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That's a sick thing to say John ! :-P

Use your emotions appropriately !

Edit.. Someone else didn't like your post either ,cos I didn't RR you.

Errol. Your question that you asked Lesley was what communications trainers refer to as a leading question. The most common example of that is "have you stopped beating your wife?" That was the rather obvious (I thought) point I was making. Not sure who rr'd, but rather a waste of time.

And they will also have to rr this post as well. And next if it continues. Because I will evidence my point with an example if I want to :-)

Enough is enough !!!!

What a sad man John is

GP

pm pm pm

http://redwing.hutman.net/~mreed/warriorshtm/swarm.htm

What is pm pm pm supposed to mean John ?

I think that link you put up had been put up before !

Think the pregnant pause may suggest someone is sending personal messages to decide how best to get at a certain poster, Sandie. That seems common swarm behaviour when one of them has been zapped.

I thought this thread was quite funny, then it turned, then it just got weird imo.:-S Pleased I got an rr for such an obvious example of a leading and loaded question like OP is very fond of if he is attacking somebody. If that rr is upheld, I will frame it on my office wall :-) :-)

No pregnant pause on my behalf if that is to what you where referring John.

I do use the PC for other sites than GR.

No I didn't PM anyone as to ask the question , I have my own mind ...thank you !
I couldn't understand pm pm pm hence the question.

Was not thinking of you at all when I posted, Sandie. Was just trying to answer your post without giving too much ammo for yet another rr.

I hope I answered your question satisfactorily re pm. :-)

Don't have a PM John,tho I am now on the laptop,different e.mail addy but they stillcome thro.

members have no need to send messages between them - they are well able to form their own opinions without resorting to "back up" tactics from other members - I know you deeply upset Errol a while back with a completely unwarranted comment which was offensive in the extreme - you have also done the same to me, which is why I am now very sceptical about everything you post - I don't blame Errol for being upset

A suggestion that one is being "groomed" is appalling

I apologised to Errol and apology was accepted. I used that word on a fun thread with Errol and had no idea what people were on about at first.

I was writing about him being on my side and I was grooming him - just like a parent grooms a child, just like a shepherd grooms his sheep. It is an old and accepted word.

Never in a million Sundays did I use that word in the context of an older male trying to importune a younger male for sex. If anyone ever thought that was the case, they should be absolutely ashamed of themselves and wash their minds out :-P :-P :-P

Hasn't it dawned on you yet, John, that it isn't "a group of friends" who get fed up with you and "swarm" but different individuals, all of whom are sick of your antics?

You haven't been around long enough to know who is friends with whom, I've been here since 2003 and I'm still not sure. However, I have seen members of many different "loose" friendship groups try to make you see reason.

To pretend it's just one group of friends who have become weary of your approach is plain daft.

in the present day "grooming" has unpleasant connotations

Gwynne. No that hasn't dawned on me at all. I do get posts both pro and ante from many regular posters, and I assume they are not of the swarm.

But there have been about 12 posters on here since I began that have hardly ever had a nice word to say - who hunt down my posts and either ignore them or try to attack a wrong word or suggest I must mean something totally different to what I think I have written.

One of the main purposes of their attendance on this site is to have fun and friendship (no problem at all with that) and to hunt down posters they don't like. And get them off chat. That is what I think is reprehensible. Just cos their lives might be a bit awful, why try to bring others down as well.

well I don't "hunt down your posts"

sometimes you post really nice interesting things and I think "He's finally got the message" and then in the next breath you seem to spoil it all be being contentious, which is a shame - I just love coming on here to have a laugh - and for those whose lives might be a "bit awful", the aim is to cheer them up

Paranoia, John.

No one's main purpose is to chase people off chat - well no current members anyway - you can't see that you do anything to rub people up the wrong way, despite all the evidence that you do.

You admit you stir up trouble then moan when you are picked up for it. Stop stirring, stop goading and see how it goes.

Gwynne. How many times do posters say "why don't you leave chat?" "it was fun before you started posting?" you are all over the threads like a rash", "sling your hook". And some really horrible insults too. Sexual pervert, liar, hypocrite, false prophet, fascist among them. And me an elderly and respectable family man with two grown up children and a local preacher for last 15 years.

I do not want to go back and keep a book on who is doing it, when and why. But they will know full well who they are. Someone even said once "nobody likes you or any of your views on chat" Yes I do get very upset at times - then I look at their own posts and think - hmmmm!! Sympathy and understanding required rather than my being upset.

And often, when I have been at my lowest ebb and feel almost paranoid probably, I will get a lovely pm from someone (different people each time who I have never seen post publically) who say "keep on posting. I agree with a lot of what you write" :-) :-)

I haven't seen much of that lately, John, but I accept your word that it's happened.

However, you do need to look to yourself and your own behaviour to see what inspires such dislike.

In general no one loves a trouble-maker and you admit that's what you do. Is that what an elderly, respectable local preacher should be doing?

You can talk and discuss sensibly, I've seen you do it, more of that and less of the winding up, maybe?

Thanks, Gwynne. Good advice. When I wind up in real life I can smile and wink. On here, it just comes across that I am trying to hurt someone or their feelings. I can see that. I have never tried to wind anybody up on Christian thread, that is why I seem to come across as a different person. :-)