here and let us know <3

lol kandj had me marigolds on for that got a load mre people comming tomorrow as well don't get me wrong I do like to see them all. some I aint seen for a long time they are coming out of the wood work. lol. xx
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Michael you can always get your feather duster out and when you have done yours come and do mine ;-)

We all care and understand <3

nah Mersey I have me French maid to do the dusting I just stand back and look at her frilly knickers and wish. I wernt old.pmsl :-D :-D :-D

Is that not just you looking in the mirror Michael :-D :-D :-D ;-)

Glad you can keep your sense of humour Michael. Don't be cross with your visitors, they don't know how to help you so want to wait on you and such, it's the only way they can show they care. Why not enjoy being waited on while people are around or just say, It's ok, thanks, I can manage for now but might be glad of your help later on.


Would you like us to find some frilly knickers for oldies lol ?

Lizx

Michael, I think the fussing is natural. People don't know how to deal with the situation, they maybe feel awkward at hearing your news but are unable to express themselves. they therefore channel their feelings into fussing over you and doing things for you. So, in a way, you end up caring for them. Maybe tell them when they come that despite the prognosis you actually feel fine in yourself and just want to carry on as normal for now. then they will know where they stand. :-) It is difficult for them but I know it is more difficult for you. And it is good to see that you retain your sense of humour. :-)

Michael keep smiling we are all thinking of you <3

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Hope you enjoyed your visitors today and allowed them to pamper you for a little bit. xx

well had a shed load more visitors to day well I told them how I felt and not to stop me doing what I want while I can . I think that done the trick well after they all went my son and I had a good old chat about what I was going to do tomorrow re chemo? if offerd. I said I would have it as I had not peed enough people off yet. the we sat down and talked about my past I think he was shocked at the fact that when I spit from my first wife that I had no were to go and had to live on the street for a number of years, we had a laff at some of the things I had to do just to stay alive. I told him I was very proud of him the way he has turned his life around after he started to go down hill he has a good job and is now married alas no children will be forthcoming. but that aint the end of the world before he went he said I should write a short story of my life for him I will think about that if I have enough time left. so was a good day all round. :-D :-D :-D

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Thinking of you and yours.

Michael, I am glad you got things clear with your visitors and how lovely that you had a chat with your son and had a laugh. Don't say if you have time to write the story of your life, just please try and do it, either jot some notes in a book or even make a recording that can be transcribed later on. It will be such a special gift to him and even to your daughter as well, so that she knows more about the time when you weren't in touch.

Sounds morbid but I don't mean it to, try and talk to your son or write something down about how you want things done at the end. It will make it easier for your son to cope if he's not left wondering whether things he arranges are what you would want and it will be done with and out of the way, so you can get on with the chemo if you have it, or whatever help is offered to give you more time with the family.

Been thinking of you so much and hope today will go as well as possible.

All good wishes

Lizxx

Michael2 I really can understand what you are going through, just take a day at a time the people around you will love and support you and understand your mood swings. I think writing your life story sounds like a great idea and a wonderful legacy for your family.

That sounds a great idea to write your like story - it doesn't have to be in chronological order, just jot things down as they come to you. You or someone else can get them in order another time :-)

well had a good day today went the see the ongologist they are going to start me on chemo tablet program cant risk intravenous becourse of some of the tablets I am on still it,s a start. I thought about writing down things for my son but my writing bad so have brought one of those message things that firms use hand held jobbys so I can add by voice when I feel like doing it. then he can write it in his own way. keep him busy for a while. oh and I cant flipping spell proper. lol

Was just thinking Micheal wouldn't it be nice if you told your stories and left them for your so he could hear your voice.

Best of luck with the treatment.

thank you MR MAGOO good thinking but then he might of had enough of me when her was younger nagging him might put him off. lol

Hello Michael,

I haven't spoken to you before, today I read your post. I am so very sorry to hear you have been diagnosed with terminal cancer.

I have had a quite recent experience with my Dad. Sadly, his GP mucked him around for over a year so by the time dad was diagnosed in September, treatment wasn't an option.. My Dad passed away on November 6th. It was a really hard time for all. I can appreciate your visitors 'fluffing' over you. Good on you for putting them straight !!.

My Dad was in and out of Hospice, one service they offered was a volunteer to come and listen to Dad speak, take notes and write down Dad's story that he wanted told to us, the family. We gave the volunteer writer photo's of Dad through his life to go in the booklet. Dad was able to read the draft before he passed away. The finished booklet is a treasure. I can 'hear' my Dad talking when I read the book. One thing I never had the nerve to ask my Dad was if he had any girlfriends before he met my Mum....

One thing I would advocate is to 'talk' to your family , as you are doing. I wish we had had more time to talk with Dad. I think we left Dad to start conversations when he was able and felt comfortable doing. I do wish I had instigated more 'conversations'. I will treasure his written story <3.

Without being too morbid, it is important you tell your family of your wishes. We had to have those talks quite late in Dad's journey.

My very best wishes to you, I hope the Chemo treatment will be helpful to you and keep you well for as long as possible.

A big hug coming to you and yours,

Susan <3